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Ten days - lost 0.2 lbs - advice please

79 replies

NorthernDancer · 10/01/2026 08:00

Where am I going wrong? I have about 2 stone to lose. This is my regime:

Walk 4.5 miles a day - minimum
Weekly Pilates class
Varied diet - good portion control
No snacking
No alcohol
No added sugar
No caffeine
5 a day - minimum
12 - 14 hour fast in every 24 hours

My GP is unhappy with my weight, although the dietitian attached to the surgery has no issues with what it how much I am eating, so I started this on New Year's Day, basically tightening up how I live anyway.

My starting weight was 157 lbs. This morning, ten days later, I weighed in at 156.8 lbs.

Where am I going wrong? Any advice would be welcome.

OP posts:
Lemonthyme · 29/03/2026 09:25

InfoSecInTheCity · 29/03/2026 09:09

im 5ft 8 and my ideal weight according to the calculators is 141lb which puts me at about 23bmi so right in the middle of the healthy range. At 157lb, if the OP is a couple of inches shorter than me then 2 stone loss wouldn’t be an unreasonably low target.

Yeah but for the GP to be "unhappy" about the OP's weight it would have to be above a BMI of 25 and to be honest, considering how many people are that in the UK right now, I'd suggest that it would need to be significantly higher than 25 for most GPs to even comment.

Girlintheframe · 29/03/2026 09:39

The exercise you’re doing is great but will have minimal impact on your weight. Exercise is great for health but not fat loss.
You’ve never posted what you eat. The only way you can loose weight is to eat less than your TDEE. I’m not sure what height you are but I’m 5 foot 5, very active and only loose on 1500. The only way for me to do it is to track every single thing I eat. Otherwise bar a ‘rough’ guess I would have no idea how many calories I’m eating. It’s incredibly easy to eat too many cals sadly

HorrorFan81 · 30/03/2026 07:13

Are you weighing/measuring absolutely everything that you put in your mouth OP?

CelticSilver · 30/03/2026 07:56

God, your GP would hate me ...

MeridaBrave · 30/03/2026 08:35

IjustbelieveinMe · 28/03/2026 22:58

How can 157Ibs be 2 stone overweight, what’s your height?

If the op is around 5 foot it would be.

Lemonthyme · 30/03/2026 16:36

I have to admit I cannot track everything I eat. And I wonder if this is part of the problem with maintaining weight loss for people? The reason being I cook from scratch, a lot and going through the effort of calculating every calorie is massively time consuming and likely to drive me to eat processed foods more where it's calculated for me. That all said both natural and processed foods can have huge variation (20% is permitted in processed foods and natural variation occurs a lot). So when you count in all of that, it just makes it all really inaccurate as well as time consuming. That's before you get into the fact that LOADS of studies have found that calories (particularly in takeaways) are WILDLY wrong. For example, one study took 20 meals from popular chains. Only 10 were within the 20% permitted tolerance. Why you can’t trust the calories on the menu - Natural Resources Institute

What I do instead is prioritise fibre and protein with most of my diet being vegetables, fruit, meat, fish, pulses, nuts and seeds. Then all I do (apart from my 1 x 24 hour fast a week) is try to only eat when I'm hungry and stop when I'm full. The reason I think this is helpful as well is it discourages me from eating something when food isn't really what I need and I might reach for a low calorie but tasty food (e.g. a sub 100 cal snack because it fits into my calorie allowance) when what I really need is a hug but also I stay in touch with my body more and what it actually needs.

After successfully losing weight with calorie counting but then gaining it when I got bored calorie counting, I'm now pretty set that whatever habit I pick up to lose weight, I have to be prepared to do it for life. Because if I'm not, it will end up with weight gain eventually. And yep, I'm prepared to do 1 x 24 hour fast a week for life much more than I am prepared to count calories.

So fair enough those of you who are religious with calorie counting but I did want to share on the inaccuracy. Not many people seem to be aware how far out it can be. And if you think 20% is allowed, many people going for 1500 kcal per day could be 300 over without knowing. If that's someone who isn't active that could push them into gaining.

You'd think that errors didn't occur either. I saw a howler in Aldi the other day. Absolutely blatantly wrong. But despite it not being legal the chances of those products being recalled are close to zero.

Of course on average, mistakes and inaccuracies will probably even out over a while but if you regularly eat a certain food (prepared food particularly) and there is something systematic wrong (e.g. like that Aldi howler) then you might regularly be overeating without knowing.

I also feel different when I eat more vegetables, fibre and protein vs. other foods. It's a sample size of one but I did a calorie count on a breakfast recently which felt like a treat. Turned out to be <200 calories. But it's a breakfast that fills me up far more than any cereal (and it's easy to be >400 calories on cereal). But brains are funny aren't they? After realising it was low calorie, it seemed less satiating.

All of us are different though. Use what works for you.

Why you can’t trust the calories on the menu - Natural Resources Institute

We are all trying to make healthier food choices especially with the rise in cases of obesity and other diet-related health complications.

https://nri.org/latest/news/2023/why-you-cant-trust-the-calories-on-the-menu

loveyouradvice · 30/03/2026 17:26

@NorthernDancer I get that it's tough and can be demoralising but sadly we many of us need to learn how our own body loses weight, especially as we get older.

There are lots of concerned posters on here keen to help - how would you feel about posting a 3 day diary of what you eat? You'll get lots of useful feedback.

Each of us is an experiment of one. What works for me, might not work for you.
but its worth trying the ideas that most appeal from people's posts and seeing what works for you.

For me, it's definitely intermittent fasting - I eat in a 6-8 hour window each day, and shorter if I want to lose more weight, such as one day a week where I ate 500 calories in 30-60 minutes. And yes, to the 2l of water drunk through the day.

And my whole knowledge of what is actually healthy has changed. I now eat veggies and protein for breakfast, alongside a small yogourt and berries and muesli. Eating 100g of protein a day is very filling , coupled with lots of veggies, some berries and a bit of full fat yogourt and you will not get hungry. 30g of fibre or more really helps too - I actually eat more like 50-70g a day, but I accept that is extreme - and also delicious as lots of it is defrosted berries. And I genuinely now eat a square of 85pc dark chocolate and a couple of nuts as a treat.

Five years ago I never would have imagined writing this... we live, we learn and we have been given just one body so it is precious and worth it. Good luck - and do tap into other things you have succeeded with in life, however big or small. Reminding myself that I can do hard things really helped me - I even had it stuck on my bathroom mirror!!

hourglass2 · 30/03/2026 19:26

Are you drinking enough water and getting a good nights sleep? There are scientific studies showing if you're lacking on both it can reallly impact weight loss...

Lemonthyme · 30/03/2026 19:47

@loveyouradvice "I get that it's tough and can be demoralising but sadly we many of us need to learn how our own body loses weight, especially as we get older."

100% and what worked for me in my 20s and 30s doesn't work now.

I lost LOADS of weight in my 30s using the Paul McKenna book "I can make you thin", I kid you not, it felt like bloody magic, I was evangelical about it for years. But while I still think some aspects of that book are good (particularly some of the tips about loving yourself now, visualisation and mindful eating) I have now, finally accepted that in perimenopause that I can't eat what I want anymore and also that just eating to hunger cues no longer works on its own. Hence the once a week fast. The thing is the "tricks" in that book started working against me which was what was frustrating. But that's perimenopause for you. You wake up and suddenly it feels like you're in someone else's body in every single bloody way.

That's what drives me potty about the NHS advice. It's not even one size fits all and not individualised to the person. It's literally one size fits everyone.

I've said it before but I really wish there was a menopause clinic run by a super nurse (cape optional lol) who is trained up on the WHOLE BLOODY BODY EXPERIENCE of it all.

Lemonthyme · 30/03/2026 19:49

hourglass2 · 30/03/2026 19:26

Are you drinking enough water and getting a good nights sleep? There are scientific studies showing if you're lacking on both it can reallly impact weight loss...

Again, this goes back to the try what works for you bit. But the only thing that has really helped my sleep every night is when I gave up alcohol. Now a bad night sleep is, maybe 65% quality and 6 hours (and that's not very often) when it used to be 4 hours and 15% quality.

HeidiLite · 30/03/2026 20:03

try one of those AI apps that lets you take a photo and then calculates calories based on that. I have been on a diet most of my life so I thought I had a reasonable idea, but it's quite amazing how off one can be and how little I could really eat to actually lose weight. The apps will also add all the hidden calories like oil used for cooking etc. All you need to do is underestimate 100 kcal here, 200 there and there you are, wondering why you're not losing weight while supposedly eating in deficit.
If not losing then not in deficit.

hourglass2 · 30/03/2026 20:21

It's been studied many times that lack of sleep can hinder weight loss
Sleep Deprivation: Effects on Weight Loss and Weight Loss Maintenance - PMC

Lemonthyme · 30/03/2026 20:24

hourglass2 · 30/03/2026 20:21

It's been studied many times that lack of sleep can hinder weight loss
Sleep Deprivation: Effects on Weight Loss and Weight Loss Maintenance - PMC

I know, thanks for sharing it. It's one of the reasons that I did give up drinking. But I had many as drinking is associated with poor sleep and you could see it on my watch stats. My watch obviously didn't "know" when I'd had a drink but even one or two impacted my sleep quite badly. What I found out since was it was also impacted on non drinking days. It's only now I'm in an extended period of non drinking that I see all days improving. I even slept for over 9 hours recently which would have been unheard of even when ill.

hourglass2 · 30/03/2026 20:27

Lemonthyme · 30/03/2026 20:24

I know, thanks for sharing it. It's one of the reasons that I did give up drinking. But I had many as drinking is associated with poor sleep and you could see it on my watch stats. My watch obviously didn't "know" when I'd had a drink but even one or two impacted my sleep quite badly. What I found out since was it was also impacted on non drinking days. It's only now I'm in an extended period of non drinking that I see all days improving. I even slept for over 9 hours recently which would have been unheard of even when ill.

Yeah I've given up alcohol too, well not that I drank much tbh, I just found it not only added calories it always gave me the munchies which is no good!

Disturbia81 · 30/03/2026 20:27

How tall are you OP?
could you post typical days diet?
You are trying so hard, its very strange you haven’t lost in 3 months

RazzleDazz1e · 08/04/2026 22:41

Have you lost any weight OP?

NorthernDancer · 27/04/2026 08:42

No, in fact it's not even stable any more. It's now going up. I weighed myself this morning and I've put on 3lbs in the last week.

OP posts:
Lemonthyme · 27/04/2026 08:55

I'm so sorry you've gained.

I can only think about switching things up a little. Perhaps go for some more high intensity exercise rather than low? The intensity of exercise impacts how much energy you use not just how much / distance. Or mix it up with power walking with weights?

For example, I ran 8.3 miles this weekend and walked (in one walk) 8.7 miles. According to my watch at least, I burned nearly twice the calories on the run than the walk.

Also weight lifting is good for your body (shape) but also helps build muscle which burns more calories at rest.

Then on the food, try a few different things maybe? I did 5/2 for c. 6 months and it did nothing for me. I did the Paul McKenna "I can make you thin" in my 30s and lost c. 3 stone. Then I regained when I hit perimenopause, thought "ah, I must have drifted in behaviours" and did it again. Did nothing at all. I tried calorie counting which worked in my 20s. Didn't work.

So then I switched to 1 x 24 hour fast a week which is working. But I'm not saying that would work for you, just that I had to try lots of things that didn't work first (even things that used to work) and do work for others. Maybe 16/8 might help so just stretching your fasting period a little longer?

Fooledaroundandfellinlove · 27/04/2026 09:13

Can you afford and are willing to try the weight loss injections?

MightyGoldBear · 27/04/2026 11:09

Sorry it's a struggle op I sympathise it can be a minefield figuring out what will work for you personally.
For me I find fasting the easiest straight forward thing I can't count calories it just overwhelms me. So if I'm not losing I fast for longer. One meal a day or full 24hours.
I only see exercise as for health benefits. It is shockingly little how much we need to eat to lose or even maintain. I'm in my thirties so anticipating just a lettuce leaf when I hit menopause 😬 I'm trying to tackle it now so it's not such a battle as I age.

ChubbyGroundhog · 27/04/2026 11:12

Definitely too many calories. Are you sure you're reading your labels correctly? Weighing everything? 1500 might be too high for you. Exercise doesn't really do anything for weight loss but it's great for toning and health.

FormerFatty · 27/04/2026 11:13

Why not try mounjaro, OP?

VividDeer · 27/04/2026 14:11

Are you sure your scales is reliable?
Step on and off 10 times and see if you always get same number

HorrorFan81 · 27/04/2026 18:53

OP you can't make something out of nothing, I.e. you cannot put on fat when eating in a calorie deficit. You can temporarily retain water and you can build muscle (although thats a long slow process). Are you definitely weighing and measuring everything you put in your mouth, every single day including weekends? Are you drinking alcohol? What is your TDEE and how many calories a day are you eating, what do you believe your deficit to be?

ApolloandDaphne · 28/04/2026 07:09

I hear you. My body hates me trying lose weight too. It's very frustrating and people tend not to believe that you are in a calorie deficit but still not losing.