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Adolescence - Netflix

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onetwothreefourfive11 · 14/03/2025 20:39

Anyone seen it?

As a mum with a young DS I’m finding it hard to watch without going into a worry spiral

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TeaRoseTallulah · 15/03/2025 09:58

onetwothreefourfive11 · 14/03/2025 20:39

Anyone seen it?

As a mum with a young DS I’m finding it hard to watch without going into a worry spiral

Don't spiral. Monitor your ds's computer use and don't let him have a computer/phone in his room at 13 and don't let him out in town late at night and up to no good. I don't know any parents who behaved like the parents on the series. Keep up an open dialogue with your son about Andrew Tate, surround him with positive female role models ,get him into sport or a hobby so he's busy and not hanging around street corners.

TeaRoseTallulah · 15/03/2025 10:02

Cookiedough123 · 14/03/2025 21:12

As a secondary teacher I would say the school scenes are very extreme and it is absolutely nothing like where I work currently. When I was a trainee teacher I trained in a few rough areas and I didn’t witness anything like I saw on the program.

I enjoyed the first two episodes but I didn’t like the one long scene format and switched off by episode 3.

I know, I thought the school scenes were utterly ridiculous.

Seriestwo · 15/03/2025 10:06

I’m confused about why the boy was removed without a parent and after battering rams and armed police. Seems a bit heavy branded and unfair on a 13 year old. Is that how it’s done?

im still reeling though. Great acting.

Penko25 · 15/03/2025 10:11

Cookiedough123 · 14/03/2025 21:12

As a secondary teacher I would say the school scenes are very extreme and it is absolutely nothing like where I work currently. When I was a trainee teacher I trained in a few rough areas and I didn’t witness anything like I saw on the program.

I enjoyed the first two episodes but I didn’t like the one long scene format and switched off by episode 3.

I work across secondary schools in the SE & sadly it very much reflects what I see regularly. Not all schools obviously, but I go into some schools that I wouldn’t let my DC anywhere near. It’s sad & worrying.

dhfkabduuori · 15/03/2025 10:12

It was an intense watch, and validated my tough stance on social media and not allowing it until they’re 16.

Prayingforananswer · 15/03/2025 10:18

I've just finished Adolescence and hoped it was being discussed on MN.

I used to work as a Careers Adviser in the worst performing state school in my region, so had interactions with teachers, pupils and Ed Psych. It was also in an area of multiple deprivation. It was an eye opener. The Head of Maths once told me that by a Tuesday, she would've been told to F* Off at least three times by pupils. In one class, a pupil broke off a table leg and was swinging it around as a joke. Some teachers were better at controlling the class than others, but there was both funding and teacher shortages at the school.

Here's a worrying stat for parents to consider. The age of 9 is the lowest age when children are exposed to porn. (That is Primary School, where there are now unisex toilets). It is often shared by school mates, so even if your children have online controls in place on their own devices, they can still see it.

As they grow up, boys expect girls to look like and 'perform' like the women they see in porn films. Girls are then pressured into sexual activities and no amount of PSHE classes about consent and boundaries , can counter peer pressure and abuse on SM.

Andrew Tate is very popular with 14 yo boys too, so know what he is saying.

As parents, the best we can do is encourage open conversations about respecting females, and what is appropriate behaviour; understanding peer pressure; encourage the self confidence to question the stuff on social media. Parents also need to keep abreast of how YPs communicate now, and this show was a good illustration of that.

How we treat one another, and respect others, will be how our children learn from us.

We used to discuss all sorts of things at the dinner table - ranging from current affairs to what they were doing at school. One dc went off the rails for a while, but thankfully, got back on track.

Parenthood is a minefield.

Prayingforananswer · 15/03/2025 10:22

Seriestwo · 15/03/2025 10:06

I’m confused about why the boy was removed without a parent and after battering rams and armed police. Seems a bit heavy branded and unfair on a 13 year old. Is that how it’s done?

im still reeling though. Great acting.

There was a social worker present to support Jamie who was a minor.

SabreIsMyFave · 15/03/2025 10:26

onetwothreefourfive11 · 14/03/2025 20:39

Anyone seen it?

As a mum with a young DS I’m finding it hard to watch without going into a worry spiral

I am just watching the first episode. Gosh it's quite harrowing. 😱

Strip searching a 13 y.o. boy. Quite disturbing.

I am 40 minutes and, and haven't got any further yet.

Caaarrrl · 15/03/2025 10:52

I'm a year 6 teacher. I've not yet watched it but the other year 6 teacher I work with has. She described the school scenes as the most realistic representation of school these days. Our school is particularly difficult and we are frequently sworn at, face violence and threats, and have staff assaulted. I was very close to being assaulted but I stepped back and he missed. This is year 6! 10 to 11 year old. When talking to other teachets in our MAT, our school isnt even one of the worst. I despair of what has happened to so many schools in our country.

the80sweregreat · 15/03/2025 10:54

The social worker was in one the vans sitting with Jamie at the start after they arrested him and they told the parents to meet at the police station. I feel this is done on purpose as the parents couldn’t be with him whilst they were going through the process at the station . I’ve no idea of the actual procedure in real life , but it made sense to do it that way and have the appropriate adult as someone neutral ( although he did ask for his dad to be the appropriate adult when asked about it later on)
It felt realistic , they must have had some advice on how it happens in real life and how they have to do certain things without the parents around.
As the solicitor pointed out, they had hard evidence to arrest him , so they had to follow the PACE guidelines to the letter. That’s my take on it anyway , even if it did seem harsh.

verysmellyjelly · 15/03/2025 12:22

As I said on the other thread, I loved it and thought it was brilliant. I would love them to do a follow up in the same style, with a total focus on Katie’s family and what happens from their perspective. It would be equally harrowing.

evilharpy · 15/03/2025 12:24

I have just watched the first episode and have not read any of the thread yet for fear of spoilers, but have to say I loved the first episode and thought it was brilliantly acted. Plan to binge the rest over the weekend.

speakout · 16/03/2025 13:45

It was riveting, I have two young adult children who thankfully are now finished with the school system, but struck so many chords and highlighted so many issues I found it very unnerving, and popping into my mind a lot.

Adults have such limited understanding of the world secondary age children live in- the talk of emojis highlighted that. The live in this world of social media, dark internet stuff- the risks are huge.
I know many my kids' teachers swore at the older pupils- " Shut the fuck up" and similar was used very often.
My nearest primary school has all pupils going through a metal ndetector as they arrive.
Many schools won't be like this- but some are for sure.

LookingAtMyBhunas · 16/03/2025 17:56

If it makes parents have more involvement in the online world their children inhabit it can only be a good thing.

It was amazing.

user1471446186 · 17/03/2025 22:11

Thought it was fantastic and we watched it with our boys. Tough watch but opens an interesting discussion with them.

supercatlady · 21/03/2025 16:33

i binge watched this last night.

am I the only one who wondered if Ryan had committed the murder first off and it was mistaken identity as they were similar build and Jamie was so adamant he’d done nothing wrong.

dhfkabduuori · 21/03/2025 22:24

@supercatladyI didn’t give too much thought as to whether he did or didn’t do it, I didn’t feel like it was trying to lead me down that train of thought. It was somewhat irrelevant, we knew from the first episode he was violent (the video) I don’t think they ever tried to mislead us as to who the culprit was.

Meredusoleil · 21/03/2025 22:32

supercatlady · 21/03/2025 16:33

i binge watched this last night.

am I the only one who wondered if Ryan had committed the murder first off and it was mistaken identity as they were similar build and Jamie was so adamant he’d done nothing wrong.

Yes. That's what I was thinking too. Jamie repeatedly saying he hadn't done anything wrong seemed like more than just denial to me.

Neodymium · 21/03/2025 22:36

Supersimkin7 · 14/03/2025 23:41

I loved it. Stephen Graham’s standard son-of-soil-in-anguish schtick works well here.

Wasn’t entirely convinced by the killer kid - I think you’d see more signs, even in retrospect. Most murderers work
their way up the violence scale - Axel
did.

They should have focused on the murdered girl’s family. That would be more interesting than ‘internet no good for kids’.

I don’t think so - I think the signs of the violence were online.

did you follow the stabbing of Brianna Ghey? The two teens who killed her didn’t have any prior signs of violence with others (that I can recall was discussed). It was just online chat between them.

Meredusoleil · 21/03/2025 22:37

Seriestwo · 15/03/2025 10:06

I’m confused about why the boy was removed without a parent and after battering rams and armed police. Seems a bit heavy branded and unfair on a 13 year old. Is that how it’s done?

im still reeling though. Great acting.

I agree with this. I thought it was very unnecessary seeing as he wasn't considered a flight risk.

Ohblahdeeiblahdoe · 21/03/2025 22:42

slinkoff · 14/03/2025 23:30

Dad, parent of two boys 14 & 12 here that I would say are pretty mature for their ages based on things we’ve watched together and conversations we’ve had. I’ve been hearing the hype about this show but know little about it. Just wondering thoughts on watching it WITH my boys, from those that have seen it?

I'd suggest watching it first and then deciding whether to share with your DC. It's very thought provoking so you'll probably want to find discuss the issues anyway.

Neodymium · 21/03/2025 22:48

Ohblahdeeiblahdoe · 21/03/2025 22:42

I'd suggest watching it first and then deciding whether to share with your DC. It's very thought provoking so you'll probably want to find discuss the issues anyway.

I watched it with my 14 year old. I was actually starting the second episode and he came home.

he is very mature for his age typically. It was interesting though he didn’t have any empathy for Jamie and was very convinced of his guilt. He didn’t see him as a normal kid who had been radicalised online he saw him as just bad and evil and not deserving of any sympathy. Very much like he did it, I don’t care why, he should be locked up and the key thrown away.

ChillWith · 21/03/2025 23:13

@slinkoff @Sarahjayney watched with my 14-year old and I gave him a big hug when we finished. Watched over four nights and discussed many of the themes. Thankfully he didn't recognise the depiction of the school as being anything like his. If he said yes, I'd have seriously pulled him out!

NotMilanese · 21/03/2025 23:23

I've wondered whether I missed an episode - to me there just wasn't enough evidence (that we, the audience, saw) that Jamie had been radicalised online. Was it all in the veiled reference to 'that bloke who popped up on my phone' in the last episode? As the series went on, they seemed to lose 'show, don't tell.' The third and fourth episode in particular seemed more like a stage play. And the last seemed a bit preachy - not that I disagree with phone limits and monitoring your child's screen usage--it just seemed like A Terrible Warning. However, I have nothing for admiration for the acting, and also the choreography in episode 2!

Wawona · 21/03/2025 23:29

Is this what British kids are like now? Signed, not British person