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Bid in Lords to overturn move to decriminalise abortion for women

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IwantToRetire · 18/03/2026 21:30

A landmark move to decriminalise women terminating their own pregnancies could be overturned as legislation is considered in the House of Lords.

In June, MPs in the Commons voted in favour of decriminalisation, with one saying it would remove the threat of “investigation, arrest, prosecution or imprisonment” of any woman who acts in relation to her own pregnancy. ...

But, with the Bill making its way through the Lords, an amendment has been tabled to remove the relevant clause. ...

https://nation.cymru/news/bid-in-lords-to-overturn-move-to-decriminalise-abortion-for-women/

Bid in Lords to overturn move to decriminalise abortion for women

A landmark move to decriminalise women terminating their own pregnancies could be overturned as legislation is considered in the House of Lords. In June, MPs in the Commons voted in favour of decriminalisation, with one saying it would remove the threa...

https://nation.cymru/news/bid-in-lords-to-overturn-move-to-decriminalise-abortion-for-women/

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OtterlyAstounding · 22/03/2026 21:56

Imnobody4 · 22/03/2026 21:31

As I've said I think the current law is perfectly sound. I am not unfavourable of illegal late stage abortions.

What I do think, most importantly, is that any restrictions on bodily autonomy should be applied EQUALLY across the sexes, and that if a man cannot be forced to gestate a foetus (obviously not, as he can't do it) and if people are not otherwise forced to give up a degree of bodily autonomy in order to save lives, regarding blood and bone marrow donations, then it is misogynistic to demand that women and girls do so for unwanted foetuses.

That is just about the most bonkers statement I've ever heard.

Why? What about expecting all adults to have the same responsibilities to donate their bodies to preserve lives, is 'bonkers'? Blood and bone marrow transplants are minimally invasive compared to pregnancy, and save lives.

So, why is it bonkers?

(I think you'll find the answer is: misogyny)

Carla786 · 22/03/2026 22:06

MaxandMaggie · 22/03/2026 21:41

So penis envy. Your argument for late term abortion amounts to penis envy. Holy mother of god. Good night 😅

I don't like to say this usually...But..

ARE you a man?

Carla786 · 22/03/2026 22:08

Shortshriftandlethal · 22/03/2026 19:39

Thanks! And yes some contributors don't really seem to want to understand other people's views and perspectives if they so much as diverge from the very particular kind of dogmas which now seem so on trend: of 'female oppression' and 'bodily autonomy'. I dislike contemporary identity politics. It literally reduces people to identity categories in a fixed hierarchy of oppression and victimhood.

I suspect that I have been involved with women's issues and politics long before some of these people were even born...and the stage of 'feminism' that they seem to identify with is something that I went through a long time ago, and have since come to re-assess and reject to a large degree.

Life teaches you as you live it - and now rigid political ideologies that are rooted in idealistic concepts don't seem very useful at all. In fact, like many of us on this board ( which seems to have become quite diluted recently) I've come to reject them entirely. I'd been pre-occupied with life and out of the 'flow' for some years ( more interested and absorbed in photography and urbanism/architecture - and in my own family life) and was re-awakened to the current toxicity and madness of the post modernistic politics of identity and 'progressivism' ( an american import as far as I'm concerned) by the transgender phenomenon.

My degree was in Sociology and Philosophy ( including a module in 'Women's Studies' - before it then morphed into 'Gender Studies' in the 1990s) and I've taught Sociology too.....I'm fully aware of these sort of frames and perspectives ( though they seem very dated to me). Being a photographer taught me that the frame you use to view a situation tends to shape, entirely, your feelings towards it, and your ideas and perception of reality. Change the viewfinder and your perspective shifts entirely.

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Thank you, that's very interesting. I do agree with a lot of FWR but I agree that taking things to a level where certain things are completely unquestionable isn't helpful- and yes, it is related to idpol.

Carla786 · 22/03/2026 22:10

OtterlyAstounding · 22/03/2026 20:55

I think that society does need to balance bodily autonomy against a healthy, functioning society. So actions that impact negatively on the functioning of individuals within the society, by causing harm to them that then spills over onto society at large, do need to be managed socially to some extent.

So - drug taking causes social issues to the individual that spills over onto others around them, and society at large. It's not healthy but harmful to existing people, driving (family) violence, poverty, and crime.

Prostitution is also harmful to society at large, by promoting the idea that women (or people in general, but mostly women) are sexual objects that can be purchased, dehumanising them and again, causing widespread harm. It drives the oppression of women and girls, and misogyny.
(And not all prostitutes feels the Nordic model makes them less safe - personally, as someone with a history of being coerced into underage prostitution in a country where it is legalised, I'm in favour of the Nordic model.)

In surrogacy, once a baby is born, it is sold - a baby is being purchased, not a foetus. Again, this commodifies and dehumanises existing people by placing a monetary price on them - again, it turns people into objects, which is unhealthy for a society. It's also inconsistent, as people can't sell their existing two year old - why not?

I'm not sure why you think forcing people to bear female babies they don't want in an intensely patriarchal system where females have few rights and suffer severe oppression would be a win for anyone - not for the mother, nor the unwanted child. The patriarchal system needs to be dismantled first, and then people will want and value female children.

But freely chosen abortion? That only affects the woman, and the unborn foetus. It doesn't have a wider impact on society for a child to cease to exist before it's born. It doesn't harm anyone else. In fact, it often benefits the woman, her other existing children if there are any, and the people around her. It doesn't devalue born, existing people.
And while late term abortion is to be avoided because of the increased toll it takes on a woman to carry a pregnancy that much longer, and the unnecessary nature of it if an abortion can be procured earlier, I don't think the opportunity to not have an unwanted baby should be taken away from women and girls.

What I do think, most importantly, is that any restrictions on bodily autonomy should be applied EQUALLY across the sexes, and that if a man cannot be forced to gestate a foetus (obviously not, as he can't do it) and if people are not otherwise forced to give up a degree of bodily autonomy in order to save lives, regarding blood and bone marrow donations, then it is misogynistic to demand that women and girls do so for unwanted foetuses.

I agree mainly with this bit late term abortion IS different in that if a woman aborts a late term baby, the baby will definitely die. Whereas if someone refuses to donate bone marrow, there might still be hope for someone else to donate it and save the person.

OtterlyAstounding · 22/03/2026 22:22

Carla786 · 22/03/2026 22:10

I agree mainly with this bit late term abortion IS different in that if a woman aborts a late term baby, the baby will definitely die. Whereas if someone refuses to donate bone marrow, there might still be hope for someone else to donate it and save the person.

There are situations though where no donor can be found, and people die because of it. Even organ donation - donating a kidney or part of one's liver isn't really more invasive than pregnancy.

I do agree that inducing early labour is preferable to abortion, with the baby being adopted out with no option to contact the mother if she prefers, but again I find it hard to stomach a world in which only pregnant women and girls are placed under such restrictions, while people die of preventable causes and no one else is expected to compromise their bodily autonomy to save lives.

Even automatic organ donation upon death isn't expected, out of respect to the dead person. How is that justifiable, but women and girls are forced to give up their living bodies for an unwanted foetus?

MaxandMaggie · 23/03/2026 00:31

Carla786 · 22/03/2026 22:06

I don't like to say this usually...But..

ARE you a man?

No. Did you assumed this because I haven't used enough womany words? Or is it because I dismissed Otterly's bonker's argument using male coded language? Can you think of a better term to describe the argument that we should legislate for late term abortion because we can't make men be pregnant and that's...so not fair? Because when you strip away the bodily autonomy argument which is 'morally inconsistent' , and debunk the equally bonkers assertion that a late term foetus is 'unalive', this is what we are left with. Penis envy. (Oops! I said it again.🤭) Maybe that's an argument that sways you; but I think there are many women, like me, who remain unconvinced.

Carla786 · 23/03/2026 00:37

MaxandMaggie · 23/03/2026 00:31

No. Did you assumed this because I haven't used enough womany words? Or is it because I dismissed Otterly's bonker's argument using male coded language? Can you think of a better term to describe the argument that we should legislate for late term abortion because we can't make men be pregnant and that's...so not fair? Because when you strip away the bodily autonomy argument which is 'morally inconsistent' , and debunk the equally bonkers assertion that a late term foetus is 'unalive', this is what we are left with. Penis envy. (Oops! I said it again.🤭) Maybe that's an argument that sways you; but I think there are many women, like me, who remain unconvinced.

I don't agree with Otterly either on that subject. But I'm suspicious of anyone who uses 'penis envy' terminology. I realise you didn't use it in strictly Freudian way, though.

OtterlyAstounding · 23/03/2026 04:10

MaxandMaggie · 23/03/2026 00:31

No. Did you assumed this because I haven't used enough womany words? Or is it because I dismissed Otterly's bonker's argument using male coded language? Can you think of a better term to describe the argument that we should legislate for late term abortion because we can't make men be pregnant and that's...so not fair? Because when you strip away the bodily autonomy argument which is 'morally inconsistent' , and debunk the equally bonkers assertion that a late term foetus is 'unalive', this is what we are left with. Penis envy. (Oops! I said it again.🤭) Maybe that's an argument that sways you; but I think there are many women, like me, who remain unconvinced.

Yes, because wanting women to have equitable rights and restrictions is 'envy' of 'penises'. I think perhaps you might be suffering from a severe case of dick pandering.

As I said, if people in general are not otherwise forced to give up a degree of bodily autonomy in order to save lives, regarding blood and bone marrow donations, then it is misogynistic to demand that women and girls do so for unwanted foetuses.

OtterlyAstounding · 23/03/2026 04:15

Carla786 · 23/03/2026 00:37

I don't agree with Otterly either on that subject. But I'm suspicious of anyone who uses 'penis envy' terminology. I realise you didn't use it in strictly Freudian way, though.

I have to ask, why are people not being expected to donate blood and bone marrow (or even organs) to save lives then, if lives are so precious that we need to force women and girls to remain pregnant once the foetus is potentially viable (with massive amounts of medical intervention)?

It's a typical pro-life argument - a baby is so precious until it's born that a woman loses the rights over her body past a certain point...but then once it's born, no one cares if it needs a bone marrow donation to survive as a small child, and dies thanks to a lack of suitable donors coming forward.

Why? Because it's not actually about the baby. It's about controlling women.

elgreco · 23/03/2026 07:10

Its active vs passive.
Active: Removing all the blood from a child.
Passive: not donating blood to child.
Active: setting fire to a house.
Passive: not running into a burning building
Active:pushing a child into a raging river
Passive: not jumping into the river to save a drowning child.

Late term abortions are an action. They are not Passive.

Passive would be noticing the feotus dying (not sure if this is possible) and doing nothing.

Late term abortions cannot be compared to refusing to donate blood or marrow to cure a condition.

We all die and from the dawn of time we have passively watched people die. Thats why its not a crime to do nothing. It is in my opinion morally suspect in some cases but watching someone die from a cause you did not commit is not the same as causing the death.

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 07:35

Carla786 · 22/03/2026 17:58

Come on, you're being ridiculously hard on that poster. Haven't you seen the posts where she says she's pro-choice before late term and has had 2 abortions herself? She's not the rabid pro lifer you seem to think. Don't think she's mentioned being religious either (apologies if I'm wrong, Shortshrift)

How am I? I've simply asked her to back up her point that women have a natural responsibility from a certain gestation of pregnancy and why. I didn't call her religious? Having terminations yourself doesn't give anyone the right to tell others when they aren't entitled to bodily autonomy anymore and if she thinks it does she could clarify why. Why is it harsh to ask someone to finish their thought?

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 07:39

Carla786 · 22/03/2026 19:26

She hasn't said she opposes most abortion, and as someone who's had two herself, she's been honest about that. You disagree with her about late term abortion but you both agree abortion should be available in the earlier months

So what is so harsh about asking her to explain the logic of her position exactly? I'd genuinely like to understand why she states that a restriction on women is natural and when exactly that trumps her bodily autonomy. I believe it was shortshrift that originally threw around the accusations that people were being inconsistent and had cognitive dissonance on the subject while her points are examples of both so it would be interesting as it's a discussion forum for her to actually explain that line of thinking so people can understand it.

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 07:42

Shortshriftandlethal · 22/03/2026 19:39

Thanks! And yes some contributors don't really seem to want to understand other people's views and perspectives if they so much as diverge from the very particular kind of dogmas which now seem so on trend: of 'female oppression' and 'bodily autonomy'. I dislike contemporary identity politics. It literally reduces people to identity categories in a fixed hierarchy of oppression and victimhood.

I suspect that I have been involved with women's issues and politics long before some of these people were even born...and the stage of 'feminism' that they seem to identify with is something that I went through a long time ago, and have since come to re-assess and reject to a large degree.

Life teaches you as you live it - and now rigid political ideologies that are rooted in idealistic concepts don't seem very useful at all. In fact, like many of us on this board ( which seems to have become quite diluted recently) I've come to reject them entirely. I'd been pre-occupied with life and out of the 'flow' for some years ( more interested and absorbed in photography and urbanism/architecture - and in my own family life) and was re-awakened to the current toxicity and madness of the post modernistic politics of identity and 'progressivism' ( an american import as far as I'm concerned) by the transgender phenomenon.

My degree was in Sociology and Philosophy ( including a module in 'Women's Studies' - before it then morphed into 'Gender Studies' in the 1990s) and I've taught Sociology too.....I'm fully aware of these sort of frames and perspectives ( though they seem very dated to me). Being a photographer taught me that the frame you use to view a situation tends to shape, entirely, your feelings towards it, and your ideas and perception of reality. Change the viewfinder and your perspective shifts entirely.

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What a load of waffle tbh someone asking you to explain your point is someone who wants to understand your view and perspective but you're not finishing your thoughts or answering anyone's questions just complaining that people don't want to hear them.despite posters repeatedly asking you to expand on your point.

RingoJuice · 23/03/2026 07:42

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 22/03/2026 14:23

You sound ridiculous to keep repeating it this way. Of course it was absolutely that simple and every legal and medical expert that disagreed with you is just too dumb to understand how absolutely simple you find it! Again you showing you have a real disdain for women and absolutely no empathy for a mother being in distress even if you find it unthinkable because you're unable to extrapolate about how your very hard line position on this one particular case would have an impact of many other women who aren't as simply evil as you've decided Carla Foster is and in many evidenced cases were women experience heartbreaking babyloss. You claim to understand the risks of a hard line position yet are incapable of understanding you're doing this.

I take a hard line where it is necessary.

People make up examples for arguments sake, but don’t want to explore real
cases that show that, no, it’s not just sympathetic stories of scared teens with abusive parents or older boyfriends. Sometimes it’s a woman who kills a baby at the late stage because it’s become inconvenient to her relationship, same reason why young children get abused and murdered by their own parents. Utter selfishness.

I mean, did you think she should never have been charged?

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 07:45

MaxandMaggie · 22/03/2026 21:41

So penis envy. Your argument for late term abortion amounts to penis envy. Holy mother of god. Good night 😅

Another misogynist trope on a feminist forum, honestly how many men are on here exactly? 🙄

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 07:50

elgreco · 23/03/2026 07:10

Its active vs passive.
Active: Removing all the blood from a child.
Passive: not donating blood to child.
Active: setting fire to a house.
Passive: not running into a burning building
Active:pushing a child into a raging river
Passive: not jumping into the river to save a drowning child.

Late term abortions are an action. They are not Passive.

Passive would be noticing the feotus dying (not sure if this is possible) and doing nothing.

Late term abortions cannot be compared to refusing to donate blood or marrow to cure a condition.

We all die and from the dawn of time we have passively watched people die. Thats why its not a crime to do nothing. It is in my opinion morally suspect in some cases but watching someone die from a cause you did not commit is not the same as causing the death.

But this definition are you defining pregnancy and labour as passive?

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 07:53

RingoJuice · 23/03/2026 07:42

I take a hard line where it is necessary.

People make up examples for arguments sake, but don’t want to explore real
cases that show that, no, it’s not just sympathetic stories of scared teens with abusive parents or older boyfriends. Sometimes it’s a woman who kills a baby at the late stage because it’s become inconvenient to her relationship, same reason why young children get abused and murdered by their own parents. Utter selfishness.

I mean, did you think she should never have been charged?

I'm really not going to engage with Carla foster anymore with you until you properly engage with any of the other real life examples that have been shared with you that you've dismissed. I already said cases like hers are a complex case and not as simple as you keep repeating and that extrapolating from her rare case causes harm to the majority of women who have had a late miscarriage or stillbirth. I'll engage with you more on her when you actually answer where the benefit of her prosecution was and where the benefit of prosecution was in my friends case? Why did she deserve a longer sentence than many men who commit a violent crime?

RingoJuice · 23/03/2026 07:59

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 07:50

But this definition are you defining pregnancy and labour as passive?

yes, in the sense it just ‘happens’ whereas you must actively seek an abortion.

This distinction matters whether you respect it or not.

RingoJuice · 23/03/2026 08:02

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 07:53

I'm really not going to engage with Carla foster anymore with you until you properly engage with any of the other real life examples that have been shared with you that you've dismissed. I already said cases like hers are a complex case and not as simple as you keep repeating and that extrapolating from her rare case causes harm to the majority of women who have had a late miscarriage or stillbirth. I'll engage with you more on her when you actually answer where the benefit of her prosecution was and where the benefit of prosecution was in my friends case? Why did she deserve a longer sentence than many men who commit a violent crime?

I don’t recall you mentioning your friend had faced prosecution? I only recall you mentioning another friend who had to push back her surgery because she was unexpectedly pregnant?

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 08:04

RingoJuice · 23/03/2026 07:59

yes, in the sense it just ‘happens’ whereas you must actively seek an abortion.

This distinction matters whether you respect it or not.

Ok at least you're finally honest that you don't see pregnancy and labour as something women actively go through and therefore should require their consent especially considering it's side effects and complications, but I am aware many think of women as passive incubators. Thanks for clarifying your position but as you claim blood donation as PPs example is too "active" to be morally required to save a life but you think going through pregnancy and birth isn't...well no I don't respect that, it's a gross misunderstanding of the toll on a woman's body.

ETA and risk to life! Pregnancy and labour cannot be passive when women can die from complications

OtterlyAstounding · 23/03/2026 08:04

elgreco · 23/03/2026 07:10

Its active vs passive.
Active: Removing all the blood from a child.
Passive: not donating blood to child.
Active: setting fire to a house.
Passive: not running into a burning building
Active:pushing a child into a raging river
Passive: not jumping into the river to save a drowning child.

Late term abortions are an action. They are not Passive.

Passive would be noticing the feotus dying (not sure if this is possible) and doing nothing.

Late term abortions cannot be compared to refusing to donate blood or marrow to cure a condition.

We all die and from the dawn of time we have passively watched people die. Thats why its not a crime to do nothing. It is in my opinion morally suspect in some cases but watching someone die from a cause you did not commit is not the same as causing the death.

Active versus passive is a coward's argument.

To borrow from the trolley problem, if I know that I can pull a lever at a control panel beside me and divert a trolley from running over and killing three people, and I stand by and do nothing, am I really any less culpable for their deaths because it was 'passive'?

If I see a child about to toddle off the edge of a cliff, and stand by and watch them and say nothing and do nothing to prevent it, am I really less culpable for their death because it was passive?

Can I stand there, and say, "well, I didn't do anything, why are you all so mad at me?" when the very issue is that I didn't do anything, while knowing what the outcome would be, and being capable of stopping it without serious risk to myself?

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 08:06

RingoJuice · 23/03/2026 08:02

I don’t recall you mentioning your friend had faced prosecution? I only recall you mentioning another friend who had to push back her surgery because she was unexpectedly pregnant?

Yes and why did she? Because without the necessary paperwork there would be a risk of prosecution. This is the third or fourth time in asking you to justify the benefit of that?

OtterlyAstounding · 23/03/2026 08:07

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 07:42

What a load of waffle tbh someone asking you to explain your point is someone who wants to understand your view and perspective but you're not finishing your thoughts or answering anyone's questions just complaining that people don't want to hear them.despite posters repeatedly asking you to expand on your point.

Apparently PP is capable of calling people transphobes and envious of men, but not capable of engaging with cogent counter arguments. I'm not sure the claims of academic degrees hold much water. Or if they do, perhaps PP should get a refund.

RingoJuice · 23/03/2026 08:09

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 08:06

Yes and why did she? Because without the necessary paperwork there would be a risk of prosecution. This is the third or fourth time in asking you to justify the benefit of that?

So she didn’t face prosecution. Ok.

Whyohwhyohwhy26 · 23/03/2026 08:09

OtterlyAstounding · 23/03/2026 08:04

Active versus passive is a coward's argument.

To borrow from the trolley problem, if I know that I can pull a lever at a control panel beside me and divert a trolley from running over and killing three people, and I stand by and do nothing, am I really any less culpable for their deaths because it was 'passive'?

If I see a child about to toddle off the edge of a cliff, and stand by and watch them and say nothing and do nothing to prevent it, am I really less culpable for their death because it was passive?

Can I stand there, and say, "well, I didn't do anything, why are you all so mad at me?" when the very issue is that I didn't do anything, while knowing what the outcome would be, and being capable of stopping it without serious risk to myself?

Agreed, it's illogical to start an argument based on moral responsibility to save lives but then say there's nothing morally wrong or inconsistent with inaction.

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