Can a two year old walk me down the aisle?

[missrhib]

I'm not close to my parents, and so I thought it would be more meaningful for my son, who will be 2 and almost a half when we get married, to walk me down the aisle. I even thought that the vicar could ask instead 'who brings this mummy to be married to this daddy?' or something, to which he could answer 'I do'. However, right now at 19 months old he isn't good at holding hands with you and walking, he prefers to run off in the opposite direction. Will he be capable of walking me down the aisle by the time he reaches 2? Has anyone had their young child walk down the aisle either with them or as part of the procession? Thanks in advance!

I too find it slightly nauseating, but each to their own. It is not meaningful at all as he won't have any idea what is going on - but your wedding, so up to you.

I think it'll be lovely.

But I think you'll have to accept the loveliest aspect will be a 2yo who are random at the best of times stealing the show as you go down the aisle!

As long as your happy to accept when confronted with a church/room full of guests who all turn to stare at him it could go any which way - it'll be worth it.

Mine did. He wasn’t meant to though!

I am inclined to agree Words.
I find it odd that a toddler would be "giving away" their Mummy - even symbolically. I'm going to presume he is too young to understand what you are asking him to do at the moment but if he looks at photos / asks about it / is reminded of it when he is a bit older, it will seem a bit odd.

and if it's a church wedding, the PP who said you can't change the words is correct.

It isn't correct in my Church @Toddlerteaplease. It may be in yours, but there are several denominations of Christianity you know.

My DS gave me away but he was 11 at the time. Was a very special moment for us both.

I also don't really like the idea of children "giving you away". My son will always have me, he can't give me away. But I can see that other people don't think that way, maybe I'm just over sensitive to it for whatever reason.

My 2 and a half year old was supposed to walk down the aisle with my bridesmaid but he'd fallen asleep on his Nanny's lap and stayed asleep for the whole ceremony😂🤦‍♀️

If it's looking likely that it won't go to plan could you perhaps surreptitiously bribe him to get him to go the right direction?

Get the groom / best man to have sweets or something and tell him you're going to walk to the front and x will give him some sweets?

It'd have to be something he can get into himself with minimal rustling though...

'do you take this man...'
'Muuummmm! Can you open my sweets?! Muuumm!'

Lovely idea. Just have someone reliable to grab him if he makes a run for it.

To me, it sounds like the sort of thing people do so they can put the ‘cute’ video on social media & get lots of views/likes.

You don’t need a 2 year old male to ‘give you away’. You could walk down together as a couple with your child. That’d have the requisite level of cuteness without being too cringy (or patriarchal).

I think it sounds really cute! DD was just turned 2 when she was a flower girl, and walked down the aisle, and she was first in the procession. DH walked with her, and she was as good as gold. Perhaps make sure he can have a nap beforehand and is well fed and might be a bit more likely to toe the line!