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Has anyone actually been to a good wedding?

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ExpatMrs · 22/08/2017 06:22

Don't get me wrong, I love all these posts about horror weddings, they're a great giggle, but has anyone been to a wedding and had a great time?
Having been a BM 12 too many times Shock, I've certainly thoroughly enjoyed some but maybe others, not so much!

I totally loved mine and people still say to us (unprompted) that they had a ball. I think I learned from watching other bridezillas that you should just go with the flow and enjoy your day.

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lalaloopyhead · 22/08/2017 07:22

My sister had a lovely wedding. Ceremony in her Dh local village church, so fairly traditional. Then reception at the village hall with lovely catered meal with lots of cakes followed by country dancing.

annandale · 22/08/2017 07:25

A friend's. Church service followed by buffet in a room above a pub. Everything done on a shoestring but they were all performers so guests did all the music which was fantastic and personal. Friend wore a dress second hand from the market, I've never seen a more beautiful bride. Large Irish contingent so people actually talked and enjoyed themselves with no empty seats. They're still married too...

DameSquashalot · 22/08/2017 07:25

Loads.

TheGirlOnTheLanding · 22/08/2017 07:29

Several. But for me, all these details (location, food, decor etc) didn't have anything to do with it - it depends on the people there, so the best have been the weddings where there were loads of people we knew/liked invited or where we met lovely people to chat to. The worst have been the ones where we didn't know anyone and didn't hit it off with the people on our table so you're stuck making small talk for hours. Unfortunately, mists brides and grooms don't have a lot of control over a large proportion of their guests so it's whether you've got lovely family and friends to celebrate with that matters!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 22/08/2017 07:34

I love weddings. Haven't been to one I haven't enjoyed yet.

Spudlet · 22/08/2017 07:42

I've never been to a bad one, really. Some have been better than others, but I've enjoyed them all.

Obviously ours was the best Grin

Actually I think the best was our friends who had their reception in a barn on his parents' farm. The barn had been full of grain a couple of weeks before, but my friend is an artist and the place looked beautiful. They had a caliedh band and lots of cider. The vicar's wife crashed into a tree at one point, due to over enthusiastic spinning, and we had an intense debate over what a right-hand circle actually entailed (one of the guys in our circle was an engineer so it all got a bit technical!).

It was hilarious.

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 22/08/2017 07:48

Far more wonderful weddings than shit ones although I have been to a few very shit ones
What's not to love? Happy people, drinking, dancing and eating... it's my idea of fun anyway. I never get all the MN hate for a wedding.

Roussette · 22/08/2017 07:58

I love weddings!

autumngold6 · 22/08/2017 08:03

Oh The Roses - why were guests asked to wear raincoats??

GeekyWombat · 22/08/2017 08:11

I liked our wedding because, frankly, we paid the bare minimum to fulfil our families' expectations of what a wedding should be, and ended up married. It was lovely. Also, we had a wedding 'cake' of tiers of cheese - eating smoked cheddar and chutney half drunk at 11am with some of my best friends, my nan and my new husband all nattering about nothing in particular (and my nan holding her own 'with the youth' as she put it) is one of my favourite memories of the day.

I also went to a wedding where the couple paid their local Indian restaurant to cater. Four kinds of curry, naan bread, poppadoms, rice, bhajis, chutneys, as much as you liked and just wonderful. They just kept popping two doors down to the restaurant to bring new vats of food. It was lovely. Everyone was well fed and happy.

ExpatMrs · 22/08/2017 08:12

Exactly EverythingEverywhere1234, I don't understand all the MN hate about them either. I was starting to think I was weird for enjoying them. We've had quite a good few in recent years and whilst not a cheap time (we live overseas so have flights, hire car & accommodation above gifts and outfits to always include), I'm genuinely looking forward to the next one we are invited to (next summer in Budapest)

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PolarBearGoingSomewhere · 22/08/2017 08:14

I've been to (I think) 9 weddings as an adult and they were all lovely - funny speeches, sweet moments, lots of dancing, plenty of food... obviously I have my favourites but that's more based on the emotion I felt for the couple so hardly objective.

I have been to 4 as a child - two featured fights and nosebleeds.

0 divorces out of the weddings I've attended Shock

Maybe it's just that the novelty hasn't worn off (I'm late 20s) but I bloody love a good wedding. I've always been mega excited to get an invitation!

ExpatMrs · 22/08/2017 08:14

GeekyWombat
We had a Cake of Cheese too (neither of us are sweet toothed and the guests had dessert as part of the dinner) but I never got a bit of it.
Too busy dancing and chatting away to my guests. Looked bloody fabulous as well!

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ExpatMrs · 22/08/2017 08:16

PolarBear - that's excellent divorce stats! How good to have a happy ending (nosebleeds aside!) Grin

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ThisIsNotARealAvo · 22/08/2017 08:22

I've only been to one that I didn't enjoy, and that was down to the fact that I didn't know anyone and I found it hard to chat to people at that one.

Every other wedding I've been to has been friendly and the food and drink has been plentiful. At DB and SIL's wedding there was a bit of a lull between the day and evening, DH and I went to our room for a rest but for people who weren't staying that must have been a pain.

Yowser · 22/08/2017 08:28

My brother's was the best. Very low key, registry office do. His first wedding and her second. She wanted to wear the full bridal gear as she hadn't had the chance to at her first wedding so she was totally done up. No wedding cars so she strode down the street in all her finery.

We all giggled our way through the ceremony at my brother's middle names.

There were only about 20 of us (just close family) so we all walked to a local harvester where everyone paid for their own meal. No speeches. We were then all sent on our way so that the bride and groom could go to the pub with their friends.

There was something really lovely about the day. It was probably that they were so happy to be getting married and we all just laughed so much, it was great fun.

Another good wedding was at the complete end of the spectrum. Bride and groom had hired a castle for the wedding and for guests to stay in. Bride was very horsey and so she had her horses brought to the castle and they both rode them up the drive (groom had had lessons especially). Very emotional speeches and everyone cried, it was lovely. Great disco etc. Fireworks outside the castle at the end of the night. We had a lovely time. Sadly the marriage only lasted a couple of years as he left saying some crap about knowing at the time that the wedding was a mistake blah, blah, blah

StepAwayFromCake · 22/08/2017 08:36

Every wedding I have ever attended has been lovely. None majorly fancy, none extremely basic. Some more fun than others. All good-natured, happy for the couple, happy to see old friends again, happy to meet friends' dps and dcs. Interesting to experience the different wedding customs of different religions and countries. Never seen any fights or nastiness at all. Though did hear, after one wedding, that the bride's parents had given her what-for for excluding her own four nieces and nephews.

The first civil wedding I ever attended rather appalled me, as it was so dry and conveyor-belt-like, but the rest of the event was as lovely as any other wedding I've ever been to. And I have since been to lovely civil ceremonies, too.

I've made the wedding cake for a few friends. That's a scary responsibility. The first time and the last! that I used royal icing, i was so nervous of the cake being damaged in transit that I made the icing far too hard, and, it turned out, far too thick. The B & G couldn't cut it! They gave up on the cake-cutting photos and feeding each other ritual, and started the party, while the hotel chef brought out an enormous knife and a meat-tenderiser, and he and I tried to chisel our way into the cake.

I was so embarrassed to spoil things for them, I didn't know whether to laugh or to cry. I kept glimpsing the bride's face slipping into cat's bum. She did not look happy at all. Groom later told me that she was, indeed, upset at first, but she saw the funny side when the chef in his tall hat and whites, and I in my party frock and heels, were hammering away at the cake with such focus and sincerity. But she didn't want to embarrass me by laughing!

I do love a wedding Smile

SadieContrary · 22/08/2017 15:35

StepAwayFromCake
I'm imagining you in your finery battering away at this cake! It's a good story now but I can also imagine your horror at time.

I think the general consensus of this thread is that if there's enough booze then the wedding will be a success!

fucksakefay · 22/08/2017 15:39

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Littlecaf · 26/08/2017 22:39

Best wedding was where the brides brother stood by the bar all evening & paid for everyone's drinks. That one also had all the trimmings, personalised favours, fireworks, a band etc. We knew most of the people there so was very fun.

I very much enjoyed another friends wedding which was in a church then vintage bus too the reception in a pretty church hall, afternoon tea then a band was also good. The bride had put so much effort in with bunting, sweet table, sourced China tea cups & saucers from charity shops, checked table cloths, homemade cake, vintage bridesmaid dresses etc. The whole day was wonderful. But......it was a byo wedding, i.e. Bring your own booze. It descended into carnage about 10.30pm with a couple of fights. There is a reason why licencing laws exist.

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