HELP! Someone help me find an outfit for a wedding/christening for an extremely particular 9 yr old DD before I eat my own foot...

[siscaza]

DD (9) is very difficult to buy clothes for and I need a complete outfit (incl. shoes) for a wedding and christening. What she won't wear is listed below:

Pink/Purple
Sparkles or glittery or shiny
Flowers/fairies/girl prints
Skirts
Dresses
Short shorts
Anything with fussy stitching i.e. pleats or even a cap sleeve
Weird hemlines or cuts
Lace
Satin/Silky stuff
Gold/silver
Shoes relating to any of the above

I'm tired of looking so any help would be much appreciated

[2boys2girls]

Snap my daughter wears same thing over and over, I gave up along time ago worrying about it as I honestly believe there's more important things to worry about than her dress sense because if she happy we all happy and tbh its not as bad as it was ... She tends to wear clothes 2 or 3 ages bigger that actually doesn't look that bad ... I would take daughter shopping and explain that she needs to find something suitable and anything within reason will do as long as she comfortable etc, I know you'll get "you're to soft, I'd make her wear this or that" etc etc and before my daughter I may have thought like so but its not that simple, I could see the pain in her face when she tried on things that "hurt"
We had a wedding to go to and my daughter wore a maxi style dress over her old faithfuls,many say her style is her own or bohemian which tbh is fine by me

[Chillycamper]

next have a navy, a blue print and a green

[birkiekid]

2boys Your dd sounds so like mine! We let her pick what she likes now after having so many unworn clothes.

Another thing I have learned is to buy the clothes too big and leave them in the cupboard until dd comes to them herself.

She could never cope with me coming home all excited with a new outfit for her - she would reject it straight away. Now I buy things I think she will like and put them in her room, no fuss made and eventually she will wear them.

She is also a little bohemian in her choices.

[siscaza]

Thanks Chilly but the design is a little fussy and she doesn't like the bow I think it is lovely though and she did wear a jumpsuit for a wedding last year.

avery I'm going to remember that site, those shoes would appeal to DD. Will have a good loook through.

[siscaza]

My go to strategy for DD is to give her the iPad for an hour and let her loose on the retail sites online, she book marks what she likes and then I have a look. However quite often she'll like something online then it will turn up and she will find a detail she doesn't like or she will wear it once and reject it I get a lot on ebay as I think she likes the worn feel and also it is less ceremonius. Formal clothes are always a challenge though.

[birkiekid]

next These are my dd's current favourite. Probably too casual for a wedding but might be worth a look for everyday wear.

[2boys2girls]

So alike, I never buy unless she with me now as like you we've lots if un(/once worn clothes,she only has to feel clothes normally and thatll be enough for her to go on if will won't have, she actually loves the idea of clothes and trying them on but once on its to hard it hurts it itches etc, she'll test it buy lifting arms up sticking stomach out etc and once passed the test she'll havr , but even then once home it can be a different matter and it'll feel funny, dressing up is a no no, again she loves idea but reality its different I've had to in pick sleeves/waists/collars etc just she she can wear a Disney princess for a little while, shoes were a nightmare, socks certain seams, hair bands were a no no, her programming to how things feel or have to be worn are frustrating to say the least, its also a ritual on how she actually gets dressed ....worst is when she loves something and will so she says wear it only for it to be banished to back of cupboard, but it has got better as I know her way of thinking now

[2boys2girls]

When we look at clothes on line she zooms in and inspects all the details ie the waist if elasticated, sleeves neck line, then if that passes and we but on receiving the material is normally texture.....

[DuchessDisaster]

Can you sew or encourage your dd to do this?
Alternatively do you have a local dressmaker? You could buy material and get it made up to suit your daughter's tastes and requirements?
FWIW my mother made me a dress for my 9th birthday, far too sophisticated for a 9 year old, but lovely. Black velvet, white organza collar with a small, lace trim. Very simple, very classic.
I cannot blame your daughter for wanting her own style.

[2boys2girls]

Material is normally wrong texture

[AtomicDog]

What about channeling Audrey Hepburn?
Black capri-length/cigarette trousers, boat neck top (either on it's own, or with a shirt underneath), ballet pumps/sandals.
Looks very chic, but still very simple, and hopefully conforms with DD's not-wants list.

[siscaza]

Duchess my mum used to make our clothes, seems to be a skill that has long gone these days. I fully support my children's right to express themselves through clothes (unless that means designer LOL!) but when there are so many hurdles to cross that can be a challenge. It's ok on a daily basis but like I said previously it's on special occasions that things get trickier.

The dress sounds beautiful BTW, I would have loved that as a child!

[averythinline]

If she's picked something then it maybe worth washing it a couple of times...before she wears it...you may get a few more wears out of it...new clothes have a certain stiffness even if jersey, dh/ds also always prefer clothes once they've been worn in a bit

these may not suit this occasion and they dont have a massive range but for those who have texture issues would highly recommend bamboo

bambooclothing.co.uk/category/kids

[CatOfTheWoods]

OP I just came back to say I've had an email from Gap saying there's 30% off kids today. Gap might be a good place to get something like trousers and a jacket or shirt and waistcoat (with converse would look amazing!).

[CatOfTheWoods]

(Also really like Trockodile's M&S link)

[siscaza]

Thanks cat :)

Just come back to thank everyone for all the suggestions and empathy . THought you would like to know we have purchased an outfit....

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We are channelling our inner yachtsman and going for the nautical feel with white trousers (M&S), blue and white striped top (Next) and a blue blazer (Dunnes) finished of with some navy blue moccasins (Vertbaudet).

Now we have the nervous wait whilst the clothes are delivered....

[siscaza]

Oooh I made a discovering today for unfussy, gender neutral stuff 2boys and birkie, Uniqlo online. That is on my go to list now I think along with BAM which someone suggested further up the list.

[siscaza]

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[OffTheBackOfALaurie]

Sounds Fab, OP!

At 9 I would also have refused to wear everything on the list on your OP, and most of it is still off my list now. I just don't do a girly look, ever.

I was a tomboy, probably still am, but have thrived well!

Fingers crossed.

[SoupDragon]

Hope it is all acceptable when it arrives!