I understand what you’re saying; in her private interactions JKR is choosing to use preferred pronouns if she wants to but in her public activism she is increasingly choosing not to.
In recent days on FWR we’ve had posters minimising what happened Keen-Mishull in NZ and in the public sphere there were some relatively prominent GCers who disparaged her for taking LWS to other countries as they saw her as aggrandising herself - they spoke against her style of activism frequently (and some still do even after the physical attacks made on her) but never proposed any alternative action that would have the same impact as LWS has been having.
I also agree that the people you cited as examples are well known for their public activism, and I’m grateful that they have publicly spoken in favour of GC beliefs, but my point was that Helen Joyce or Julie Bindel (for example) respected preferred pronouns in public speaking and even agreed with Janice Turner that using correct sex pronouns was ‘Ultra’. Then JKR put out a multi-tweet thread using correct sex pronouns for trans-identifying males and after that happened prominent GCers like Joyce, Bindel and Stock etc started using correct sex pronouns in their public speaking. This was something for which Keen-Minshull had been advocating for years but for which she was heavily disparaged.
Same thing happened with regards to Debbie Hayton: Bindel et al had been platforming Hayton and agreeing with Hayton on various issues (calling Hayton rational trans) then Hayton wrote an article criticising JKR for using correct sex pronouns, and few other aspects of her public speaking, and after that Bindel, Joyce, Stock and various other GCers broke off with Hayton and were critical of Hayton’s position. The things they mentioned in criticism of Hayton were things that Keen-Minshull had been expressing about Hayton for years.
This week, I’m seeing a similar pattern: Keen-Minshull expresses a concern/feeling that a lot of women have as a result of aggressive trans activism and gets roundly criticised by prominent GC names. JKR expresses more or less the same sentiment and the same group of prominent names agree with her and laud her for expressing this sentiment that so many women feel.
I’m not criticising JKR for expressing these things, I’m glad she said them because they needed to be said. What I’m criticising is prominent GC names being hypocritical on these specific issues - they violently disagree (and some of them have been hypercritical of Keen-Minshull this week and previously) when the opinion expressed comes from women like Keen-Minshull but see it as perfectly acceptable if expressed by a woman like Rowling. I don’t see the difference between these two women (Keen-Minshull and Rowling) other than in terms of influence and power and (quite probably) friendship with the prominent GCers.
I’m definitely not trying to drag anyone down and rubbish their activism - I admire them all for standing up for women, children, and gay rights. Rather, I’m saying I would like them to be more aware of their own biases towards other activists and, in particular, towards working-class GCers and what they need from the GC movement. I often think that prominent GCers can afford to be more accommodating in their activism because they are somewhat shielded by their class from some of the excessive effects of Gender Identity Ideology. I post this essay when I’m discussing this issue:
https://4w.pub/you-meet-more-perverts-when-poor/