Should I tell someone about affair 6 years later…

[Newnamenancy90]

I fell in love with someone 6 years ago. I was single, he had a long term girlfriend who he lived with.
said he was in love with me too, was going to leave her, the usual blah blah. He pursued me originally.
I sent the partner an anonymous message at the time telling her he was cheating and she didn’t believe it so carried on their relationship as normal.
I heard from his colleague that he told her someone was jealous of their relationship and trying to ruin it. 🫠 He never did leave her and then they had a child 4 years ago.
i’m bitter I’ll admit. Do I tell her all these years later - I have photos and messages. Or let it be?

As The Beatles and Curtis Mayfield said (separately) let it be and move on up.

Ooh dear. You need to move on. Forget it. Stop stewing. Not your circus, not your monkeys.

Yes, destroying an innocent 4 year olds life is exactly the right thing to do because you are jealous that he chose his gf and not you. You can dress it up as "helping her find out the truth" but it would be done out of spite. Leave it.

But you've already told her. She chose not to believe you. You're actually considering forcing her to believe you out of spite? This is your take away from the experience?

No words.

You did tell her. what would telling her again achieve? honestly if you're still stewing on this from 6 years ago I would deff consider some councelling as its clear you are struggling to move past this

So you're asking if it's ok to be spiteful?

You've told her once. And you've already hurt her by having the affair.

But you want to twist the screw even more?

She didn’t believe it so no harm done

This

What would you gain?

No move on!

Thanks everyone for your input so far.
wondered if you were the woman he was with, wouldn’t you like to know what your fiance had been up to, even though it was 6 years ago?

No. No. No. This is about you now, not about them. Move on, look after yourself, focus on making good choices.

But you said she didn't believe you. Why would she believe you now?

You're trying to make out that this is some kind of decent gesture when it's actually potentially blowing up a family.

Come on, you're better than this.

No not if it ended 6 years ago and he changed his ways nothing good would come from knowing