Thought provoking link. Clothing of sexual assault victims.

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www.buzzfeed.com/jtes/sexual-assault-survivors-answer-the-question-what-were-you-w

I can't get passed the 5yr old making her 3yr old sister sleep under the bed when her father had his friend home. I assume this is so she wouldn't be assaulted too.

doesn't even begin to cover it.

I can't get passed the 5yr old making her 3yr old sister sleep under the bed when her father had his friend home. I assume this is so she wouldn't be assaulted too. doesn't even begin to cover it.

Exactly. It's both exactly what I can imagine a big sister doing (I am one albeit with a much bigger gap and have 2 daughter with that age gap, and 6&4 so just a little bit older) and yet absolutely heartbreaking that a five year old has been put into a situation where they feel they have to protect their sibling in such a way.

I saw something online which was a survey of rapists who were in prison or had served there sentence and then been released. The most frequent victims were those wearing loose, baggy or easily removed or bypassed clothes who had there hair in a ponytail or a plait so it was easy to grab. While some people might argue that a skirt is a piece of clothing that is easy to bypass this description seems to mainly focus on joggers. So it might be about how someone is dressed but its not because there asking for it its because the rapist therefore thinks it is easier.

Hello traverse; have you got a daughter by any chance

No HerrenaHarridan but I do have a niece that lives with me whom I help to raise. My mother is a pensioner with occasionally severe arthritis (amongst many more ailments) so I live with her and my niece to help out with day-to-day living and chores, I pick her up from school and do homework/play with her, bedtime stories etc. I'm pretty much the only consistent male role model in her life and If anything were to happen to my mother I would be her sole guardian.

The reason why I decided to join mumsnet is so I can get a wide range of unfettered female views on issues that affect women, this way I can gain knowledge that could be useful in helping me understand and help her (my niece) in the future with issues that she may face as she grows up.

Helping to raise and nurture a little girl has really opened my eyes to female inequalities, especially regarding safety and boundaries.

I think that society needs to deal with the culture which dictates that women must be judged based upon appearance first, and everything else second. Maybe we should ban beauty pageants and Miss World as these sort of events only serve to reinforce the belief that a women's appearance defines her and what sort of person she is.

This links in with this thread because once again, even if a women if the victim of rape, she will still be wrongfully judged based upon what she was wearing.