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Top to go with long tulle skirt?

95 replies

flux500 · 07/03/2015 17:45

I have received this skirt today

www.asos.com/mt/www.asos.com/needle-thread/needle-thread-tulle-maxi-skirt/prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=4720648&clr=Cream&SearchQuery=tulle+skirt&un_jtt_v_frompage=0&pge=1&pgesize=50&totalstyle=23

this is for a wedding.

Can anyone recommend any ok the tops? also I kind of blew the budget on the skirt so something not too £££ would be ideal. do you think the vest top that is matched with it on asos? I like that it is shiny compared to the matte of the skirt.

any advice or help appreciated Smile

OP posts:
DorothyBastard · 07/03/2015 22:46

I have to agree with the consensus and say don't wear it, it's totally inappropriate.

burnishedsilver · 07/03/2015 22:59

Of all the colours, fabrics and lengths availably to you why would you decide on a long white tuille skirt if you're not the bride? You have a million other options.

TheCraicDealer · 07/03/2015 23:19

Wedding days are usually the one day you can get away with wearing a long white tulle skirt- however this only applies when you're the bride, not a guest. Even if she's ok with her younger niece wearing a bride-esque outfit there'll be plenty of chat amongst the other guests. That won't be nice for you or her. There's a knee length pale pink option, couldn't you go for that instead?

TSSDNCOP · 07/03/2015 23:39

It's not white, read the thread. The bride says ok is not clashing at all with her outfit. So back to the original question. An edgy top with a jacket/bolero not leather. Sorted.

No brides over 25 were harmed in styling of this skirt.

TheBuskersDog · 07/03/2015 23:45

I think the point is that the only adult people expect to see at a wedding wearing long light-coloured tulle is the bride, so even though it's not like the actual bride's dress guests will still think she looks to be dressed like a bride.

GallicIsCharlie · 08/03/2015 00:22

Agree with Buskers. I married (at 45) in a slinky gold number. One guest wore ankle-length white linen. She was trying to make a point, as it goes, but she knew I wasn't going to wear white and, anyway, I didn't give a fuck what she wore though a noose would have suited her.

But nearly ever guest collared me to say "I can't believe she wore that! How bloody rude! You're being very laid-back about it!"

If you want to be the cause of all those hissed remarks, flux, go right ahead ...

Didactylos · 08/03/2015 00:32

is this a new take on the minibride concept?

GallicIsCharlie · 08/03/2015 00:44

What's a minibride??

piercedprincess · 08/03/2015 01:08

Don't wear that skirt please. No matter what your aunt says you WILL look like you're trying to upstage her. It doesn't matter that she's not wearing tulle, you will look bridal to everyone attending the wedding. It's a lovely, lovely skirt but do yourself a favour and save it for another occasion, please, unless you don't mind whispers and stares and muttered under-the-breath "tsk tsks" at the wedding and comments every single time people get the photos of the day out.

I'm sure your aunt IS absolutely fine about it, it's more what everyone else will think that I'm concerned about. That being said, if your the type who's bold enough not to give a toss what muttery types think then feel free to go for it, seeing as your aunt's said she's cool with it.

Maraki · 08/03/2015 05:27

I know that I am the minority here, but I honestly think that the skirt is ok. I'd wear it with a simple black crossover top (if you have cleavage) or a black spaghetti strap top (if you don't have cleavage). IMO if you wear it with black it won't look bridal.
wear what you like OP! If your aunt is fine with it and you love the skirt, then enjoy it!!! Life is too short to give a toss what other people think.

GroundhogGirl · 08/03/2015 05:44

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MaryWestmacott · 08/03/2015 06:24

Op - even if the bride is ok with it now , it might well have not occurred to her that by wearing something bridal, you will end up being the focus of attention, not her. She will spend part of the day saying "oh I don't mind" at all the comments, rather than talking about her own outfit.

It's very rude to set out wearing something that you know will make you the centre of attention at someone else's wedding.

So, why do you think it's ok to wear an outfit that gets all the attention (mainly negative, but still the outfit that will be talked about, probably more than the brides) at someone else's wedding?

PetShopGirl · 08/03/2015 07:10

I think that with the right (yes, probably contrasting) top and styling it would make a beautiful wedding outfit and I would have been thrilled for someone to wear it to my wedding. So much more interesting than another strapless/body con dress from Coast/Karen Millen. I'm sure none of our guests would have had a problem with it either. Controversially, I also don't believe a bride can be 'upstaged' on her own wedding day, no matter what anyone's wearing.

However OP, I do think it might be worth paying attention to the consensus here as it seems I am in a distinct minority and to be honest it's taken me by surprise that people are so uptight about that sort of thing, particularly on S&B. Probably best erring on the side of caution in that case and choosing a different option. (Someone mentioned a knee-length pink version?)

kelda · 08/03/2015 07:15

Lovely skirt.

When I saw the link I assumed you were the bride.

What the bride is wearing is irrelevant. The skirt looks too bridal and even if she says she's ok with it, I wouldn't risk wearing it.

Quenelle · 08/03/2015 08:01

I know it's missing the point but if I were getting married today I would love to wear something like fatnan76's picture.

burnishedsilver · 08/03/2015 09:22

There's no need to chose something that you have to make a concerted effort to style it in a way that makes it look less bridal. Dont go there. Just wear something else.

Inkspellme · 08/03/2015 09:52

like a lot of the posters here I think this is way too bridal. gorgeous - but totally unsuitable unless you're the bride. Even if the bride and you know you are not trying to upstage her a lot of the guests and people looking at photos/dvd afterwards will think you are.

Your choice but I think the reaction of the posters on this thread will mirror the reaction of the guests and the people viewing the wedding photos afterwards.

DavesGrisease · 08/03/2015 10:05

I went to a wedding where a member of the bridal party wore a cream, crystal covered dress. She may have checked with the bride but I know one half of the guests were all aghast and commenting that she was dressed as a bride. You may look good, probably no one will say anything to your face, but there will be a lot of people talking about you. Do you really want to be that guest?

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 08/03/2015 10:50

Yes, I think that's the point - dressed as A bride, even if not THE bride.

I'm honestly aghast that you are still insisting that you are going to wear it. The only excuse for wearing fluffy tulle at a wedding at which you are not the person getting married is if you are either a bridesmaid or four years old.

SuperFlyHigh · 08/03/2015 11:57

remus I think the word you're lookjng for here is attention seeker! Grin

Having said that years ago I was about 18 I wore a red smart sort of 50s dress to a Hindu/Christian wedding. I had no idea red was not for weddings (it was my brothers guitar tutors wedding) my DM didn't tell me! I'm hoping that red must be lucky in Hindi. No one stared though!

CharlieSierra · 08/03/2015 12:12

Attention seeking is spot on. Maybe it's a wind up, all that 'oh dear it didn't occur to me it was bridal' - it's cream tulle ffs! OP if you are genuine, everyone will be talking about you - you know it - so your choice says a great deal about your character.

BallroomWithNoBalls · 08/03/2015 12:51

Oh no, no no no. Please don't wear that skirt! As someone else said, of all the colours, fabrics and lengths available to you, you chose that?!

You will be judged forever and it will not be good. Go for a shorter version, with contrasting accessories would be fine, or better still take a look at all these comments and go back to the drawing board.

Most of the time, dress however you want and to please yourself not others. But weddings are one place where what other people think matters and you should listen to kindly strangers on here before you make a fool of yourself irl.

Floisme · 08/03/2015 13:41

Your aunt may not mind right now but what about when the guests keep sidling up to her at the reception to ask in a stage whisper if she's ok? Or when the millionth person sees the wedding photos and cracks the same joke? Why are you even taking this risk when there's absolutely no need to?

I speak as someone who got married at 50-odd in a dress from Warehouse.

GotToBeInItToWinIt · 08/03/2015 14:14

I imagine the OP knows her aunt better than all these people on the thread who have never met her. Those saying 'seriously, your aunt is just being polite', have you met her aunt?

Greengardenpixie · 08/03/2015 20:11

Its up to her. She was asking how to style it, not if she should wear it!