Was just reading an old S&B thread about 'looking well put together,' not flashy or designer, just everyday casual yet decent clothes. Apart from the stereotypical claptrap concerning Barbour jackets and dog hair, it was a fascinating read!
What I can't get my head around is 'expensive' hair. Wtf is it exactly? Most of us can't help the way our hair grows (thickness, texture, porosity) so how can one alter that? I always imagine this is all quite subjective anyway, but for the sake of sticking to the theme, my very own blonde version of Kate Bush or Helena Bonham Carter (a bit mad, kinky and wild) wouldn't make the cut, lol.
It's all fashion isn't it at the end of the day? Today's preferred expensive hair is most likely Kate Middleton's, but that wasn't always the sought after style.
So what is expensive hair, in your opinion?
And then there's the clothes! Where are these 'well put together' peeps MN'ers speak of buying their togs? I like the idea of understated, which is mentioned often, but no one ever mentions the actual shops. Where are these lovely exquisite chunky knits and other understated items hiding? Most of the higher end high street sucks imo.
Some comments mention wealth or class, but having been surrounded with well off arty types throughout my career I only noticed a lack of make up and a lot of frizz. No one seemed to care.
I am in my early 40's, work in art (painter) and science (geologist), and love yoga, theatre, hiking and architecture, and I dress quite boringly, I think. I spend £150 per year on my hair and buy most of my clothes from superdry or white company (i suit their colour scheme). I don't seem to have a clue about style tbh, but I would like to learn more. Clue me in Mumsnet! I can never find shops with nice things that aren't either country casuals or overpriced cheap rubbish.
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Expensive hair & understated clothes. WTF is it?
follyfeet · 04/10/2022 18:59
abvgd · 06/10/2022 22:49
I straightened my curly hair for decades. Growing up in the Soviet Union with just a few shampoo products available - without distinction for hair types - we all experimented with natural alternatives: washing hair with eggs (disaster for dry curly hair), rinsing it with vinegar, using beer as a conditioner etc. No one knew how to care for or style curly hair so I stopped going to the hairdresser's at 14 after another disastrous and expensive haircut. My hair was long, thick, curly and shapeless, pre-rafaelite on steroids, so I just wore it plaited or on in a bun. I slept in curlers (the result was shiny locks vs sad frizz) and only discovered blow drying after university, at the same time as first western brands flooded the market. Coming to the UK was a game-changer for my hair - salons actually know how to cut and style it, hurrah! I found my hair nirvana in a shoulder-length bob with highlights; styled at home first with babyliss big hair (thank you Mumsnet) and ghd and then Dyson.
After 20 years of doing the "expensive hair" ritual with regular highlights, treatment, trim and blow dry I just couldn't be bothered with straightening during Covid. Cue a shorter cut snd natural curls - chin length near the face, shorter in the back. It took a few goes to fine tune the shape so that it looks good for a few months and even as hair grows it still suits my bone structure and looks polished and deliberate rather than a bird's nest or spaniel ears.
Maintenance is easy these days. Shampoo once a week (Philip Kingsley moisturising shampoo), wash without shampoo (rinse with vigorous scalp massage) every day, apply conditioner or Philip Kingsley elasticizer on dripping wet hair, either with sections rolled on a finger into a spiral and let loose or just hair raked with fingers. Not bothered with diffuser, just air dry. Lovely defined curls but need to repeat every day.
Looking pulled together with curly hair is different than with straight. I find that I need to wear at least one structured tailored item; all comfy loose slouchy or floaty clothes with curly hair look just wrong on me, frumpy and aging. So a sharp tailored jacket and good leather shoes with jeans. I love(d) big earrings and necklaces but with curly hair and casual clothes they make me look like a hippy fortune-teller from Florida so need to balance them with more minimalist clothes.
Having grown up in a different culture I am indifferent to English country brands (boden, toast, f&f). I don't see them as understated, they may be safe middle class but not necessarily stylish or becoming (to me). They also don't quite suit my physique (tall, used to be size 10-12, now 12-14, sometimes 16 in trousers). Would love to have tailor-made clothes (like my grandmothers did in 1950-60s) as due to height many dresses look terrible on me with waist under my chest. Agree with all previous posters about natural fabrics and quality. I appreciate we all have different lifestyles and disposable income but buying the best you can afford pays off massively. I still wear Ferragamo and tod's shoes bought 20 years ago, ditto some jackets including a Lagerfeld one from 1995 when he was still at Chanel. It was terribly expensive for me then, even despite the huge discount, but having grown up in the ussr I was used to having to pay a monthly salary for a winter coat or a pair of boots, so the expense did not seem that disproportionate. And with cost per wear it certainly turned out a great investment!
My go-to brands for understated have been Armani and Max Mara plus Cos for trousers and Uniqlo for supima cotton T-shirts. I wear edgier designers too but tend to add one directional piece to well-fitting neutral basics. Please don't roll your eyes at the cost of the brands I mentioned, i buy everything in sales or on eBay. Once you know what brand /shape/ size suits you it's easy to filter through the right items. These days I buy most of my stuff online. Yoox and theOutnet have non-stop discounts with regular promotions on top, so you end up paying less than high street price for a quality designer classic.
In terms of colours, I think saying that understated means black, navy, grey and beige is simplistic and unhelpful. I would compare it to Farrow snd Ball paint colours - there are dozens of whites, undefinable greyish-brownish-mushroomy colours, some sludgy colours as well as strong jewel reds and vivid blues, so one can always choose the right neutrals and bright colours that suit one's complexion and general colouring and go well together.
At times I think that with the more relaxed working environment - when we all ditched corporate uniforms and heels - looking polished and pulled together is harder as no one quite knows what is appropriately smart these days, it all depends on one's taste snd level of confidence. On the other hand, it's a wonderful opportunity to spend money on things you actually love and that allow you to be your most authentic self rather than assume class- or employment-determined persona.
GettingStuffed · 06/10/2022 20:16
If it's frizzy try a shampoo for curly hair, I use noughty and my hair is lovely. I currently have a chin length Bob and it's a bit 20s looking
antelopevalley · 06/10/2022 13:57
Boring as fuck in otherwords.
I mean if you want to look like your gran when you are much younger up to you, but i beats me why younger women with money would dress like that.
Raddix · 04/10/2022 19:02
Expensive hair is natural looking and not over styled. No colours that look obviously fake. No shaved bits or weird styles. Just plain healthy hair in your natural style. Think like the Princess of Wales.
Porridgeislife · 07/10/2022 13:47
The Duchess of Sussex’s hair is chemically treated within an inch of its life and bulked out with extensions as she’s naturally quite curly. It looks great but is definitely not healthy and natural!
Coffeepot72 · 07/10/2022 19:29
But even though Lady Louise has a touch of frizz, overall she looks expensive
KirstenBlest · 07/10/2022 19:56
@verdantverdure , the daughter of Prince Edward and the Countess of Wessex.
CountFoscoslittlewhitemice · 04/10/2022 19:25
I think Carrie Johnson has expensive hair. It looks healthy and effortless, but it's beautifully cut, coloured and conditioned.
verdantverdure · 07/10/2022 21:55
This Lady Louise?
KirstenBlest · 07/10/2022 19:56
@verdantverdure , the daughter of Prince Edward and the Countess of Wessex.
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