Struggling again this weekend with living as a 'blended family' and it comes down to the fact that he cares about his children, I care about my children, and truthfully we'd rather do without the other's children.
I'm sure this is at the heart of most other blended families issues.
I've heard two stories where the families were happy- but on closer inspection it turns out they only see the 'step children' for 2 nights in 14, which in my opinion is massively different from trying to live in normal life.
I don't want to be doom and gloom- so I'm really interested to hear of people who are actually happy living together and why.
From my side - living with the love of my life, no question. He is utterly wonderful every day. We both have 2 kids each - 10-14. All trying to live together- with a fair bit of back and forth to the other parents. But a lot of time in this home together.
On a good day - feels like we're flatmates. On a bad day - is really upsetting and stressful and affects my sleep.
Oldest two not showing signs of going to uni, and the assumption is my Stepson will never move out.
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Is anyone actually happy living in a blended family? If so why?
rainydays1234 · 04/02/2024 17:25
HelenaCh9 · 04/02/2024 18:14
I’ve got no extended family and I’m quite envious of my colleague.
Her parents divorced when she and her brother were at primary school in the early 1990s. They ended up with a step sibling on their mother’s side and two step siblings on their father’s side. They later had a little half sibling via their mum.
They all got on well and are still very close as adults. They all socialise regularly. In fact, the step siblings from each side get on well with each other too even though they’re unrelated. BBQs and Christmas parties at my colleague’s house are noisy affairs because most of them have had children now too. I get confused as to who’s who sometimes.
My colleague refers to her “brothers and sisters” and she doesn’t just mean the two who share DNA with her. It’s the whole gang. Her children see them all as aunties and uncles.
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