but i was referring to posts plural, dejags, not just yours, although your 'just another thing to make mothers feel guilty about' crack does get on my nerves as what is anyone supposed to make of it? it also got on my nerves, frankly, when enid made the same crack a few months ago and it was roundly and politely rebutted.
guilt is an endemic condition in mothers, i know plenty of women who've felt guilty about their child not eating healthy enough purees etc etc etc ad infinitum. so, just another thing? join the queue... all this superior/inferior stuff is a yawn... we all want to try to do the best for our children and we make our peace with ourselves when we don't. Not that BLW is by definition the best way, but it is a way and if it works for people it's hardly surprising that they'd want to evangelise about it. if you don't fancy it, step away.
the point is that you can't fail at BLW, nor can your baby. you can, if you think that it's not making either of you happy and well (such as soupy's wee girl who really didn't take to it) sensibly abandon it in favour of something that does work, which was a classic mix of finger food and purees in her case. as it happens, soupy's dd is the only BLW refusenik i've seen on this site (not a scientific sample, i'm aware).
and i think that the research does make it completely clear why it's not just finger foods. i can't help it if you feel condescended towards, tbh dejags. i'm not in that great a mood myself this morning, i've got too much on as usual. but i've never seen a on a BLW thread, i must've missed that.
and what enid refers to, re starving, is about a thread i was involved in. you can't starve a child who is being milk fed. you can, however, dial back the solids if your child is not responding well to weaning and up the milk. the mantra is 'until they're one it's just for fun' ergo, if it isn't fun you can drop it for a while. dd, when she's teething, very often goes back onto milk for a few days and pretty much ignores food. that's not uncommon, of course, but at least BLW gives you the leeway not to give a stuff about it.