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Diamond ring for big birthday

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FilipeFlop · 13/01/2026 17:40

Hi, I’m looking at having a diamond ring made for a big birthday. It’s going to be yellow gold with platinum claws and in a toi and moi design. I want to incorporate as much bling (diamonds) as possible. I’ve seen hidden halos and like them, diamonds will be on the arms. Can anyone suggest any other ways to incorporate bling with photos for reference?

This will be a once in a lifetime purchase that I will save for as no other jewellery.

many thanks

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notatinydancer · 19/01/2026 08:35

@Mintynotesthey are beautiful.

SelbourneIdentity · 19/01/2026 08:59

MN can be full of posters sharing a very small amount of knowledge, very liberally. It's so interesting and refreshing when someone comes along who really knows their stuff. I've read a couple of very different threads this week that have each left me genuinely better informed, one of which was yours, @tarheelbaby - for which very many thanks.

oneoneone · 19/01/2026 12:02

tarheelbaby · 13/01/2026 21:39

The top factor for sparkle in diamonds is cut - the more accurately the cut matches up the facets the more sparkle due to maximum refraction. It doesn't matter how big (carats) or clean (clarity) or 'white' (colour) the diamond is, if the cut is poor, the diamond will seem dull. Well cut diamonds dance in any light. (Alice Clarke has some exciting settings but the diamonds on her website are poorly cut ...)

The 'round brilliant' is the best able to produce this because it has the best known geometry. The other cuts have very difficult geometry so are difficult to do well - perhaps you've seen a marquis, princess or emerald cut stone with a 'butterfly' or 'bowtie' - this is due to poor cut. And those cuts have fewer facets so are less sparkly.

For an eye-popping toi et moi - a less often seen but still traditional style with a long history, I'd go for the largest 2 diamonds with the best cut you can afford and match them for colour. H or I colour appears 'colourless' to most people and can go together. 'Warmer' colours on down the alphabet can work but should be matching - you don't want an H with an M b/c one will look 'warmer' than the other. Also SI, SI1 and even SI2 appear clean to the naked eye - no visible flaws unless you are using a loupe.

It's all very well having pavé on the shanks but these will be dust so don't let that drive up the price of your setting. Equally, halo settings can be lovely but the main function of a halo is to make the centre stone(s) look larger [illusion] so consider whether the halo will actually emphasise the smaller size of the main stones ...
(and created diamond have their own chemical signature so although they are less expensive, they will never pass for mined stones)

(and created diamond have their own chemical signature so although they are less expensive, they will never pass for mined stones)

This is great information except that this part isn't true. Assuming you're talking lab diamonds, as opposed to moissanite or cubic zirconia, a jeweller can tell the difference using specialised equipment, but they are identical to mined diamonds to the naked eye.

I don't actually own any lab diamonds, but have seen quite a few very well cut ones and they are indistinguishable.

OP, go over to pricescope.com. They will help you find the diamonds and design your ring. They're an amazing source of knowledge over there.

Adding - although it is true that lab diamonds are less valuable, it's a pretty unusual mined diamond that holds its value anyway.

tarheelbaby · 19/01/2026 12:12

oneoneone · 19/01/2026 12:02

(and created diamond have their own chemical signature so although they are less expensive, they will never pass for mined stones)

This is great information except that this part isn't true. Assuming you're talking lab diamonds, as opposed to moissanite or cubic zirconia, a jeweller can tell the difference using specialised equipment, but they are identical to mined diamonds to the naked eye.

I don't actually own any lab diamonds, but have seen quite a few very well cut ones and they are indistinguishable.

OP, go over to pricescope.com. They will help you find the diamonds and design your ring. They're an amazing source of knowledge over there.

Adding - although it is true that lab diamonds are less valuable, it's a pretty unusual mined diamond that holds its value anyway.

Edited

Actually, as you say yourself, jewelers can tell if a stone is lab-created or mined and that is precisely the point I am making.

A lab-created stone will definitely 'pass' as a diamond to anyone who sees it but it is chemically different and jewelers can distinguish this with the right equipment.

(Pricescope is a great rabbit hole - totally recommend)

hahagogomomo · 19/01/2026 12:47

If you want bling for you money go and look at second hand rings, major cities will have jewellery shops which have antique and second hand jewellery, you get a lot more for your money and you are more likely to see something unusual. If you go down the new route use an independent jewellery designer, we used a chap in Somerset and he incorporates stones and gold you already have if applicable though i opted for all platinum

TalulahJP · 19/01/2026 13:31

far as i know lab grown diamonds are totally diamond. thwy maje them from a sliver of real diamond and grow it into a bigger one using heat and pressure the same as diamonds are grown in the wild.

so they are 100% identical. just like ice made outside from water in a bucket and ice made from the same water and put in your freezer. it’s the same thing

i had my lab grown diamonds bought from tjc tested by my jeweller who declared them genuine diamonds.

Anonmousse · 19/01/2026 14:10

Lab grown diamonds as pp say are exactly the same chemical structure as mined diamonds, and behave in the same way eg will withstand the same degree of heat.
The testers to check for lab grown diamonds are expensive, you really cant tell by eye, even with a loupe. With GIA certificated stones, they have their number laser engraved on the girdle so you can confirm it matches what the certificate says (under a microscope) . Although, I dont know how the numbers differentiate between natural and lab grown.

Im interested in the view that a platinum setting with a yellow gold band will look like costume jewellery, its a pretty standard design of jewellery for all budgets, imo.

Arlanymor · 20/01/2026 23:23

Anonmousse · 17/01/2026 14:17

What sort of firing? We use propane gas which can be smokey - the corners of the room are a bit grey....and my fingertips and nails get black and dirty from polishing but my hands have never got like this....

Not a jeweller, so couldn't tell you! But I have definitely seen Alice with blackened hands!

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