Does anyone else feel like this? I feel like every week on the days DSC stay my mood instantly plummets and I just can't wait for it to be over.
I don't know quite how to explain it but the house just feels weird like there is a sort of stranger living in it for a few days and like I can't fully relax.
I am always friendly, I don't outwardly show this but I feel like the whole time I'm just counting down the minutes.
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Instant bad mood whenever DSC here
Doooolittle · 28/02/2024 19:46
NewNameNigel · 28/02/2024 22:41
I don't dread my DSCs coming over and don't see them as strangers in my house.
However, I have maintained my social life and often see friends on weekends. We also plan fun things to do with SCs rather than sitting in the living room til bedtime.
Doooolittle · 28/02/2024 19:46
Does anyone else feel like this? I feel like every week on the days DSC stay my mood instantly plummets and I just can't wait for it to be over.
I don't know quite how to explain it but the house just feels weird like there is a sort of stranger living in it for a few days and like I can't fully relax.
I am always friendly, I don't outwardly show this but I feel like the whole time I'm just counting down the minutes.
Bbq1 · 28/02/2024 23:27
It's sad. This is a genuine question:Why start a relationship with a man who already has children if you're not cut out to be a step parent?
Doooolittle · 28/02/2024 19:46
Does anyone else feel like this? I feel like every week on the days DSC stay my mood instantly plummets and I just can't wait for it to be over.
I don't know quite how to explain it but the house just feels weird like there is a sort of stranger living in it for a few days and like I can't fully relax.
I am always friendly, I don't outwardly show this but I feel like the whole time I'm just counting down the minutes.
TheCosySeal · 28/02/2024 22:17
Iv said many a time that having SC over feels like I have a stranger in my house who I can’t get rid off and I have no choice in.
Thankfully they only come EOW for 2 full days and 1 night so it’s not terrible but I wouldn’t be able to do 50/50 which seems to be a more recent thing then when contact was set up with my SC over 10 years ago!
SemperIdem · 28/02/2024 23:31
@Bbq1 most step parents don’t know they aren’t “cut out” to be a step parent, at the starting point. I’d say the very vast majority really do think they’re prepared for it, actually.
Parenting is itself, hard sometimes. Step parenting is a whole other world of challenge.
Pumpkintopf · 28/02/2024 23:45
Poor kids. You got together with a father. Presumably you'd want better for your own children should you yourself split up with their dad?
Pinkiepromise789 · 28/02/2024 23:48
At least OP is being honest. I would hate it also.. I think most people would..
'Blended' to me sounds like a myth that some adults like to say to make them feel better about their choices..
I am yet to meet an adult that came from a happily 'blended' home. It's convenient for adults but I've never seen it work for the 'original / previous' children.. of either parent.
Bbq1 · 28/02/2024 23:27
It's sad. This is a genuine question:Why start a relationship with a man who already has children if you're not cut out to be a step parent?
Doooolittle · 28/02/2024 19:46
Does anyone else feel like this? I feel like every week on the days DSC stay my mood instantly plummets and I just can't wait for it to be over.
I don't know quite how to explain it but the house just feels weird like there is a sort of stranger living in it for a few days and like I can't fully relax.
I am always friendly, I don't outwardly show this but I feel like the whole time I'm just counting down the minutes.
sprigatito · 28/02/2024 23:35
How would you cope if something happened to their mother and their father suddenly had full custody?
EOW isn't equal parenting, I'd struggle to respect a man who was happy with that.
TheCosySeal · 28/02/2024 22:17
Iv said many a time that having SC over feels like I have a stranger in my house who I can’t get rid off and I have no choice in.
Thankfully they only come EOW for 2 full days and 1 night so it’s not terrible but I wouldn’t be able to do 50/50 which seems to be a more recent thing then when contact was set up with my SC over 10 years ago!
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sprigatito · 29/02/2024 23:12
@TheCosySeal so....you know with 100% certainty that if your stepchildren lost their mother, their father wouldn't take custody of them? Yeah, I can see why you respect him
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