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Faith school where women are banned from wearing trousers becomes state funded

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ArabellaSaurus · 27/09/2025 22:37

https://www.secularism.org.uk/news/2025/09/faith-school-which-bans-women-wearing-trousers-becomes-state-funded

'The National Secular Society has expressed alarm that a London faith school which bans women from wearing trousers and penalises families who attend non-kosher restaurants will now be funded by the state.
Nancy Reuben Primary School re-opened as a voluntary aided (VA) state school this month, after operating as an independent school for 26 years. Its decision to join the state sector follows the Government's move to charge VAT on independent school fees.'

'Women may not wear trousers, mini skirts, shorts, low necklines or sleeveless tops
The school's dress code for parents and visitors says men "must have their head covered at all times" and women "must wear skirts of knee length (a maximum of 2" above is acceptable)". It says trousers "may not be worn" by women.
Additionally, women must cover their underarms and may not wear cap sleeves. Women may not wear clothes with necklines lower than "4 fingers from the collar bone" either "in front or back of the garment".
Trousers are permitted for aupairs and nannies but they may not wear mini skirts, shorts, plunging necklines or sleeveless tops.'

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Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 15:07

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 10:49

That sounds lovely. Especially the festivities..
sadly most city schools wouldn't have that barn-type space but maybe they should!

I'm not sure if you'd call my school officially C of E though- we had hymns, a chaplain available to talk (though he very rarely gave assemblies) & communion services in the library once a month for those who wanted to go. But the assemblies had no prayers & we it didn't affect the curriculum at all. Or maybe that is C of E, I'm no expert! We had a boys' version which took religion much more seriously, own chapel etc. Most of our intake was non- or only vaguely religious, there wasn't any requirement to be Christian or church going etc

I definitely think some element of religion is good in schools. Hymns etc. I think you can build community in other ways but I can see how a full-on faith school makes it easier.

Makes sense that Muslim & Jewish girls would be OK with C of E. I've read Muslim students are often keen on Catholic schools if a Muslim one is unavailable.

Yes, my granddaughter attends a catholic prep school ( even though we are not RC) and about half the pupils at the school are of other religious ethnicities.

TheignT · 28/09/2025 15:07

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 14:58

That sounds like it was nice- funny that an English girl was a sensation!...a bit like where I live, strong Indian community, also Poles from WW2 (my grandfather was one) and some West Indians.
Hopefully that kind of atmosphere can return to more places one day...

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I suppose I find all the racism and prejudice strange as it wasn't like that when I was growing up and also my husband isn't white.

The most controversial wedding in the family was my parents who were one Orange from Northern Ireland and one Catholic from the south. Not that it was an issue for them

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 15:12

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 13:01

Yes when midwives prioritise the Jewish women to leave by organising their discharge admin and medication first to the detriment of other women who have been waiting longer. This often occurs because a doctor has promised them it will happen. This was a regular occurrence at one hospital I trained but their maternity department is closed now I think.

I thought you were one for prioritising and being sensitive yo your patients's needs, in your role as a midwife.? Or is that only when they ID as non binary or as a man?

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 15:16

CatchingtheCat · 28/09/2025 13:15

Where are these non-faith schools? I don’t know any secular schools.

Your average state comprehensive school is not religiously affiliated.....therefore it is 'secular'.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 15:17

TheignT · 28/09/2025 15:07

I suppose I find all the racism and prejudice strange as it wasn't like that when I was growing up and also my husband isn't white.

The most controversial wedding in the family was my parents who were one Orange from Northern Ireland and one Catholic from the south. Not that it was an issue for them

No, it's very sad....my grandmother taught a very mixed ethnic cohort in the schools she worked in locally, and there didn't seem to be huge tension or lack of assimilation.

I think it's a mixture of feeling immigration has been too much too fast esp more recently & is affecting jobs & overwhelming existing culture without integration, and also legitimate concerns about problems like terrorism & sexual assault.
Plus scumbags like the EDL etc who whip up hate to cause chaos. I wouldn't be surprised if enemy bots from Russia try & sow division on forums etc, I do think tech has a role.

Legitimate grievances, but too often being used as an excuse to mistreat people.

25milesfromhome · 28/09/2025 15:27

LoftyRobin · 28/09/2025 10:38

They tick white on the forms. White and Jewish.

It's actually deeply concerning that someone with such a strong prejudice and a strange obsession with racially/ethnically profiling Jews ("They" ticking white and Jewish on what I assume is a confidential form you have no right to discuss in any public capacity would make them mixed ethnicity btw) has access to any Jewish women in a healthcare capacity, particularly vulnerable women in childbirth. Really disturbing.

Jujujudo · 28/09/2025 15:28

TheignT · 28/09/2025 15:03

I assumed the discharge before Shabbos would be about transport home. Isn't driving not allowed by Orthodox or Heradi Jews on the Shabbos? So women could be stuck. I might be wrong but I was told, by a Jewish friend, that she and her family lived within walking distance of the synagogue for that reason

Depends on how observant they are. The UK doesn’t accommodate all religions because it can’t, so observant jews would need to make their own provisions (more especially in the winter) on Friday if they are observant. Orthodox Jews don’t represent the Jewish majority by any stretch of the imagination. They are extreme and primitive in their views and ethics and literal in their interpretation of the religion. They are like any tight knit orthodox religious group in that they tend to live in the same areas and have shops catering to them and synagogues close by.
There are only 250,000 Jews in the whole of the uk and the majority are integrated into regular society and schools. The school in the OP and continued discussion is relevant only for a small number of uk residents, probably around 40-50 thousand.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 15:37

Jujujudo · 28/09/2025 15:28

Depends on how observant they are. The UK doesn’t accommodate all religions because it can’t, so observant jews would need to make their own provisions (more especially in the winter) on Friday if they are observant. Orthodox Jews don’t represent the Jewish majority by any stretch of the imagination. They are extreme and primitive in their views and ethics and literal in their interpretation of the religion. They are like any tight knit orthodox religious group in that they tend to live in the same areas and have shops catering to them and synagogues close by.
There are only 250,000 Jews in the whole of the uk and the majority are integrated into regular society and schools. The school in the OP and continued discussion is relevant only for a small number of uk residents, probably around 40-50 thousand.

I knew a girl at school who in RS mentioned that she'd had a Jewish friend in primary who was allowed to leave school a bit early each Friday for Shabbat. Probs that's rare though, surely?

RawBloomers · 28/09/2025 15:51

deadpan · 28/09/2025 08:19

"I hate the equality act, all women should be made to wear skirts." is not what I said and you know it. Parents are within their rights to reject schools that are "offered" to them by their local EA and you're generally offered more than one school - unless you live in remote areas.

You didn’t say that, but it’s your position, nevertheless. You are saying that the equality act should not apply to the school. That it’s okay for a public or commercial institution to disadvantage women and girls because it’s part of the religious belief that formed its foundation.

Jujujudo · 28/09/2025 16:07

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 15:12

I thought you were one for prioritising and being sensitive yo your patients's needs, in your role as a midwife.? Or is that only when they ID as non binary or as a man?

All races and religions require special treatment in one way or another. That’s why we accept living in a diverse society, because we are willing to accommodate their needs also. A religious Muslim woman is within her rights to ask for a female Dr, if available, and halal food choices. There are many other examples. While I’m not a fan of the ultra orthodox community for many reasons, if their religious needs can be accommodated then they should be.

Jujujudo · 28/09/2025 16:35

AMillionTomorrows · 28/09/2025 12:37

It sounds like lofty Robin has had bad experiences with a Haredi community and is applying this to all Jews.
if she thinks all Jews are white, she hasn’t met very many.
Even very white skinned Jews aren’t white enough for right wing nationalists and black and brown Jews aren’t black and brown enough for the far left. No wonder we are defensive ffs.

Haredi and Hasidic Jews really do give Jews a bad name. I don’t like generalising, but I will in this case! Even secular Jews find their customs and behaviour foreign and primitive. However, they are certainly not indicative of the majority of Jews and anyway, so what? People - all people - can behave badly and not in line with how we would behave. I understand someone who has had to work in a large Haredi community struggling with their behaviour, which I would too. But it doesn’t matter because one should not be judging an entire race on the actions of very few.

MeridaBrave · 28/09/2025 16:36

Sigh. My kids state funded primary school (not the one mentioned) and my DD’s state funded high school had those rules. For teachers, pupils and parents visiting the site.

Jujujudo · 28/09/2025 16:43

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 15:37

I knew a girl at school who in RS mentioned that she'd had a Jewish friend in primary who was allowed to leave school a bit early each Friday for Shabbat. Probs that's rare though, surely?

Yes rare. If a Jew is that observant then they would probably go to a Jewish school. I once had to take an exam on Yom Kippur which even secular Jews usually adhere to and I was told they couldn’t accommodate me, so I did it. I’m not religious and it wasn’t a huge deal so I managed. But it would be nice if there was more awareness not cloaked in racism (like offering halal options etc) for our diverse society.

MeridaBrave · 28/09/2025 16:54

Jujujudo · 28/09/2025 16:43

Yes rare. If a Jew is that observant then they would probably go to a Jewish school. I once had to take an exam on Yom Kippur which even secular Jews usually adhere to and I was told they couldn’t accommodate me, so I did it. I’m not religious and it wasn’t a huge deal so I managed. But it would be nice if there was more awareness not cloaked in racism (like offering halal options etc) for our diverse society.

They will sort if if pushed my DD wasn’t at a Jewish 6th form college and her A level economics exam was on a Jewish festival. Arrangements were made for her to sit it the next day.

BonfireLady · 28/09/2025 16:57

Interesting thread.

Personally, I don't have an issue with religious schools being state-funded as long as they comply with the law. This includes what they teach in lessons and how they enforce dress codes.

I would hope that the vast majority of students at this school are there because the school is their preferred choice. In this case, I would imagine that the dress code is supported by these families. Presumably some of the families want leniency for their non-practising au pairs and nannies, or there would be no need for the exceptions that already exist.

If my child was allocated a place in a religious school, despite not having listed it on the application, as an atheist I wouldn't expect the school to enforce religious dress codes on my child or me. It's one thing me voluntarily wearing a shawl to cover my shoulders when visiting a mosque/synagogue/cathedral (I have done all 3) - because it's my choice to go into these religious places of worship - but it's quite another enforcing such religious adherence on non-believers at a state-funded school.

AFAIK there is no law that would allow a religious school to force a child or a visiting parent to wear religiously compliant attire. I should imagine it comes down to the difference between having "respect for" and not enforcing "compliance with" - and that any attempt at enforcement could be challenged as discrimination of the basis of the PC of belief (which also includes the right to non-belief).

TBH my first course of action if my child were to be allocated such a place would be to appeal the decision ⬇️

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Faith school where women are banned from wearing trousers becomes state funded
Faith school where women are banned from wearing trousers becomes state funded
Coatsoff42 · 28/09/2025 17:00

MeridaBrave · 28/09/2025 16:36

Sigh. My kids state funded primary school (not the one mentioned) and my DD’s state funded high school had those rules. For teachers, pupils and parents visiting the site.

Out of interest, what would that school have done if a parent came to the school for a play or a parents evening not wearing the correct clothes?

MeridaBrave · 28/09/2025 17:16

Coatsoff42 · 28/09/2025 17:00

Out of interest, what would that school have done if a parent came to the school for a play or a parents evening not wearing the correct clothes?

At the primary school women often turned up in skirts deemed too short for pick up. They kept on reminding people in the school newsletter.

At the secondary school I once had to send my au pair to collect DD as she was ill. The security man on the door said she can’t enter in trousers!! I had I call the school office and go ballistic that they’d called me in the middle of the day to get DD and now FFS let my au pair in to collect her.

ArabellaSaurus · 28/09/2025 17:42

Jujujudo · 28/09/2025 16:07

All races and religions require special treatment in one way or another. That’s why we accept living in a diverse society, because we are willing to accommodate their needs also. A religious Muslim woman is within her rights to ask for a female Dr, if available, and halal food choices. There are many other examples. While I’m not a fan of the ultra orthodox community for many reasons, if their religious needs can be accommodated then they should be.

Agree. However, my concern is for when those religious needs have adverse effects on girls and women. All of those effects are, I'm sure, arguable, as many will see 'modest' clothing as beneficial to girls and women, while others see it as restrictive and limiting.

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ArabellaSaurus · 28/09/2025 17:46

Shortshriftandlethal · 28/09/2025 15:16

Your average state comprehensive school is not religiously affiliated.....therefore it is 'secular'.

In Scotland at least, it's a bit more complicated. Non denominational doesn't mean secular.

https://www.secularism.org.uk/faith-schools/scotland

'Must hold “community acts which aim to promote the spiritual development of all members of the school’s community and express and celebrate the shared values of the school community.” Schools are encouraged to draw upon Christian tradition but must also ‘reflect and understand’ Scottish diversity while being ‘sensitive’ to traditions as well as ‘individual spiritual needs and beliefs’. Secular terms such as “time for reflection” may be used to describe this instead of “religious observance”. Should occur “several times a year”.'

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Coatsoff42 · 28/09/2025 17:47

MeridaBrave · 28/09/2025 17:16

At the primary school women often turned up in skirts deemed too short for pick up. They kept on reminding people in the school newsletter.

At the secondary school I once had to send my au pair to collect DD as she was ill. The security man on the door said she can’t enter in trousers!! I had I call the school office and go ballistic that they’d called me in the middle of the day to get DD and now FFS let my au pair in to collect her.

I guess the reminders in the newsletter are fine, like the considerate parking reminders we get all the time.
But I’m quite shocked they would stop a guardian collecting a sick child.
Thanks, I was really wondering how strict it would be!

Jujujudo · 28/09/2025 17:53

ArabellaSaurus · 28/09/2025 17:42

Agree. However, my concern is for when those religious needs have adverse effects on girls and women. All of those effects are, I'm sure, arguable, as many will see 'modest' clothing as beneficial to girls and women, while others see it as restrictive and limiting.

Absolutely. I mean I’m being PC here, because personally I have a huge issue with the subjugation of women in religion, including my own which is why I’m extremely secular! But I don’t think we can impose our disapproval (couldn’t think of a better word) on these people because the ones who cover their women and enforce certain dress codes etc are usually the more extreme of the spectrum and there’s not much helping them.

Honesting · 28/09/2025 17:58

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 08:50

I think a lot of the burka panic (which according to BBC, at least, less than 1% of Muslim women wear) was because it was associated with terrorism. I think if there had been no Isis, people would have ignored it, as well as other mistreatment of Muslim women. I don't think it's nonwhite racism, I think it's that sadly people tend to care about things which affect them but turn a blind eye if they don't.

That and the fact wherever you go in Central London there are Muslims trying to convert you (which some see as trying to take over the host country). It's not that Orthodox Jews are White (I think Stormfront disagrees, BTW), but that they stick to their own and don't try to change anyone else.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 18:10

Honesting · 28/09/2025 17:58

That and the fact wherever you go in Central London there are Muslims trying to convert you (which some see as trying to take over the host country). It's not that Orthodox Jews are White (I think Stormfront disagrees, BTW), but that they stick to their own and don't try to change anyone else.

Really? Been to central London recently & didn't see aggressive Muslim preachers. I can believe it though...

I don't think leaflet handing etc should be banned but they shouldn't be aggressive.

Honesting · 28/09/2025 18:20

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 18:10

Really? Been to central London recently & didn't see aggressive Muslim preachers. I can believe it though...

I don't think leaflet handing etc should be banned but they shouldn't be aggressive.

I'm pretty sure I didn't use the word aggressive. But there are several booths along Oxford Street of Muslims trying to convert passers by. Perhaps next time I'm there I'll take some photos.

MusettasWaltz · 28/09/2025 18:24

Honesting · 28/09/2025 18:20

I'm pretty sure I didn't use the word aggressive. But there are several booths along Oxford Street of Muslims trying to convert passers by. Perhaps next time I'm there I'll take some photos.

Hmm...well a few booths does not a caliphate make. Are there a lot in many places? I do see the possible concern. I don't think it's intrinsically bad though as long as it stays small-scale like Jehovah's Witnesses and doesn't become insistent etc