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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
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RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 04/06/2025 22:16

Arran2024 · 04/06/2025 21:45

"Can't imagine they'd even understand what trans people are". "Sweet old grandmothers".

Speechless. ( I'm 63, retired. All my friends know exactly what a trans person is).

My dads 79 and he knows what a transperson is

its so rude! I hear ‘old people don’t understand’ all the time…they obviously understand its not fucking rocket science

Helleofabore · 04/06/2025 22:36

So do we have a disconnect here.

Apparently people with transgender identities have been around forever, yet ‘old’ people don’t know anything about them?

WarriorN · 05/06/2025 06:17

Brilliant i missed she was on R4!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 05/06/2025 06:21

StripeySuperNova · 04/06/2025 18:21

So the National Trust think that crossing out a woman's name is an important contribution to a 'feminist artwork'. But undoing that crossing out is an act of vandalism to said 'feminist artwork' and has caused such destruction that the piece needs to be removed from view.

It's enough to make you think you are going insane.

YABU to think you are the one going insane in this situation.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 05/06/2025 06:38

Arran2024 · 04/06/2025 21:07

This is written as a wierd fairy tale but it gives an interesting take on what may have happened https://x.com/JeanHatchet/status/1930301559247667323

Lol.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 05/06/2025 06:40

DustlandFairytaleBeginning · 04/06/2025 21:21

All fair points, I went looking for a picture example of the other J K Rowlings in the artwork in an article and this wasn't the article wording I had read earlier so maybe was a bad example to post. The article I read earlier had said today which had said it was unclear if the stitched out name had been the original work of the stitcher when they'd added it. If they knew the stitching was a defacement I agree they should have addressed that at the time.

I did work for the National Trust in one of the old stately home properties years ago- not this one- but the people there were almost all retired people looking for company and to fill their days. When I think of the volunteers we had I can't imagine they'd even understand what trans people are never mind what this argument is really about. They were mainly sweet old grandmothers. The NT really did have a lot of good people in it doing a lot for others for free, I appreciate I am biased.

For what it's worth though I do have a lot of respect for J K Rowling.

I am not an old person so far be it from me to speak for them, but I imagine they are well aware that some men prefer to dress like women and are only confused about why people are pretending they actually are women.

Userxyd · 05/06/2025 06:48

DragonRunor · 04/06/2025 18:27

Not on TwiX, but I’ve emailed to say I’m cancelling my membership next week if they don’t sort it out

Should have cancelled already given their behaviour!

We all need to do this! It’s a numbers game don’t forget - who TF do they think their customer base is? Screaming men in dresses and pink haired snowflakes? Or been around the block couples and families who like gardens, history, and not being screwed over?

Igneococcus · 05/06/2025 06:57

"Can't imagine they'd even understand what trans people are". "Sweet old grandmothers"

People never update their internal images of old people. People who are reaching retirement age now grew up in the 60s. My oldest brother, now 68, had long hair, listened to Fleetwood Mac, lived in Christiania for a bit and is currently hiking the entire camino portuguese. My other brother, four years younger, was the guitarist in an (utterly dreadful) punk band. Sweet old grandads, yeah right.

ItsCoolForCats · 05/06/2025 07:52

I think the NT have underestimated how pissed off women are about this. Women have been abused, harassed and silenced by trans activists. Somebody stitching through JKR's name, and then the NT washing their hands of it and saying "nothing to see here" is a perfect illustration of this.

ColinCaterpillarsNo1Fan · 05/06/2025 08:02

I won't be renewing my national trust membership next month.

Screamingabdabz · 05/06/2025 08:14

“When I think of the volunteers we had I can't imagine they'd even understand what trans people are never mind what this argument is really about. They were mainly sweet old grandmothers.”

I suspect those ‘sweet old grandmothers’ know exactly what’s up, but like the wise old birds they are they just present themselves in a way that makes them invisible to dumb ageist and sexist people who can’t see further than the end of their noses. 🙄

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 05/06/2025 08:25

ColinCaterpillarsNo1Fan · 05/06/2025 08:02

I won't be renewing my national trust membership next month.

Make sure you tell them why.

ThatCyanCat · 05/06/2025 08:41

Screamingabdabz · 05/06/2025 08:14

“When I think of the volunteers we had I can't imagine they'd even understand what trans people are never mind what this argument is really about. They were mainly sweet old grandmothers.”

I suspect those ‘sweet old grandmothers’ know exactly what’s up, but like the wise old birds they are they just present themselves in a way that makes them invisible to dumb ageist and sexist people who can’t see further than the end of their noses. 🙄

It's not the sweet old grandmother volunteers who've lived for 70+ years and somehow never heard of transgenderism because everyone knows your brain falls out on your 65th birthday or something. It's the official NT organisation that considered its response to someone carefully undeleting a woman's name (and if you think it was stitched on purely so the original stitcher could strike it out in the trans flag colours, or that it was a subversive point about anti-censorship, hey, I've still got that bridge for sale) and decided not to leave it be, or even just put it behind a glass screen for protection, but to cover up the whole thing and make some hypocritical point about respect. Perhaps they're too sweet, old and grandmotherly to know they meant #bekind.

People can communicate how they feel about this to those in charge who made that decision, and frankly pulling memberships is the most powerful way to do it. You can place and withhold your money as you like.

RedToothBrush · 05/06/2025 08:56

DustlandFairytaleBeginning · 04/06/2025 21:21

All fair points, I went looking for a picture example of the other J K Rowlings in the artwork in an article and this wasn't the article wording I had read earlier so maybe was a bad example to post. The article I read earlier had said today which had said it was unclear if the stitched out name had been the original work of the stitcher when they'd added it. If they knew the stitching was a defacement I agree they should have addressed that at the time.

I did work for the National Trust in one of the old stately home properties years ago- not this one- but the people there were almost all retired people looking for company and to fill their days. When I think of the volunteers we had I can't imagine they'd even understand what trans people are never mind what this argument is really about. They were mainly sweet old grandmothers. The NT really did have a lot of good people in it doing a lot for others for free, I appreciate I am biased.

For what it's worth though I do have a lot of respect for J K Rowling.

That's quite the appalling and patronising ageism you've got going on there.

When women become grandmothers, do they lose their faculties and ability to understand the world?

nauticant · 05/06/2025 09:04

I think one reason to dismiss older women is that they tend to remember that transsexuals and cross-dressers (together with other niche interests} were separate groups who would not necessarily be given the same amount of sympathy. That perhaps the LGBTQ+ group ought not to be treated as a monolith.

RedToothBrush · 05/06/2025 09:10

My mother is in her 70s. She volunteers for all kinds of shit. She knows what transgender means because her son is a middle aged transwoman.

Weirdly, given that the demographics for transwomen tend to be late transitioning (as in after age 30), I do wonder what rock the previous poster lives under.

The sweet old grandmother's at the NT are the mothers of this cohort. Not grandmothers. Funny how this is conveniently forgotten and framed as a 'trendy young person thing' rather than something grown men, often with wives and kids do.

Of course middle aged married transitioners with children need the youth to help them with the PR job and the most marginalised in society narrative.

The idea that these women don't talk about what's going on in their lives or the lives of their peers and their adult children, is really one that I find hard to believe.

BettyBooper · 05/06/2025 09:20

From the other thread. The NT knew, had a fretful meeting about it and allowed it to stand. Cowards.

https://x.com/LottieHistory/status/1899565067693175082

https://x.com/LottieHistory/status/1899565067693175082

DeanElderberry · 05/06/2025 09:47

If an old grandmother comes across as 'sweet' it's probable that she has learned the hard way not to speak her mind to people she doesn't trust.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 05/06/2025 12:03

Arran2024 · 05/06/2025 12:02

Twats.

I bet the names of pretend feminists who prioritise penis people weren't stitched over.

SlackJawedDisbeliefXY · 05/06/2025 13:03

So the statement does clear up if the name and stitching were from a single participant

... and in two instances it was stitched over by other participants ...

In two cases the contributions of participants to a collaborative artwork were defaced (and arguably had their meaning reversed) by other contributors.

I'm not sure from the statement, are the NT confirming that they had seen this defacement and still decided that they would put the artwork on display?

Is it that the NT saw that the defacement had occurred but decided that the message delivered by the damage was more important than that of the original author?

Jean Hatchet's narrative of what happened puts the blame for stitching over JKR's name at the feet of two trans identifying NT members of staff.

If this is the case then why are they simply referred to as 'participants' in the NT statement. Surely this piece of information is very relevant to the story

Perhaps the original author was a 12 year old girl, carefully stitching the name of her favorite author. Maybe the NT decided that she needed to be taught the life lesson that her voice is less important that that of an adult male who wants the rest of the world to affirm him in his fantasy that he has become a woman?

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SlackJawedDisbeliefXY · 05/06/2025 18:35

I found this interesting and strong warning about using 'AI copilots' et al. as the basis for any rigorous analysis.

Whilst searching for any other viewpoints for the JKR / NT story I was presented with a helpful AI based summary to save me the time of looking at the original sources.

Note that it gets the details of the story wrong implying that the artwork was taken down in response to the stitching over of JKR's name in trans flag colors (sic).

This is not what happened - the artwork was taken down because someone carefully unpicked the over stitching.

Also note that the AI describes the controversy arising because of JK Rowling's ... public stance against transgender rights ...

This is, again, incorrect. JK Rowling's public stance is for women's rights

Beware of AI summaries - they are often both authoritative and wrong

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SlackJawedDisbeliefXY · 05/06/2025 18:39

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National Trust and JKR
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mcduffy · 05/06/2025 21:38

I’m a life member (via an inheritance from my in-laws) and I am pretty fucking unimpressed with the NT

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