Of course..😢 I don't think women should be told they WILL grieve or be traumatised.
But a lot of women do (including many who still feel it was the right decision).
I'm strongly pro choice but I disagree with narratives that don't allow for this complexity.
I think also that an abortion is always inherently grave and tragic in the sense that the foetus' life is being ended.
This doesn't mean I think women should be shamed, or it should be a taboo subject. But I think 'Shout Your Abortion', 'the foetus is nothing' -type movements are very wrong.
I disagree the pro-life absolutists who view a week-old foetus the same way as an 8-month-old, nearly ready to the be born, foetus. I also disagree with recent US movement which calls on women to 'Shout Your Abortion', and the US states with Abortion bills that make it legal up to 9 months, for any reason.
70s manifestos like the French Manifesto of the 343 (I think?) were women uniting to say that abortion was not an unmentionable sin and that all kinds of women may have had one, for multiple reasons. Demanding the French government listen. (Authors like Violette Leduc and Colette had already detailed the terrible consequences of backstreet abortions in their fiction). Demands to take away all stigma are very different (I understand many US women are fearful since the fall of Roe. The states' rights formula does protect abortion rights to some extent though and I don't think extreme movements are a good way to challenge anti-choice movements).
The Japanese Buddhist custom of mizuko kuyo, where after an abortion or miscarriage the parents, or maybe only the mother, bury the foetus and mourn (done under different names in other countries like Taiwan & Thailand) is controversial for various reasons (eg. Some argue rightly that some temple owners exploit upset women to do it, or that it preys on the belief of some Buddhists that an unborn baby's soul will haunt you).
But from what I've read, some women do it willingly and find it gives relief from their belief system (rather than simply condemnation or other blanket responses). I do think it's a more honest approach in that it acknowledges the foetus' stage of development while not equating a non-viable foetus with a ready-to-be-born one. I think this is what Stock is getting at when she notes the disparity between treating a miscarriage as a loss (not the same as the loss of a born baby, but a loss nonetheless) but then denying an abortion has any similar significance in terms of the life of the foetus, even second or third trimester one.