I think that society does need to balance bodily autonomy against a healthy, functioning society. So actions that impact negatively on the functioning of individuals within the society, by causing harm to them that then spills over onto society at large, do need to be managed socially to some extent.
So - drug taking causes social issues to the individual that spills over onto others around them, and society at large. It's not healthy but harmful to existing people, driving (family) violence, poverty, and crime.
Prostitution is also harmful to society at large, by promoting the idea that women (or people in general, but mostly women) are sexual objects that can be purchased, dehumanising them and again, causing widespread harm. It drives the oppression of women and girls, and misogyny.
(And not all prostitutes feels the Nordic model makes them less safe - personally, as someone with a history of being coerced into underage prostitution in a country where it is legalised, I'm in favour of the Nordic model.)
In surrogacy, once a baby is born, it is sold - a baby is being purchased, not a foetus. Again, this commodifies and dehumanises existing people by placing a monetary price on them - again, it turns people into objects, which is unhealthy for a society. It's also inconsistent, as people can't sell their existing two year old - why not?
I'm not sure why you think forcing people to bear female babies they don't want in an intensely patriarchal system where females have few rights and suffer severe oppression would be a win for anyone - not for the mother, nor the unwanted child. The patriarchal system needs to be dismantled first, and then people will want and value female children.
But freely chosen abortion? That only affects the woman, and the unborn foetus. It doesn't have a wider impact on society for a child to cease to exist before it's born. It doesn't harm anyone else. In fact, it often benefits the woman, her other existing children if there are any, and the people around her. It doesn't devalue born, existing people.
And while late term abortion is to be avoided because of the increased toll it takes on a woman to carry a pregnancy that much longer, and the unnecessary nature of it if an abortion can be procured earlier, I don't think the opportunity to not have an unwanted baby should be taken away from women and girls.
What I do think, most importantly, is that any restrictions on bodily autonomy should be applied EQUALLY across the sexes, and that if a man cannot be forced to gestate a foetus (obviously not, as he can't do it) and if people are not otherwise forced to give up a degree of bodily autonomy in order to save lives, regarding blood and bone marrow donations, then it is misogynistic to demand that women and girls do so for unwanted foetuses.