Teenage boys' sexual harassment of teenage girls

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New study commissioned by the NSPCC shows worrying trends, although some of the reporting attempts to hide who the perpetrators actually are, calling the boys "friends" and "peers":

www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-18088334

"The in-depth interviews with 35 teenagers at two London schools found that girls as young as 11 were being asked to send "special photos" to boys who they knew.

In some cases, the girls had to write a name in black marker pen on a part of their body to show it was the "property" of a certain boy.

The teenagers also faced a "barrage" of messages from boys demanding for intercourse or oral sex."

This is what happens when you expose a generation of boys to pornography whilst at the same time forgetting to have a society that treats sexual crimes against women and girls as something serious.

Thanks, Lapsus. That's helpful.

I see that the only word in red on that NSPCC page is DONATE.

Yes, niceviper, I agree. I think a lot of it is putting in boundaries and encouraging ethical behaviour from a very young age. Then when they come to issues that they come across as teenagers, you can talk to them about that issue, but know that you have gone through general boundaries, compassion, kindness and so on over and over again at an earlier point.

It would be very difficult to resolve anything with teenagers without them having developed certain shared values as children.

You can't blame sexual harassment and sexual assault on the victims and expect victims to change their behaviour.

It makes no sense.

It does in relation to phone photos being taken and sent. The girls are not being sexually harassed or assaulted while they are doing it. They need to not be doing it.

This thread has a lot of valid points.

However it needs to be addressed boys did behave this way 10 years ago porn was transmitted through phones really nasty stuff but it was just beginning.

I suspect a lot of parents don't actually know what is available easily on the internet. Many parents are probably still of the opinion that porn on the internet still can only be accessed after a lot of teasing pop ups and a credit card input. Many people I speak to are horrified that hardcore porn can be viewed for free, simply by clicking a button that says "Yes I am over 18". Maybe if there was more awareness of this then parents would be stricter and start using parental controls more.

This is sickening behaviour from all involved, from the boys who think it is okay to ask a girl to create porn for him, to the girls who think that they only gain worth by becoming a sexual creature. The fault lies everywhere for this one.

^Yes, niceviper, I agree. I think a lot of it is putting in boundaries and encouraging ethical behaviour from a very young age. Then when they come to issues that they come across as teenagers, you can talk to them about that issue, but know that you have gone through general boundaries, compassion, kindness and so on over and over again at an earlier point.

It would be very difficult to resolve anything with teenagers without them having developed certain shared values as children.^

Lovely but alas, I suspect an ideal that is only attained by a minority. We can only hope that we can teach our children how to respect themselves and each other in the face of the media and societal barrage that shouts loudly that respectfulness is wrong.