Surely the easiest way to solve this is to ensure that all people, regardless of their gender identity, are registered as their biological sex in all medical paperwork?
So many of these issues could be so easily resolved if it was made crystal clear that sex and gender are not the same thing. Your sex is identified (not assigned) at birth and will never change. I thought we'd spent the last year or more insisting on the need to 'follow the science'.
If, socially, you're not content to be a masculine-identifying woman or a feminine-identifying man - even changing your name to reflect this, if you wish - to the extent that you wish to claim a different 'gender identity', that's fine and to be respected - just as other sincere lifestyle changes and identities, such as if you devoutly follow a faith, are a strict vegan, a Goth, whatever. It just has no bearing on your essential official record - it has no need to.
You may be a female who identifies as male, as a devout Buddhist, as a strict vegan, as a campaigner for animal rights, as a passionate mountaineer and as a sustainable cyclist. That's great: it's your life, who you have decided to be and what you do - but as your official record only cares about material facts, only the 'female' element is necessary to be recorded for official purposes. It doesn't in any way diminish your character, personality, lifestyle, interests and identity, it just has no need or interest whatsoever in reaching beyond the basic facts to include that.
In 2007, Sean phoned his brother to deliver the news. By then, Duncan was living and working in Brussels. “Sean said it was ovarian cancer,” he says. “I remember thinking, ‘That must be very difficult to deal with because of who you are’.”
With respect to Duncan, ovarian cancer is very difficult to deal with for EVERYBODY who has it - it doesn't become a petty little annoyance, just because the sufferer is female and has never identified as anything other than female.