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Three Women by Lisa Taddeo
A strange thing. A non fiction book about female sexual desire, focusing on 3 individual stories.
There is good here, definitely. There are some beautifully crafted individual sentences about women and sex that really resonated with me and I went so far as to note the quotes in the reading app I use.
BUT
despite the odd pearl of a sentence it frequently feels surface and not remotely insightful whatsoever.
Even though it is "real womens stories" they feel both bizarrely fictional and bizarrely cliched.
Lina is a loveless marriage and is having an affair with Aidan. She is so desperate for love that she is ignoring all the obvious red flags.
Maggie is trying to prosecute her high school teacher for grooming her. It's My Dark Vanessa but less well written.
Sloane is in a marriage which is blatantly both coercive and abusive. She has normalised it, and does not contemplate escape.
Of these Lina and Maggie are unfortunately real people who feel like stereotypes. Maggie dominates the book and Lina comes second.
The woman in the truly interesting, complex and damaging situation is Sloane, she is barely in it. I felt she had been really shortchanged. She is depicted at times as being personality free, a hollow empty vessel who exists for mens pleasure and defines herself that way. Like a hollow shell or an empty vase. Unworthy of female empathy and unlikeable. I thought it was unkind on the real Sloane.
Not a patch on the buzz it got, and many of the revelations here are only revelations to younger women not those seasoned by their 40s and MN Relationships board. I will be immediately buying it for a much younger female friend though as I think it will be of value for her.
Less than the sum of its parts