tabulahrasa - yes, I do think they meant 'dominant' in a 'bullying little shit' way, as opposed to 'fearful'. Certainly didn't mention 'dominance theory' as such, and my dog is not a problem at all around humans in the family (me, husband and 4 kids). Sorry if I wasn't clear on that.
vallahala - thanks for the input. To answer what he's like outside the home, well, I don't walk them together any longer. This is because as soon as he sees the goldie getting her lead on, he will start biting at her legs. Not an attack as such, more sniping. When they are off lead, he will stick fairly close to me, but she likes to wander a bit. He would not let her do this, if she strayed more than 6 feet, he would bring her down. So I started keeping him on lead while she had a run. This then meant that I could not recall her again, as she soon learned that when she came back, he would pounce. So I ended up having to try to get home with her trailing off lead at a distance of a few metres. Hence not walking them together.
We do a lot of short training sessions during the day, his focus and attention to me is outstanding. If I was to anthropomorphise, I'd say his behaviour was a case of 'this is a party of two here, me and my mum, and no one else is welcome'.
Anyway, in the absence of any positive experiences re neutering, I am thinking I will just accept they are separate for now, and look at behaviour.