Background: I got together with DP after his divorce (I was not involved in their marriage break up which was due to his ex wife's Affair, for which she has taken responsibility) DP's divorce was not amicable. His ex wife made a lot of false allegations if abuse and drug addiction against him (which were proven to false) and as a result he was awarded 50/50 custody of his two children under 10 during a recent family court hearing. (Her proposal had been that DP see the children 4 nights a month and this was dismissed in court after cafcass report/drug testing etc found that he was a good parent and not guilty of any thing he had been accused of)
We had hoped that this would be the end of the animosity and constant struggling with her but this has proved not to be the case. She was told in court in no uncertain terms that she must communicate better, be more responsible as a Co parent and stop bad mouthing DP to the children and to anyone else who will listen. They have equal legal responsibility for the Children and should make all decisions jointly.
She has broken the court order (which is only two months old) in numerous ways already, attempting to enrol them in new schools without DP's consent, failing to provide information about their health etc etc....
These are all ongoing problems but the biggest issue currently is that her new partner is incredibly aggressive and belligerent, ranging from emailing us to tell us he 'sees the children as his own' and that 'he will make decisions about them when they are at their house' to constantly calling and messaging the children when they are with us, threatening to come to our house to 'have things out with us' when we have asked the ex wife to abide by the court order and on two previous occasions attempting to start a fight with DP in the street (once outside family court).
Yesterday evening during drop off in the appointed neutral car park he exited his car and began shouting at DP (who had just got back in to our car with my children). He began approaching the vehicle so DP got out as did one on my children (they at first thought something was wrong with one of DP's kids who we had just dropped off). He began abusing DP and then one of my kids.
We could hear DP's kids crying from
His car as they were obviously frightened.
I had been buying milk in the local shop and came back to see this happening-I asked him to stop shouting in front of all the kids and then asked the ex wife to please stop him-which she refused to do. A passer by then tried to intervene telIing the boyfriend to calm down so I took the opportunity to usher DP and my child back in to our car and we drove away.
The whole thing was awful as we were all a bit shaken by it.
We obvs have pick ups and drop offs to contend with for the foreseeable and tbh I'm quite intimidated and worried about how these are now going to go.
What if anything can we do? Emergency court order to ask that he not be present at handovers? Is that even possible? And it will take months I assume as the family court is so back logged.
We can't have any of our children witnessing this sort of thing on a regular basis-DP's kids in particular are already so muddled and distressed due to their Mums portrayal of DP to them- and this kind of thing will just make it ten times worse.
Has anyone any experience of this?
The whole thing was awful. We have logged the incident with the police.