I hate my stupid big boobs and I don't know how to dress anymore!

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I've always had big boobs but, fat or thin, they remained in proportion to the rest of me. Recently though, I've lost weight and it's come off everywhere except the boobs!

Before anyone says "nice problem to have", no it bloody isn't! I look ridiculous, like some sort of human Barbie, and I don't know how to dress anymore! Anything form-fitting looks cheap and tarty and I feel massively self-conscious; anything loose and I look like a gigantic frumpy WALL OF BOOB.

It's not my bra, I was recently fitted by Bravissimo and the lovely assistant spent ages making sure she got it right (32G, ffs). I just want to find some clothes that my boobs aren't the focal point of.

I'm a SAHM to a 4 year old and a 2 year old, so I need practical stuff, but I'd like to look a bit stylish too. I'm 5'7, good legs and bum, and a size 12 everywhere except the aforementioned enormo-jugs. Help, please?!

Marking place in hope some style guru comes along with further advice. My teen dd is SO self conscious about her chest

I avoid dresses as it's much too hard to find one that has the right proportions. Basically live in jeans and long tops with cardigans and scarves. I know some people avoid scarves because they add more bulk but at least then my boobs are hidden. Tops for a night out are nearly always dark and plain-ish, I prefer the attention to go on my legs so wear great-fitting jeans.

I'm the same size as you.

I'm also poor, so buy Pepperberry off eBay, and always wear a well fitting bra.

No prints, block colours and I try to do my hair and makeup to draw the eye up from my boobs.

If you find any miracle cure, let me know too!

I'm a 32E and only 5ft 4. I tend to wear a lot o f thick-strap vest tops under cardigans or open checked shirts, 3/4 sleeve tops with high-ish scoop necks, or go for flowy on top with tight bottoms.

The ASOS Ultimate Easy t shirt is a good shape - roll sleeves, high neck but I find there's loads of room for boobs while still having a fitted waist.

I don't like pepperberry.
The shirts I tried felt cheap and nasty and the waist was in the wrong place.
I like tomboy stuff too OP.
I've found wide legged trousers help balance things out a bit.
And layering tops. If it's cold I will wear a long sleeve high neck tight top over something v necked.
I like v neck skater dresses with clumpy boots and a massive cardigan.
70s stuff is quite good for hourglass shapes. I have a lovely 70s shirt with big sleeves that I wear over a dark v neck tank top (hiding the buttons that don't do up). It goes nicely with cord flares.
Also off the shoulder jumpers with a top underneath seem to be quite flattering. I just got one from H&M for £15. It seems to provide a line break in the right place.
If I wear scarves they sit on my tits like a shelf and tickle my chin. I really really don't suit them.
I don't like wrap stuff. One side always sags and then drapes open. I spend all day adjusting it.
I also have a ginourmas mohair baggy jumper. It doesn't disguise norks as much as makes you look like a fluffy apple. No one can tell what shape i am underneath. I wear it with leggings and boots.

The Pepperbury stuff looks okay and I tempted.

I'm quite long waisted with not particularly long legs so I wonder if the waist will in the wrong place, sometimes dresses are too high for me

OK I am 165cm or around 5' 4" have had 34F boobs since I don't know when and even when I weighed 50kg. The rest of me is a 10.
Good bra is essential. Other than that I do wear polo necks, but find that draping stuff helps a lot.
I could afford to have a reduction but I do not have anyone to look after me immediately after the procedure and at my age I am not convinced it would enhance my life. But 30 years ago, definitely.

Sounds like flat front wide legged trousers, square necked vests and long open shirts might suit you.
Wide legs and off shoulder slouchy jumpers look relaxed and with chunky boots won't look too femme.

I do like a wide-leg trouser. And if anyone can point me in the direction of some off shoulder slouchy jumpers I'd love some!

Tempnamechange77, I'd like to look slightly cool and a bit edgy but still like an adult, not an overgrown teen! I love Chrissy Hynde at all ages.

34K here
I like biu biu for clothes that fit well (polish but ship to uk) same principle as pepperberry but cheaper

Tops - I layer, generally long vests under v neck tops, sometimes an open long cardigan. Usually with skinny jeans and boots or converse
Dresses I belt as the waist is always a bit big on me, again generally v necks or skater type dresses

I've had lots of good stuff from Pepperberry, they're nowhere even close to Primark quality.

32J-ish here, getting stuff to fit can be a challenge (it's worth finding a local tailor/seamstress/alterations place) but style wise
-skater/fit and flare dresses are a godsend, especially since the shape of them really suits belts (even skinny ones) which means you can fit properly under your waist.
-agree with the suggestion above about peplums, they're good for balancing out big boobs
-tops - vnecks, scoop necks, wrap necklines and boat necks all work on my. Round neck t shirt types are the devils work
-for casual wear over jeans I like loose cowl necks with a thin belt - French connection are often really good for these.
-Wide leg trousers or a-line/circle/flared skirts help to balance out.
-alternatively, I think skinny trousers or jeans work best with long-ish chunky boots for the same reason.
-properly short cropped jackets and cardigans show off my waist well

I think when you are busty the biggest problem is casualwear, as polo necks, baggy jumpers and such like rarely work!

Brand I buy from:
-Yumi (house of fraser stock a lot of their stuff) are surprisingly boob friendly
-french connection
-phase eight (lots of frumpy mc frumspville but they sometimes do lovely casual tops)
-hobbs(sometimes)
Ted Baker
Karen Millen(both hitand miss)
Jaegar
"vintage" themed brands like Voodoo Vixen, Hellbunny, Lady V, collectif etc. I don't go around dressed up like a 50s pin up most of the time but the cuts are often me curve friendly.

Not quite as big as OP and no desire for a reduction, but definitely find fitted clothes, that go in at the waist, wrap dresses, v Necks, all the things suggested, really helps.

I sometimes buy jumpers a size down to make sure they have a bit of shape. I'm also a hawk for fitted tops, so hard to find now.
I'm not normally one for self portraits but I took these two photos whilst looking for a dress for the work party. I was quite astonished the difference a defined waist makes. I am a 32H on top and size 14/16 overall.

Also 34GG/H

Awaiting surgery due to many years of back pain making me pretty depressed- I don't leave the house anymore except to go to uni..

I live in sports bras as I find they make my boobs look so much smaller.. and loose hoodies which make me look and feel like a whale but it's all I feel 'comfortable' in.

I dread summer as I can't expose my huge granny bras so have to keep covered up 😒 I feel your pain!

A few outfits that i wear in the day

Apparently a statement necklace balances out a big bust - big enough not to look lost on the enormous bosom I guess!.

I think I may try the Pepperbury, I can get away with standard clothing but feel this range could be more flattering.

Are some of the stretchy items one size from c-sc as oppose to 3 in different cup sizes I saw this on eBay
Thanks

The stretchier items are dual sized - c/rc and rc/sc whilst the more fitted have 3 and occasionally 4 sizes

I'm definitely stealing "enormo-jugs" as a description for my 32Gs.

Agree that Pepperberry can be a bit hit or miss. I've had a few nice things from there but never buy mail order as you never know if it will be lovely or ghastly. I have found the stores to be very helpful and usually carry huge amounts of inventory so, if you can get to one, you can generally get what you are after.

I've recently bought a few shirts in (gasp!) M&S which have a hidden row of inside buttons which stop gapage. Hard to explain but basically like a reverse of the button row in the gaps between outer buttons but up the inside. They are still a bit baggy to get over the boob shelf but good for everyday checked shirts with jeans.

So would you go down a size in Pepperbury in a top.

I'm a 30 back with slim shoulders so technically an 8 but now always buy a 10 probably due to a 30E bust whereas 10 years ago I wore a 32b/c cup itms

Woodhill - if you were looking at Pepperberry tops you'd probably want a 8 Really Curvy. Their fitting guide is here: www.bravissimo.com/pepperberry/size-guide/

I agree that they are hit or miss though. I have a wonderful party dress from them that I got 4 years ago for a winter wedding and is still going strong but I've been really disappointed a the fabrics on some other items.

I'm a 34G and high waisted which makes things even harder. I can almost never find a dress that works for me. For everyday winter wear I tend to live in a shirt (the m&s ones with the double row of buttons) with a light v-necked jumper over the top, jeans and boots. I add a jacket or a gillet as an extra layer if needed. Think a vaguely equestrian look. This works for me as it isn't too girly. The shirts on their own often don't fit too well. But they don't need to when they have a jumper over the top all the time.

you want fitted but not clingy/skin tight clothes. Cowl necks are flattering and not too low. Ponte fabric is better than thin jersey, as it has enough stretch but doesn't cling

SaintBustier? Lots of dresses which may not suit your style but they also have some other pieces like jackets www.saintbustier.com/coolgirl-jacket.html . Learning to take in darts is a very useful skill to avoid the dreaded bust gape while still having clothes that fit the lower half (my top tip is to put the garment on inside out and pin it to fit as you want, then sew along that seam)

I’m also 28G and have pretty much an hourglass figure (which I’m constantly told to appreciate but I hate it). I get my underwear from Bravissimo and it’s great, but I’m definitely considering a breast reduction. I had a fitting for a prom dress recently and, although I found a great dress and it’s all sorted, alterations cost a lot more and it made me feel so uncomfortable that I’m just not going to bother with nice clothes in the future and just buy something from New Look. Basically my boobs are the bane of my life