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wedding readings- help!

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daydream86 · 05/01/2018 21:44

we’re getting married in three months and the time has come to decide on our vows and readings,.
Im really having trouble with picking out some readings though. some of our closest friends and family have got married recently and had lovely readings with lovely sentiment, which if they’d not used we’d have chosen ourself! but any readings
I can find on pinterest just, fall short somehow. two I really lived and can’t have are: SIL had an exert from captain corellis mandarin,
and I read “the art of marriage” for one of my best friends recently, so we’d going along the lines of that sentiment. we’ve been together 10
years and have a child
so the young rush of love stuff is out, realism and a bit of humour in the mix would be welcome, please can anybody suggest your favourite readings or exerts? thanks x

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minniemoll · 06/01/2018 15:13

We had The Owl and the Pussycat as one of ours, which was lovely - some of the guests were a little confused until the part about the ring was reached but then they loved it!

Ginandplatonic · 06/01/2018 15:16

We had "On Marriage" from The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran when getting married in similar circumstances to you.

ILookedintheWater · 06/01/2018 15:21

Humour:
I Rely on You by Hovis Presley www.hovispresley.co.uk/some_poems.html

ILookedintheWater · 06/01/2018 15:31

Good sense and pragmatism:
from Chapter 3 of Three men in a boat by Jerome K. Jerome.

The first list we made out had to be discarded. It was clear that the upper reaches of the Thames would not allow of the navigation of a boat sufficiently large to take the things we had set down as indispensable; so we tore the list up, and looked at one another!
George said:
"You know we are on a wrong track altogether. We must not think of the things we could do with, but only of the things that we can't do without."
George comes out really quite sensible at times. You'd be surprised. I call that downright wisdom, not merely as regards the present case, but with reference to our trip up the river of life, generally. How many people, on that voyage, load up the boat till it is ever in danger of swamping with a store of foolish things which they think essential to the pleasure and comfort of the trip, but which are really only useless lumber.
How they pile the poor little craft mast-high with fine clothes and big houses; with useless servants, and a host of swell friends that do not care twopence for them, and that they do not care three ha'pence for; with expensive entertainments that nobody enjoys, with formalities and fashions, with pretence and ostentation, and with — oh, heaviest, maddest lumber of all! — the dread of what will my neighbour think, with luxuries that only cloy, with pleasures that bore, with empty show that, like the criminal's iron crown of yore, makes to bleed and swoon the aching head that wears it!
It is lumber, man — all lumber! Throw it overboard. It makes the boat so heavy to pull, you nearly faint at the oars. It makes it so cumbersome and dangerous to manage, you never know a moment's freedom from anxiety and care, never gain a moment's rest for dreamy laziness — no time to watch the windy shadows skimming lightly o'er the shallows, or the glittering sunbeams flitting in and out among the ripples, or the great trees by the margin looking down at their own image, or the woods all green and golden, or the lilies white and yellow, or the sombre- waving rushes, or the sedges, or the orchis, or the blue forget-me-nots.
Throw the lumber over, man! Let your boat of life be light, packed with only what you need — a homely home and simple pleasures, one or two friends, worth the name, someone to love and someone to love you, a cat, a dog, and a pipe or two, enough to eat and enough to wear, and a little more than enough to drink; for thirst is a dangerous thing.
You will find the boat easier to pull then, and it will not be so liable to upset, and it will not matter so much if it does upset; good, plain merchandise will stand water. You will have time to think as well as to work. Time to drink in life's sunshine — time to listen to the aeolian music that the wind of God draws from the human heart-strings around us — time to -
I beg your pardon, really. I quite forgot.

TheRattleBag · 06/01/2018 18:12

There are a couple of lovely ones from Winnie The Pooh on here:

www.hitched.co.uk/chat/forums/thread/wedding-reading-something-a-bit-different-315813/

daydream86 · 06/01/2018 18:47

I really like “on marriage” by kahlil gibran but I read it for my best friend in 2015 and come to think of it they had the bob marley one too argh! so that’s them two, captain corelli and the art of marriage which we can’t reallt have x

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daydream86 · 06/01/2018 18:47

today was a bit hectic, when little ones in bed later i’m going to have a good shift through all of your suggestions x

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CalpolandCoke · 06/01/2018 18:55

A Walled Garden
‘Your marriage’, he said, ‘Should have within it a secret protected place, open to you alone. Imagine it to be a walled garden. Entered by a door to which only you have the key. Within this garden you will cease to be a mother, father, employee, homemaker or any other role which you fulfil in daily life. Here you are yourselves, two people who love each other. Here you can concentrate on one another’s needs. So take my hand and let us go back to our garden. The time we spend together is not wasted but invested. Invested in our future and the nurture of our love.’

CalpolandCoke · 06/01/2018 18:56

On Your Wedding Day
Today is a day you will always remember
The greatest in anyone’s life
You’ll start off the day just two people in love
And end it as Husband and Wife

It’s a brand new beginning the start of a journey
With moments to cherish and treasure
And although there’ll be time when you both disagree
These will surely be outweighed by pleasure

You’ll have heard many words of advice in the past
When the secrets of marriage were spoken
But you know that the answers lie hidden inside
Where the bond of tru love lies unbroken

So live happy forever as lovers and friends
It’s the dawn of a new life for you
As you stand there together with love in your eyes
From the moment you whisper ‘I do’

And with luck, all your hopes, and your dreams can be real
May success find its way to your hearts
Tomorrow can bring you the greatest of joys
But today is the day it all starts.

ineedamoreadultieradult · 06/01/2018 18:57

A lovely love story. I forget who wrote it.

saladdays66 · 06/01/2018 19:00

Edwin Muir’s The Confirmation - lovely poem

www.poemhunter.com/poem/the-confirmation/

RowenaDedalus · 06/01/2018 19:05

A Dedication to My Wife by T.S. Eliot

To whom I owe the leaping delight
That quickens my senses in our wakingtime
And the rhythm that governs the repose of our sleepingtime,
The breathing in unison
Of lovers whose bodies smell of each other
Who think the same thoughts without need of speech
And babble the same speech without need of meaning.
No peevish winter wind shall chill
No sullen tropic sun shall wither
The roses in the rose-garden which is ours and ours only
But this dedication is for others to read:
These are private words addressed to you in public.

RowenaDedalus · 06/01/2018 19:06

Although the 'lovers whose bodies smell of each other' makes me cringe

PUGaLUGS · 06/01/2018 19:08

DH had to do a reading at his friends wedding.

He read "You are the bubbles".

RowenaDedalus · 06/01/2018 19:10

Now comes the knitting, the tying, the entwining into one, Mysterious involvement of two, whole separate people
Into something altogether strange and changing, new and lovely. Nothing can ever be, we will never be, the same again;
Not merged into each other irrevocably, but rather
From now on we go the same way, in the same direction, Agreeing not to leave each other lonely, or discouraged, or behind, I will do my best to keep my promises to you and keep you warm; And we will make our wide bed beneath the bright and ragged quilt of
All the yesterdays that make us who we are,
The strengths and frailties we bring to this marriage,
And we will be rich indeed.

daydream86 · 09/01/2018 21:57

Thankyou everybody for your help we’ve finally decided on “A vow” by Wendy Cope, and “A lovely love story” which we thought was really sweet and contrasted well with it. we had an exert from the film “Juno” which came very close third but it’s quite short so i’ve decided to frame it and have it on the cake table, and on our bedroom wall thereafter 😊...

...“Look, in my opinion, the best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you. The right person is still going to think the sun shines out of your ass. That’s the kind of person that’s worth sticking with.” —Juno’s dad

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HumbleCrumble · 09/01/2018 22:49

Good choices! We're having The Vow too, and Scaffolding :)

PerspicaciaTick · 10/01/2018 00:01

If you are going to have "A lovely love story" please make sure that the person reading it has practised and does it justice. Done clearly and confidently it is a lovely reading, but it is quite long and I've heard it being droned and/or stumbled over terribly.

daydream86 · 10/01/2018 08:21

@perspicacia thanks for the tip, I’m sure my bestie will give it her all but just to make sure I’ll be sure to get all bridezilla on her ass in the run up and make her recite it to me several times 😀

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StylishDuck · 10/01/2018 08:26

@ineedamoreadultieradult A Lovely Love Story was by Edward Monkton. We had this at our wedding. I like it, it's quirky but the sentiment is really nice.

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