But again, Scrazy, the focus on the things women need to do; it always is.
You never see dating advice for men, do you? You might see 'pulling' advice, but you simply never see dating nor relationship advice for men. So when someone trots out something like this yet again, even when some of the points might be sound enough when applied to either gender, all it makes you (well, me) want to do is roll my eyes and switch off.
And so, no, namechangeguy - we don't need to ask the woman in the article why she directed it at women. This sort of stuff is always directed at women. That's the reason it's rankling with so many of us..
I love the way that people need to twist and turn to deny this stuff, when it's so blatantly staring us all in the face. Why do people need to do this denial thing?
Actually, to be fair, I suppose I can sort of see why NCG might not 'get' it, given that as a man, he's not the one on the continual receiving end of this sort of stuff - dating advice, relationship advice, how to get a man, how to keep a man, etc. etc, ad nauseum, and so simply doesn't notice it.
Something like this in isolation is fine enough if you don't look at what she's saying too closely (although, even then, the fact that it's just directed at women means who don't exactly need finely honed analytical skills to see the main problem)... But, as always, the problem a lot of us have is with the bigger picture. Which so many people cannot or will not see.
The continual drip, drip, drip - women need to be in relationships, being single is to have failed, women need to be the ones to make the effort in relationships, women need to change themselves to be appealing to men.
It's annoying and depressing and corrosive and keeps people in unhappy relationships which impacts on everyone involved.
