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The Gift Of Fear by Gavin de Becker
I can say, without question, that this is the WORST book I've read in the last 5 years hands DOWN.
It's hard to know where to start but I'll give it a try.
Within 50 pages you know that the author is a Grade A arsehole, relentlessly boasting of his successes and personal connections. A total ego trip, completely self aggrandising and tone-deaf as to how it comes across.
The very first concrete example he gives is an exercise in gobsmacking victim blaming
Man rapes woman
Second man (the author) tells woman why she particularly fell victim and what she should have done to prevent it... I mean, Christ.
At times it is so patronising it is embarrassing and it really really plays like the author instead of advising on how to use fear is deliberately trying to terrify women into questioning their every interaction. There is a lot of quite sinister scaremongering. It really does feel like he looks down on women as a lesser less intelligent sex.
There is this really cringey bit where a man had killed his first wife but his new girlfriend didn't take it as a sign he might be violent. Laughably simplistic examples like that.
There's a really long section that can basically be summarised as Everyone You Work With Is Probably A Murderer, which is designed to help you figure out which one of your colleagues is most likely to start a mass shooting. Obviously less relevant in the UK
Finally it is written in such a cheesy dated manner that it's quite nauseating eg
Bob, a neurosurgeon and his wife Linda
God it's so grim
As to instinct and intuition (the reason I bought the book) there is nothing in here that wasn't better expressed and explained by my Grandmother and she also taught me a lot more than appears in these pages.
Absolutely hideous. Would only recommend for sport, in a witness the shitness sense.