Stepdaughter reacts spitefully if we ever ask her to pay (more)/ put more money in the kitty.
She's 22 and still lives at home. Works part time and considers herself very busy and says she has a lot of bills to pay..
She earns about 1200 a month and pays just150 a month towards all our costs.
She has NO savings whatsoever.
She resents her dad working just 2 days a week (that's what she sees) in reality he is finishing off some consulting work and starting up a new business at the same time.
She does nothing in the house unless I specifically ask her to do something (eg chop up an onion / tidy up her shoes etc)
I do most of the cooking - the shopping (mostly online) and tidying up and all the washing except hers and her older brother. And (thank god) we have a cleaner.
It's really upset me this time - as she always chooses a spiteful action that will affect me and my partner.
She said I can't wait til I can move out. I had to literally bite my tongue not to say - then just go.. (but stepmums can't say shit like that can they lol)
I have to add that she can also be adorable and love her a lot.
I've told her it's no good ranting over what's app to me - she needs to sit down and talk to her dad if she has issues with him.
He adores her and has done more than enough for her but she only focuses on the things that aren't great and always twists a story to make dad look worse for example.
Her mum is not on the scene. In general me and her have a good relationship.
Stepmums - how would you handle this as I am feeling pretty resentful at the moment myself and feel like not doing anything else for her- no lifts etc ..