DSS 25 yrs sneaking in new girlfriend....hmmn

[MRSVICTOR]

DSS has just came out of long term relationship, his ex would pop in say hello etc all normal stuff. Now DSS has a new girl on the scene, she's stayed over about 6 times now, each time they run up the stairs to avoid us and run out again in the morning. It's not that I'm adverse to her staying over as he is 25 but its the sneaking around I suppose....I know I'm a bit uptight so thought I'd ask for others views before I acted

I rented for the first few years I was working and do find the expectation of some parents and grown up offspring that your first independant abode should be a bought house rather than a small rented flat or shared flat rather odd.
Most of my friends went to university and rented for a few years whilst they saved up for a deposit. The staying with your parents whilst you save up (or don't and spend it all on sweeties or whatever) seems a fairly recent development.
We've all become obsessed with being homeowners and getting on property ladders.

seperate issues, first the introduction, my step son's second last GF was very shy and he would actually check the coast was clear before she ran to the toilet, gradually over time (and after drinking ) she opened up and we got to know her. I think it was a pretty unhealthy relationship though and was glad when it ended.
Second keeping other kids up when they have school, NOT COOL, if he want to make noise get a flat/house share, sorry its not fair while living with you to do this, you need to discuss this with him.
Third moving out, our eldest still lives with us, he's 22 his two younger siblings have got their own places, we will kick him fairly soon if he dosen't get himself sorted, he has been working for 3 years steady and he will just have to accept the drop in living standards that come from living in the real world, it might motivate him to work a little harder, allowing him to stay is actualy doing him harm, does he know how to budget, to shop, to cook? the longer this goes on the harder it will be for him to learn these skills, or are you planning on dumping him on some poor girl expecting her to take on the mum role?
More kids today are sharing and waiting to commit to family life, i think thats great, older parents are better able to cope, but babying him isn't helping.