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Did you have a horrible (teaching) experience? How did you get over it?

32 replies

elderflowerlemonade · 21/06/2015 16:56

Anyone fancy sharing?

Mine was in 2011. I haven't really worked since.

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DriftingOff · 24/06/2015 10:35

Get a job doing something other than teaching then. You sound a bit defeatist in your later posts OP? There's an awful lot of jobs and careers out there besides teaching, and you don't need to retrain for most of them.
If you're desperate to get back into teaching, then could you do some voluntary work for a school, or other youth organisation (brownies/scouts/guides etc.), and then use this as a reference to get some kind of school based paid employment, with a view to eventually applying for normal teaching posts? I met a mum recently who took a 12 year career break, and managed to get a job back in teaching without too much trouble (secondary chemistry though). Lots of people take 5 year career breaks.

elderflowerlemonade · 24/06/2015 14:28

That's encouraging. What did she do about references?

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amarmai · 24/06/2015 15:52

Retired teacher with stories that would turn anyone off teaching. We have a naive belief that people who do helping jobs are somehow better than other human beings e.g. teachers, nurses, child care workers etc. Not so- a job is a job is a job. The great thing about teaching is any little bit of progress you help a child to make. Trust your own belief in yourself doing a worthwhile job and ignore the assholes.

Blackandwhitecat3 · 10/07/2015 17:08

Elderflower I had a terrible experience some years back - difficult children but totally undermined by SLT and both heads of dept. HoDs both lied to me continuously, and advised me to do things then criticised me for it. Said children were in trouble with the police for on-school incidents (not related to me) but somehow everything that went wrong in my classroom was entirely my fault.

I very quickly went downhill and became very ill. I went on sick leave and in the end I quit. I didn't think I'd ever teach again. I had a lot of therapy. In the end I had nearly 2 years break from teaching (doesn't sound long now, but it did then), filled the time with some study and some totally-unrelated part time work and then started with some tutoring. Eventually I applied for teaching jobs in the private sector, was totally open about my experiences and mental illness, but stated clearly that I felt ready to get back into the classroom. I gave references from my previous schools and from my part-time non-teaching job. I just ignored the awful school completely in terms of references. I was pleasantly surprised by how many schools interviewed me.

I haven't looked back. I will never ask myself to teach in a difficult school again, it's just not for me (although I had worked in an even more difficult school before that but with hugely supportive colleagues and SMT, so it was OK).

I hope that you have the courage to do whatever is right for you.

BoysRule · 20/07/2015 13:56

I recently got a new job teaching after a 3 year break. I worked in some terrible schools where staff turnover is very high and found it hard to get references as everyone had left who knew me.

Fortunately the job I just got didn't offer me on condition of references. They haven't been able to get any from my previous teaching roles and I am having to provide character references from a voluntary role I do.

I worked in a school where the Head Teacher openly made sexist, racist and completely inappropriate comments to pupils and staff. The Governors were desperate to get rid of him but needed statements from staff. Whilst he was suspended I agreed to give a statement. However, they couldn't get enough to get rid of him as everyone was too scared. The TA that he was sleeping with told him that I had given a statement when he returned, and my work life was made very difficult. I felt very strongly that he should have been fired and I wanted to support the Governors but I was left wishing that I had just kept quiet like everyone else.

Woodlandwildling · 13/03/2025 09:40

I'm thankful to find this thread. I was excited to go into art teaching in the early 2000's but left after my first year of teaching. I am now retraining and returning to teach adults and realise, now with all the changes to policies, what a horrendous experience I had. In my first teaching post, I was bullied by the two heads of year that I taught under - a woman, who was a complete so in so and a male who was the same. They hated each other and used me as 'piggy in the middle'.

Neither of them nurtured me as a young teacher. The female head of department jealously guarded her role, students and the role of the teacher that I was providing maternity cover for.

She set out to sabotage my reputation with my students and other staff. Emotionally abused me and ridiculed me in front of students. Her discipline of students I didn't agree with either. I had not been properly equipped by the old-fashioned tutors on my teaching course (who were out of touch with modern teaching) or teaching experience to manage classrooms (I wish I had the standard of training that I know now from being a parent of two and daughter with special needs).

At break times, she ignored me in the staff room and gossiped with another teacher - they were bosom buddies. He never spoke to me and was obviously poisoned by her. She showed me up in front of him also. I felt totally alone, until a lovely teacher noticed and chatted to me at break times. Another teacher noticed I was struggling and supported me in class.

The male head got me to research and write a new GCSE course for the school with very little input, praise or feedback.

By the end of the first term I was regularly absent with recurring viral infections and was off sick when the post ended. I was relieved to move onto a new post, but this first post had shattered my confidence and passion for teaching, I left teaching after another two terms. When my two children started school I felt traumatised to even set foot in their schools! I really did not like waiting around in the playground for them. I expect those two teachers are still teaching at that school, they were imbedded in the woodwork. The female teacher was popular with students and parents, however, no one saw how she treated me, she was a narcissistic bully. I did not realise how bitchy teaching could be in schools before I went into it!

Even some of the interviews I had were conniving and bitchy. One school had a teacher come and talk to the interviewees as we nervously waited in the staff room for our interviews. I saw straight through the ruse right away - she was the drama teacher playing the role of the gossipy teacher - seeing which of us would bite and gossip about our teaching colleagues. Some of the other interviewees fell for it. Then the interview was with two professionals trained in psychological testing. Finally, I got to meet the smug head teacher, who I didn't take to, who told me I'd been unsuccessful but I was a close choice. I had a lucky escape as the school must have had some staffing issues with the rigmarole I had to go through!

In another interview, for a girl's school, I could tell I didn't have a chance from the start as one of the other interviewees was an ex pupil who was very matey with the existing art teacher. The head was lovely and I think was sorry she couldn't give me the post - obviously overruled by the art teacher and the ex pupil who got the post.

Lancrelady80 · 18/03/2025 20:59

Supply saved me. I ended up being repeatedly requested by particular schools, two of whom offered me longer term posts.

Don't want to go into experiences of two toxic schools as can't relive those again, but they destroyed my mental health for a good while and even now I am utterly, utterly paranoid and sure that I am a useless teacher, letting kids and staff down, not doing enough...

BUT we had OFSTED in today and they were incredibly kind (!) and positive, and had lots of good things to say so I am going to try to use that to combat the scarring and damage from the early years of my career.

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