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Jamie film

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dramanodrama · 11/07/2024 17:53

I've name changed for this due to privacy concerns but HQ would be able to confirm I'm a regular on this board and am above board.
My Dd is watching this film as part of her drama GCSE. I've not personally heard of it. Dd says it's about a boy who is gay, something to do with drag and discrimination and Section 28. We have been discussing the misogyny of drag today and Dd told me they were watching this film. I think they've only recently started it and she doesn't know much about it but deems it boring.
I'm wondering if it's appropriate and thought here was the best place to ask for considered opinions. The teacher is gay and saying he and Jamie had things in common and that when he was in high school 15 years ago (2009) there was no gay people around, not in the media etc and he felt isolated. I left school in 1992 and there were gay lads at school, Freddie Mercury was big news, gay actors, other gay musicians etc. I don't remember many gay women though 🤔 but my point is that I left school in 1992 and there was plenty of gay people around so how was there less 17 years later?

Maybe Dd has misunderstood his explanation. Maybe it's standard drama GCSE material. Maybe I'm just a bit paranoid after two Dd have been through the school and had issues due to being GC.

The school is on the surface fully stonewalled with pride flags flying and printed on the walls but there are teachers who are GC from what I've seen in my contact with them.
Is this film an issue or a non-issue? I hate drag and its misogynistic woman face and am not sure if it has a place in GCSEs.

OP posts:
AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 18:18

ItsFunToBeAVampire · 13/07/2024 06:55

Can I give a mention to Buffy The Vampire Slayer? Willow came out as a lesbian in season 4 which would have been around 2001. And as mentioned above, Carol in Friends would have been in 1994.
Yes the characters weren't "celebrated" (within their own shows) like they would be now, more it was just another part of the character, I wonder if that's the difference?
Back then people kept way more of their private life actually private, that's not the fashion now so I wonder if that's why there's a mismatch between acknowledgement and celebration?

And I agree it's always been hard for teenagers to come out, what teen wants to be different from the crowd?

It's not just that, lesbian especially and gay representation WAS much less then. There was a lot of controversy and homophobia (in the US esp) about the lesbian relationship in Buffy.

Carol in Friends - I've not seen but good if, ad you say, the character wasn't treated as if being gay was negative. Wasn't there fetishisation of it from the male characters? I think I remember reading that, though it's possible I also read that this attitude was mocked (need to check)

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 18:32

dramanodrama · 11/07/2024 17:53

I've name changed for this due to privacy concerns but HQ would be able to confirm I'm a regular on this board and am above board.
My Dd is watching this film as part of her drama GCSE. I've not personally heard of it. Dd says it's about a boy who is gay, something to do with drag and discrimination and Section 28. We have been discussing the misogyny of drag today and Dd told me they were watching this film. I think they've only recently started it and she doesn't know much about it but deems it boring.
I'm wondering if it's appropriate and thought here was the best place to ask for considered opinions. The teacher is gay and saying he and Jamie had things in common and that when he was in high school 15 years ago (2009) there was no gay people around, not in the media etc and he felt isolated. I left school in 1992 and there were gay lads at school, Freddie Mercury was big news, gay actors, other gay musicians etc. I don't remember many gay women though 🤔 but my point is that I left school in 1992 and there was plenty of gay people around so how was there less 17 years later?

Maybe Dd has misunderstood his explanation. Maybe it's standard drama GCSE material. Maybe I'm just a bit paranoid after two Dd have been through the school and had issues due to being GC.

The school is on the surface fully stonewalled with pride flags flying and printed on the walls but there are teachers who are GC from what I've seen in my contact with them.
Is this film an issue or a non-issue? I hate drag and its misogynistic woman face and am not sure if it has a place in GCSEs.

Sorry in my previous posting, I was talking about the 90s, I didn't realise the teacher was talking about 2009.
Op, I know this is an old thread but it's an interesting topic so I wanted to comment, hope that's ok.
I get your point about gay people in media in the early 90s.. But I would add some caveats. Freddie Mercury never felt able to come out. His sexuality was obvious to plenty of people, but I'm not sure if you can call him a gay media role model, at least not in the same way an out celebrity would be. His sexuality was only confirmed after his death, and his partner Jim was ignored by obituaries I think, though need to check.(To be clear, I'm not blaming him for not being out : some such ad Elton John were but it would probably have affected his career adversely, especially in the AIDS 80s height when prejudice was heightened)

Who are the out gay actors you can recall? I find it hard to name out actors from the early 90s- Rupert Everett I suppose was out then?

Musicians are easier : Boy George was out I think, also Pet Shop Boys and Bronski Beat?

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 18:37

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 11/07/2024 21:35

In the late '80s one of my work colleagues was a Lesbian. Everyone knew this, but it was rarely mentioned as she was a colleague like everyone else, respected for her work. She may have encountered some unpleasantness but if so I was not aware of it. And I remember Kenneth Williams as a much loved media personality who was accepted as an actor/comedian by people you might have expected to disapprove.

Undoubtedly there was still a lot of prejudice and nastiness, but people were at least starting to realise that that is what it was. That these attitudes continued through the '00s and still exist today is surely no surprise, but I have seen a lot of change to more acceptance during my lifetime, including individual people questioning their old attitudes. Same sex marriage wouldn't have stood a chance politically when I was a child.

Kenneth Williams - good point, but surely quite a lot of his fans disapproved of his orientation even if they liked his films etc? It's not like he could openly say he was
gay or mention a long-term partner , is it? More in the territory of open secret.

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 18:39

Thinking now, Stephen Fry & Ian McKellen were other actors out in the 90s.

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 18:42

Ingenieur · 11/07/2024 18:54

Four Weddings was in 1994, Queer as Folk in '99.

Eastenders had a gay kiss in '89.

Freddie Mercury's sexuality and AIDS was well publicised.

My lesbian family member was out for as long as I can remember, early 80s, amd had many LG and B friends in secondary school.

By the early 2010s public opinion was so favourable even the Tories passed mardiage equality laws.

The teacher is obviously an astounding idiot.

Tbf poor Freddie Mercury's sexuality was only acknowledged after his death. He would often teasingly hint at being gay, (naming the band Queen, for one thing 🤣) but he certainly wasn't out.

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 18:48

PlanetJanette · 11/07/2024 19:07

So posters on here think that Freddie Mercury, AIDS, the Matt Lucas character in Little Britain and a gay kiss in Eastenders that resulted in a front page headline of ‘Eastbenders’ are evidence of positive portrayals of gay people in the media.

Im willing to believe an actual gay person who lived through that time rather than a bunch of people who think those examples are examples of how the media landscape of gay people was tickety boo.

To give an idea of what things were like for gay kids in 2009, a 2007 study found two thirds of them experienced homophobic bullying. Half of them had heard homophobic comments from staff, and a third had homophobic bullying instigated by staff.

I wasn’t a gay teenager in 2009 but I was a few years earlier. And I can tell you that there were almost no positive and prominent depictions of gay people’s lives in mainstream media before about 2010. Gay stories were always either tragic or comedic, gay characters depicted as victims of AIDS or as camp mummies boys.

It's definitely odd people are describing people like Kenneth Williams, Charles Hawtrey, Frankie Howerd as positive gay role models when the whole point was they were not out, but in 'open secret' territory, and certainly couldn't mention partners. Williams and Hawtrey both seem to have had strong internalised homophobia in their private lives ,with Williams remaining celibate due to it & Hawtrey perpetually cruising, unable to form a relationship.

I'm not denigrating the progress they did make by putting camp gay male behaviour on screen, but I think people are overstating how positive the situation w them was.

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 19:00

Freddie Mercury, ditto.

 EastEnders...the tabloid response was vile , but the characters themselves were portrayed w respect & sympathy. Still should not be forgotten how horrible the Murdoch-led media was. 

Little Britain : it's obvs not wrong to have a gay comic character, but at a time when gay characters were still rare, esp nuance ones, it was hardly positive.

WhatterySquash · 02/09/2025 19:02

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 18:37

Kenneth Williams - good point, but surely quite a lot of his fans disapproved of his orientation even if they liked his films etc? It's not like he could openly say he was
gay or mention a long-term partner , is it? More in the territory of open secret.

There was a long history of camp and effeminate performers who were seen as entertaining and the hints of gayness were part of the fun - but they were not officially "out". So Kenneth Williams, Larry Grayson, the drag performer on It Aint Half Hot Mum, Liberace etc.

But I was completely unfazed by gayness when at school in the 80s, had openly gay friends, by the 90s and 00s loads of well-known people were out. Boy George, Jeanette Winterson, Chris Smith, Holly Johnson, Ellen degeneres, Elton John, lesbian kiss on Brookside, Justin Fashanu, Labi Siffre etc etc. Not that life was always easy for them and homophobia hadn't vanished, but to say there was nothing like that around at all is bonkers.

Teacher must have been living under a rock or else is just playing oppression olympics and hoping teenagers won;t realise.

PlanetJanette · 02/09/2025 19:02

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 18:18

It's not just that, lesbian especially and gay representation WAS much less then. There was a lot of controversy and homophobia (in the US esp) about the lesbian relationship in Buffy.

Carol in Friends - I've not seen but good if, ad you say, the character wasn't treated as if being gay was negative. Wasn't there fetishisation of it from the male characters? I think I remember reading that, though it's possible I also read that this attitude was mocked (need to check)

Carol in Friends was not a positive depiction of gay people.

The entire plot for the character was centred through her (ex) husband and the gags centred around how he had ‘turned’ her or the fetishisation of her and her female partners sex life.

Lots of posts on here demonstrating a really facile view of gay representation in media. The message seems to be ‘here is a gay person who is allowed to exist and not be actively vilified’ and therefore that person is an example of a positive gay role model.

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 19:03

SaltPorridge · 11/07/2024 20:23

I dont see how "Jamie " can be described as a positive portrayal of a gay teenager. He aspires to being a drag queen, and his new friends include an older man who encourages him and young drag queens whose names eg "Leica Virgin" leave no doubt as to the nature of drag as sex work.

I was going to point out "The Importance of Being Earnest" as an example of a gay character but as that's comedy maybe it doesn't count... and as it was first published in 1899 it can require some explanations.

I was a teenager in the 80s and knew several gay men. Sadly past tense there. But they were ordinary fellows with ordinary jobs, far removed from being drag queens.

How can you give Earnest as an example of a gay character? Jack and Algy show sexual interest in women, and while you could argue they also like each other romantically, it would be subtextual at best

PlanetJanette · 02/09/2025 19:12

Hint - if your list of prominent gay people includes someone who lost her main tv show after coming out and someone who killed himself after a negative reaction to coming out, it rather suggests that the teacher had a point.

Also it’s almost certainly not the case that he was claiming there were no prominent gay people in 2009, but rather there was no or very limited positive depiction of gay people in 2009.

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 20:23

PlanetJanette · 02/09/2025 19:02

Carol in Friends was not a positive depiction of gay people.

The entire plot for the character was centred through her (ex) husband and the gags centred around how he had ‘turned’ her or the fetishisation of her and her female partners sex life.

Lots of posts on here demonstrating a really facile view of gay representation in media. The message seems to be ‘here is a gay person who is allowed to exist and not be actively vilified’ and therefore that person is an example of a positive gay role model.

Exactly. I read a magazine article a while back where a man raised by lesbian mums in the early 2000s said Carol was the only media representation for a family like his, and he still appreciated it. But he also acknowledged it had a lot of issues.

From what you say, it sounds like Carol herself was portrayed as a nice person? But people counting her as positive are ignoring the horrible attitude from the other characters : presumably Carol is the butt of the jokes you mentioned, not the fetishising men?

I saw a few episodes of Friends while injured on a skiing school trip. That was all there was to watch on the TV, so I had a look. I'm Gen Z & a lot of my friends liked it, but it seemed poor overall : simplistic humour & it didn't feel very funny when two of the female characters kissed to get the male characters to do something for them. I suppose that ties in to the fetishisation of Carol you mentioned.

Tbf I only saw about 4 episodes, but it sounds like one of the sitcoms which didn't age well , unlike some others of that era

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 20:36

WhatterySquash · 02/09/2025 19:02

There was a long history of camp and effeminate performers who were seen as entertaining and the hints of gayness were part of the fun - but they were not officially "out". So Kenneth Williams, Larry Grayson, the drag performer on It Aint Half Hot Mum, Liberace etc.

But I was completely unfazed by gayness when at school in the 80s, had openly gay friends, by the 90s and 00s loads of well-known people were out. Boy George, Jeanette Winterson, Chris Smith, Holly Johnson, Ellen degeneres, Elton John, lesbian kiss on Brookside, Justin Fashanu, Labi Siffre etc etc. Not that life was always easy for them and homophobia hadn't vanished, but to say there was nothing like that around at all is bonkers.

Teacher must have been living under a rock or else is just playing oppression olympics and hoping teenagers won;t realise.

Yes, I live with my 93yo grandmother & she's a big fan of Carry On stuff & that kind of sitcom. I agree it was a step in gay representation, but I think people are overstating its influence on this thread a bit, since arguably the camp behaviour was the butt of the joke, and gay men were mainly only allowed in this kind of role for quite a while : sexless so therefore unthreatening, and with their camp behaviour making them the butt of the joke, or at best putting them in the 'court jester' role.

Liberace was obvs gay ofc, but he famously sued and said how upset he was when a paper said he was 'fruit-flavoured'.

Larry Grayson was always private, as he had a right to be- my mum was a big fan of the Generation Game & always had twigged him as gay.

Small note on It Ain't Half Hot Mum : the character who does drag is not meant to be gay. David Croft, the writer, says he was a 'transvestite, not a homosexual', and he expresses interest in women. That kind of performance was quite common in army bases then, though often hushed up. Sometimes the drag performers were gay, but sometimes they weren't.

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AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 20:40

I definitely agree gay representation was better in the 90s and early 2000s though, but obvs there were still issues, as you say.

AliasGrace47 · 02/09/2025 20:44

PlanetJanette · 02/09/2025 19:12

Hint - if your list of prominent gay people includes someone who lost her main tv show after coming out and someone who killed himself after a negative reaction to coming out, it rather suggests that the teacher had a point.

Also it’s almost certainly not the case that he was claiming there were no prominent gay people in 2009, but rather there was no or very limited positive depiction of gay people in 2009.

That's terrible about Justin Fashanu. Reading the story, it seems that an American teenager accused him of sexual assault in Maryland, and he feared he would not get a fair trial because gay male sex was illegal there.

He did face a lot of homophobia coming out, but the reason for the tragedy is more complex, since he was in the US, where homophobia has always been stronger & in the case of that state, was so strong as to criminalise sex between men. So I think his suicide was more caused by US homophobia, though the prejudice he faced here was also horrible.

It's also possible he may have been guilty of sexual assault. We will never know. Obvs if he was, the treatment he faced was still completely wrong.

WhatterySquash · 02/09/2025 21:06

Oh and I'm forgetting the iconic Jimi Somerville. Yes he sang about homophobia, but he was out and proud in the mid-80s and was successful.

I don't accept it was all AIDS, being stuck in the closet and negative portrayals. Bad things happened, just as they did and still do to women, ethnic minorities and so on, and I hope it's better now but most young people from the 80s onwards were completely used to seeing successful, out gay people in the media, pop industry, arts etc. Many more men than women at least initially, but the teacher is a man. (Well possibly, as that means nothing now but it sounded like he was male.)

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