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My husband talked my 3yr old DS out of choosing pink crocs..

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howdidthishappenthen · 20/04/2011 14:19

... and this saddens me. Pink is his favourite colour, and I'd said he could have them. Then DH picked up a pair with him whilst I wasn't there and he comes back with army camo ones. Why does it have to be such a big deal if a preschool boy likes pink ffs? DH is great generally about equality stuff, but has a thing about boys and pink. Sigh. Anyway - not really a point to this post apart from to share in the hope others might see why I'm disappointed. Noone I know IRL would see my point of view at all :-)

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SlightlyScrambled · 21/04/2011 11:49

It is a bit sad really. I hate all the gender typing that goes on with kids.

I am a bit shocked over Thomas the tank engine. That's just silly.

I got some clothes off a friend that she didn't want her ds wearing. Some had little flowers on them or a hem that looked wavy so was therefore "girly" and her 12 month old couldn't wear them. She knew i'd have no objections to putting dd in anything.

The next size crocs will have to be bought with OP, methinks.

FriedEggyAndSlippery · 21/04/2011 12:00

Don't usually venture on to this board but I had to post when I saw the title! Argh. Totally agree with you.

I belong to a local volunteer parents group and we all wear pink tops. My friend got a special one made for her baby boy and he wore it while we were working (at antenatal clinic so public place etc)

I was when she said she would have to change him before she got home to her DH. I mean WTF.

Goblinchild · 21/04/2011 12:12

'at the moment 9/10ths of her hand-me-downs are blues or neutrals!'

Why is that? I thought pink was his favourite colour. Doesn't he have any pink clothes?

Bunbaker · 21/04/2011 12:13

My gripe wouldn't be about the colour, but the choice of footwear. Crocs are vile!

WoTmania · 21/04/2011 21:17

Well, pink is a crap, watered down version of red BUT if your DS wants pink crocs then he should be able to have them. He's only 3 :(

I really hate this blue for boys, pink for girls. Short hair for boys, long hair for girls, etc.

BakeliteBelle · 22/04/2011 00:54

DS persuaded DH to buy him a pair of pink crocs last summer. The only thing that worried DH is what other kids might say about them.

We live in the sort of place where boys can get away with wearing pink but went on holiday to a resort - where anyone male was sporting an England shirt and most of the women were wearing white stiletto's - and DS got a really hard time from other boys.

He said to me recently while buying another pair of (white) crocs, 'I won't make the mistake of buying pink crocs again'.

Maybe your DH isn't being small-minded. Maybe he was just concerned about your DS getting the piss taken out of him

hmc · 22/04/2011 01:21

How old is ds? Could dh be concerned that ds might get mercilessly bullied by his peers? Perhaps it was just a pragmatic, realistic decision - we all have to live in society - we might not like it but there it is

hmc · 22/04/2011 01:23

Just seen he is only 3 - seems a bit OTT then. Unlikely to engender bad reaction from his pre-school buddies!

knit2tog · 22/04/2011 07:57

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JustCallMeGrouchy · 22/04/2011 08:10

ds2 age 14 has a pink shirt he loves and a purple one to and same in tshirts and he is very much male in his looks and appearnce and his attitude is i like it and i really dont care what others think .( he plays rugby ,sports etc is academic ) .But as a child he loved playimng and had own dolls etc but outgrew when he was ready .

oh and when i said about pink crocs on a 3yo ds he was and whats wrong with that he is 3 !!.If he can see that at 14 .Think a lot seems to be men worrying that there ds may turn out girly or gay etc .

WoTmania · 22/04/2011 09:09

hmc - you'd be surprised. DS1 had lovely long hair and got teased and called a girl at preschool. I also overheard a boy chanting 'gayboy' at another child . I reported this to the staff who dealt with it but some of the parents start their sexist/homophobic and often racist conditioning very early

ReshapeWhileDamp · 22/04/2011 09:40

If we're choosing between several of the same item in different colours - bucket and spade, easter egg decorations - DS1 frequently picks pink. He loves most colours but pink really appeals, though if you asked him, he'd say his favourite was blue. Or red. I enjoy it while I can, because I know damn well I can't bring him up in a gender-neutral bubble and that all too soon, he's going to be swayed by preschool, tv and stupid passers-by. and the poisonous opinions of MIL

nickelbaalamb · 22/04/2011 10:36

another thing that doesn't help is that some football teams do their children's replica kit in pink.

DH is a Chelsea fan, and I obbiosuly don't want any child of mine dressed in a Chelsea kit (i don't think they do Notts County in a baby size!) .
We were talking with one of his workmates the other day about it, and I said about not wanting child to havea chelsea kit, and mate said "oh, well, of course, it migth be a girl, they do pink baby kits" I had a rigth go at him, saying what colour did the Chelsea Ladies' team play in? was it pink? no, then why on earth would a baby girl's kit be a different colour from that???
How much of a tit must a girl look wearing a football kit that isn't in the team's colours?

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