Dd given spiked drink?

[AnonymousWorriedMum]

Dd would be mortified if she knew I was asking this. She is 19, not a heavy or binge drinker. Was out with friends last night. She was brought home in police car by very nice policeman, and was apparently very very drunk. Two of her (male) friends were with policeman and had directed him to our house.
She was almost completely unconscious. Friends said she hadn't had much to drink, had definitely not taken anything else. I confirmed this again later when policeman not in attendance. She swears she hadn't had much to drink.
Spent whole night with her (on advice of policeman). She was sick and completely out of it. Woke this morning in very distressed state as she remembers nothing of what happened after her 3rd drink. She had had two drinks, vodka and lemonade, at 2 different places before 3rd drink in another place.
Male friend had had same drink, vodka and lemonade, they both said it tasted watered down and gave it to others to try. She drank hers, and then remembers nothing afterwards. Found out earlier that this other lad also remembers nothing after his drink, but he had apparently been drinking much more than dd so may well have been "properly" drunk.
Dd "slept" all night (midnight - 8am) apart from bouts of retching/vomiting. On policeman's advice, I tried to rouse her from time to time. She was not coherent and couldn't talk properly, had glazed eyes and couldn't support herself. She woke up this morning feeling absolutely fine - no headache, no hangover - but unbelievably tired. She has slept on and off all day.
She has total trust in her friends (they're old schoolfriends from Year 7). They had collected her jacket from cloakroom, put it on her, and were trying to get her home. She couldn't walk, was a complete dead weight, and I think police came to rescue. She is worried in case "something happened" to her, but I have assured her that her clothes were all intact (she had tights and legwarmers on and they are not the easiest to replace if removed).
She is so upset about not remembering anything - it seems that one minute she was fine and the next, according to friends, she had collapsed. She had eaten dinner before going out.
Does anyone have any medical knowledge or experience about any of this? My dh and I don't know whether we should contact other friends (to dd's embarrassment), to contact club or to contact police (just in case there's something going on that they should be aware of).
Sorry for long post. (Am a regular poster but don't want to be identified, sorry)

I had my drink spoiked as a teenager

and din't it used to be called a mickey finn?

I was spiked last year when I went out for my sisters birthday. When my friends got me home dh was certain I'd been spiked but when he rang the police the next morning they said it is unlikely that there would be any GHB left in my system. I was in a dreadful state that night and didn't feel right for quite a while. I only had 2 drinks which is what makes me certain I really was spiked. Unfortunately it is really common nowadays. Your daughter is lucky she has such good friends to take care of her. Hope she feels able to make a complaint, I made an official complaint and the club we visited has since been shut down.

Well, the good news is that I've been allowed to tell the police officially what we believe to have happened (can't prove anything, of course), so dd doesn't have to tell them anything herself. Also asked them to pass on our sincere thanks to the officer who brought her home.

Bad news is that I have just had to drive 45mins to collect her from an evening out with some friends (and a 45min drive home again). One of them rang me to say that she wasn't coping at all well with being out (1st time since the incident), couldn't stop crying and was in an extremely distressed state. She was supposed to be staying with one of the friends overnight.

Anyone who ever says anything negative about teenagers ever again will have my wrath to deal with - three girls and three lads stayed with her, rang us several times to keep us updated on how she was doing as we drove, the lads had taken their jackets off to keep her warm (they had taken her out of pub) and were all really concerned about her.

I have just tucked her up in bed (it's been a long time since I've done that), having sat with her for quite a while. She keeps thinking bad things must have happened to her when she had collapsed, but I know that they didn't. She cannot deal with "not knowing" what happened, or why anyone would want to do such a thing. She said something triggered all these awful thoughts when they were out, but she can't remember what it is. Am not sure if visiting GP at some point would be beneficial or not??

The other lad with the group that night recalls feeling so unwell that he thought he was going to die. The bouncers kicked him out of the club because they thought he was drunk. Bet they wouldn't have done that if he'd been a girl.

Hi Anon

I feel your doing a great job to help your DD get through this - telling the police was easily the best course of action.

I hope things gradually become easier for her as the party season continues and she grows to really trust her group of friends to look out for her in any event.

They sound like a nice bunch of kids - I feel as you do when all teenagers get is a slating in the media and from parents... their behaviour with your dd just goes to show we don't have enough good stories about young people!

Take Care all of you x

Can you direct your daughter to someone who has had her drink spiked to talk to? If she wants she can CAT me (she might talk to me as i'm only 4 years older than her and have had my drink spiked and can't remember the night) or you can CAT me and I will give you my email address to pass on to her, or is there someone the site you visited?
BTW it sounds like she's got lovely, trustworthy friends on both occasions

She hasn't spoken to anyone else who's had a similar experience, apart from this other lad. She has said that she is really nervous about going out again, and is more worried about having alcohol again (I assume that soft drinks can be spiked too though?) This other lad feels the same way; they are good friends so have had each other to talk to.

Mygarland - I will ask her if she would like to talk to you; I think it would be beneficial for her to talk to someone who understands what it's like, but she may disagree! I did read a lot of info on the other sites, but didn't "talk" to anyone - so many of the people had dreadful things happen to them when they were "out", so dd's incident seems a little trite in comparison. Many many thanks for the offer, I will post tomorrow (today!)

Anchovies - I assume you couldn't prove that your drink had been spiked if you didn't have a drug test. Did the police believe you and then visit the club? I wondered if my statement would just be "logged in" as just another phone call, or if there would be any follow-up.

I am pretty sure nothing happened to me but my xp used to spike me with different things (about 4 times it happened) I didn't realise what he'd done (as I was drinking) until one night I didn't have alcohol and he had to admit he spiked me (and my now dh) with amphetamine this time (pretty dangerous with meds I'm on too). If it's talking online instead of face2face she might be more receptive to talking about it.
I think there might've been a time when police didn't do anything about stuff like this but now it's well known that ppl who've bn spiked only realise when drug is out of their system, but it's a serious crime and what happens to the victims after they've bn spiked can b seroius too so I imagine the police will go to the club and investigate as much as they can.

Mygarland - have spoken to dd. She is adamant that she isn't going to talk to anyone, even if it's with an "anonymous" person. She is a lot calmer, but hasn't yet been out again. I know she talks to the other lad about it, they're pretty good friends.

I can't believe what your xp did to you. I can't get my head around what these people do - the consequences could be so serious.

I think that your DD's drink got spiked - no doubt about that whatsoever I am sorry to say. It only takes a second to do this and it is often not noticed by the victim. The noise of such places along with the sheer volume of people helps the perpatraitors target their victims.

Perhaps a sense of embarrassment and or shame (although both are misplaced I can see why she may not want to talk to anyone. She perhaps wonders why on earth she did not spot this) is stopping her from talking with someone about this but I would try to get her to talk. Her information could prevent this happening to another young person in the same club particularly if this has happened there before. I would put money on it that hers was not the only drink to get spiked there that night either.

All drinks can get spiked. Putting your thumb over the bottle and not leaving your drink unattended at all even for a second are helpful measures. Also NEVER accept an offer of drink from a stranger in a nightclub.

Many drugs like rohypnol leave the body within a few hours if it being ingested so it is impossible to detect in the body longer term.

The Roofie foundation is very good and I would seek information from them for yourself as well as your daughter if you have not already done so.

I wish both you and your daughter well.

Many thanks for your input Meerkat (and others). DD has been out a couple of times with friends now (but, perhaps understandably, not drinking alcohol!) and is doing fine. The first time she went out after the disastrous "having to collect her" evening, I dropped her off. She quickly put her head back in the car door and whispered, "I am OK". And she is. She certainly accepts that nothing "bad" happened to her whilst she was "out", and it has made all her friends a darn sight more alert to the dangers.

Reading other people's experiences, both on mumsnet and other "drug" sites, has made me realise that it really is something we all need to be careful about, it's not just something that our children have to look out for.