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Rescue cat seems upset on return from cattery

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Cleanmean · 28/12/2021 06:46

Our rescue cat has been with us about 6 months now, we were on holiday recently and put him in a cattery. All seemed well, the cattery owner said he was absolutely fine. Since coming home he seems confused and on edge. When he first came to us it took him some time to feel safe and not be jumpy all the time, but he seems to have regressed a bit. He's had lots of attention and strokes (he's told us to stop a few times!) And he's had treats and we've left his fave spot by the fire free for him to use. He's been around the house smelling everything but is very jumpy and unable to relax - he used to sleep at least 20 hours a day. Is there anything else we can do to get him to forgive us for going away?

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Allaboutyou222 · 28/12/2021 06:50

Aww he’s unsettled by the changes. Rescued animals carry trauma. Just continue with the treats and TLC but don’t overdo it. Hopefully he’ll come round.

mrsdolittle · 28/12/2021 06:54

Had very similar with our cat after she went to a Cattery in the summer. She's not exactly a rescue but she's had several different owners (I sort of inherited her). She was very unsettled for a day or two - went around the house crying for 24 hours,wouldn't eat etc etc. But after a day or two she went back to normal.

Give DCat time. Don't fuss him too much and consider one of those feliway plug-ins if you haven't got one. He's obviously a bit traumatised and confused and is just letting you know!

violetbunny · 28/12/2021 06:55

Awww poor boy. I think that some cats take a while to settle into a new home. My mum adopted a rescue cat and it was a good 6 months before she properly came out of her shell. It may be that it was especially unsettling if he was only just starting to feel your home was "home".

In your shoes, I would try to keep him to as much of a regular routine as possible. A Feliway diffuser might also help. If he finds your presence reassuring I would probably try and be around a bit more for the next week or two (if that's possible).

Hope he settles down soon xx

Cleanmean · 28/12/2021 06:56

The cattery owner said he was fine there, just very very vocal when hungry, and he's the same at home. When we brought him home he ran straight to his feeding bowl in the kitchen. I think we may have overdone the stroking and apologies yesterday so will give him some space today. I'm cooking a big roast today and his fave thing in the world is to sit in the kitchen (helping) watching me prep and supervising and waiting for the special treat he gets, so I'm hoping we'll get to bond a bit today.

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Suma2021 · 28/12/2021 06:58

Cats are usually sensitive animals anyway, but you also have a rescue cat who hasn't been with you for a great deal of time and if he's not been home from the cattery for long either, I'd say just be patient and keep reassuring him as you're doing. Eventually he should return to his usual self Smile

Have you tried Feliway plug ins?

tribpot · 28/12/2021 07:01

Next time you're away, you might want to try leaving him at home and having someone come in twice a day to feed him and give him some attention. Our (rescue) cat much prefers this option.

Cleanmean · 28/12/2021 07:02

I don't have a plug in but will but one today. Do we leave it switched on all the time? Does it relax them?

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Cleanmean · 28/12/2021 07:05

We did consider leaving him at home and having a cat sitter do in, but he hates being alone and will sit outside my bedroom and cry when I'm not home. I might leave him him if I'm just away for a few nights but I didn't want him alone for any longer. He's our first pet and we thought a cattery would be best as we would know he's safe and warm. My other worry was that he'd wonder where we were, go out his cat flap and not return.

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lebkuchenforxmas · 28/12/2021 07:30

We put our rescue into a highly recommended cattery when we'd had her about 6mths and have never done so since. She'd apparently had a lovely time there but had lost weight, not groomed herself properly and, like yours, was on edge for a few days after we got home.
We're lucky in having a number of kind and cat loving neighbours so use a selection of them. We usually have one who comes in and does breakfast & tea and cuddles at the same time and then another who comes over for an hour or so in the afternoon for play and cuddles. The cat is always pleased to see us when we get back but, after a few minutes of extra chin butts and purring, goes back to her normal behaviours (generally ignoring us).

LBF2020 · 28/12/2021 08:56

@Cleanmean

We did consider leaving him at home and having a cat sitter do in, but he hates being alone and will sit outside my bedroom and cry when I'm not home. I might leave him him if I'm just away for a few nights but I didn't want him alone for any longer. He's our first pet and we thought a cattery would be best as we would know he's safe and warm. My other worry was that he'd wonder where we were, go out his cat flap and not return.
What about having a 'house sitter' opposed to a car sitter? Someone who would stay overnight and for the majority of the day too? More like a dog sitting service. Hope he feels more settled soon.
LBF2020 · 28/12/2021 08:56

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milly74 · 28/12/2021 09:09

Mine is ex rescue cat and whether we leave her in a cattery or with a cat sitter she gets stressed when we aren't around - usually ending up with UTI symptoms.

EachandEveryone · 28/12/2021 12:24

Try and get someone to live in next time or do you have any young relatives that would love to house sit?

Cleanmean · 28/12/2021 12:57

He seems a lot happier today, still a bit moody but sitting in his usual spots and he went out for a massive walk at sunrise which must've cheated his head. Next time I will definitely think about a cat sitter. I did suggest one of the older kids stay home to cat sit but surprisingly they weren't keen to miss a holiday although they love the cat to death.

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CollieDug · 28/12/2021 13:01

We put our rescue into a cattery once but she was clearly traumatised by it (I don’t think it was a particularly good one and I felt so guilty) We now have people Visiting her every day instead and she’s much happier.

dancemom · 28/12/2021 13:07

There's websites where people actually come and stay in your home while you're away so your pets have company.

Moonface123 · 28/12/2021 13:13

l personally wouldn' t use a cattery. Cats hate change and a rescue cat has been through enough, they don' t know when you put them in the cattery that your coming back. Much less stressful just to get a family member or neighbour to feed them.

MrsSkylerWhite · 28/12/2021 13:15

He thought he’d been abandoned again. He didn’t know you were coming back.

belimoo · 28/12/2021 13:47

Our cat isn't a rescue and he acted so strangely when he came home after 2 nights at a cattery that I'll never leave him at one again. I pay extra for someone to come and spend lots of time with him in our home instead.

Suma2021 · 28/12/2021 21:27

I've used a cattery in the past but find my cat is happier in her own environment with a pet sitter coming in. There's various websites where you can pay someone local to come into your home once or twice a day, feed and play with your cat, let them out, change the litter, take photos etc. Sometimes they do "meet and greets" so you can meet them beforehand, they can even meet your cat so they're a little bit less of a stranger to them when they do visit.

Feliway Plugins - Yes, just leave plugged in constantly, they only last 30 days or so. My cat got very stressed when a neighbour's cat started spraying around our garden and I did THINK the plug in helped, but impossible to say for sure as could have been other factors. Worth trying though!

LifeAdvice · 29/12/2021 06:25

Hey @Cleanmean I had to go away for work recently, and had to put my 10 month old rescue cat in a Cattery too for 4 nights. He was adopted at approx 6 months, so approx 4 months home with me before he went in. Like you, I considered other choices, but was worried about him being home alone and feeling abandoned, so I chose a very good Cattery. They told me he did well there, very affectionate and ate all his food.

When I went to pick him up, I called out to him as I approached, and he jumped up in surprise at recognising my voice. I honestly think he thought he was back at the Shelter or being moved on again.

As you can imagine, I felt terrible.

He’s a very independent fellow and not at all nervous etc. he’s also not terrible affectionate or cuddly, but does follow me from room to room.

In the first few days at home he was very cuddly and well behaved! Like he appreciated being home! He was also very tired. I don’t think he slept well there (lots of new strange noises?)

However it’s been 2 weeks and he is back to normal. A vet family member has suggested it might have been a good thing, as he may have to go there again, so it is familiar next time. He has learnt that I will come back again, and by returning to this house, that this is his home. It’s not like before in the Shelter where he gets moved on.

Hopefully your Dcat realises the same thing after a few days. I agree with other posters that getting into the same routine is exactly
What DCat will want. All the pats yesterday probably scared him a bit with too much attention!

icedcoffees · 29/12/2021 09:06

@MrsSkylerWhite

He thought he’d been abandoned again. He didn’t know you were coming back.
Yes, this is the crux of it, I think.

I know the whole cattery topic can get quite heated on here but personally I'd never use one.

Szyz2020 · 29/12/2021 11:48

I could have written your post OP, in fact I had come on to ask the same question pretty much. First time cat owner of a gorgeous and affectionate 3 yr old boy, and currently away for 3 days, have a neighbour going in twice a day to check on him, clean litter and feed wet food - he has dry food and water in dispenser / fountain. But I’m so worried that he will be lonely and think we’ve abandoned him. I don’t think the neighbour is staying to play with him and he can’t go out at the moment.

I was thinking about a cattery next time we go away if it’s for longer.

Is a cattery an awful option? The ones I’ve found near us look nice with outdoor space and large enclosures. But will he just think he’s back at the rescue place??

icedcoffees · 29/12/2021 12:29

Is a cattery an awful option? The ones I’ve found near us look nice with outdoor space and large enclosures. But will he just think he’s back at the rescue place??

It really depends on the cats, I think.

My girl would be absolutely fine in a cattery.
My youngest boy probably wouldn't love it, but he needs daily medication and gets stress-induced cystitis so I'd need to find that balance between keeping him as calm/happy as possible and finding someone he's comfortable with to give him his medication.
My oldest boy would absolutely hate a cattery lol.

We haven't been away since we got the youngest but the next time we go, I'll probably leave the girl and older boy at home (which we've done before with no issues) and put the youngest in a cattery just for my peace of mind re. his meds.

tribpot · 29/12/2021 17:58

Yes, agreed. It totally depends on the cat. I have friends whose cats are absolutely fine with going to the cattery but my cat is a solitary, territorial creature and she would just hate it. Plus with being a rescue (albeit we have had her, or rather she has had us, for over a decade) I don't want her to feel abandoned again.