This discusssion is particuarly relevant to me currently.I have been single for 8 years,have raised 2 dc by myself.I am a proud femininst and uttterly believe and attempt to live my life based on my own belefs and rules and not those administered by others.
That is until I started dating,I feel like I have been catupluted back in time to the 1850s ,so many artilcles and popular culture seems to be based on the idea off 'the rules'.
It is rarely that I overthink things but this dating lark seems to have fried my brain,everything seems to be viewed through the lense of women being pushy and needy, and desperately trying to capture a man.
Even when I say that I want an easygoing relationship, am not currently looking for something committed,that is seen as code for wanting to capture every man.I have my own home my own career,I dont want to marry or even live with a man.Just a few pints on the weekend and a bit of company thats it.
I have found that although often men will say that this is the relationship they want when offered this, the power balance shifts away from them ,and they dont like it.
I have annoyingly found myself not testing,ringing current beaus( yes more than one)in an effort to appear aloof ,cool and sophisticated.When actually I am not really any off those.I am easygoing,chatty and quite eccentric I think.
Without wanting to stereotype my countrymen,I live in a very rural isolated part of the west of Ireland,a femininst bastion it is not.I really feel stuck