Maintenance

[thebluehen]

Can someone please confirm when maintenance stops?

Partner is paying directly to ex wife through the CM0.

His daughter is 18 and in her final A level year intending to go to uni in September.

Why does this bother you OP?

It's usually payable until the month before they go to uni, so August. Could be different if court ordered.

It depends if there is an agreement in place. Most parents would want to support their child through uni. However perhaps the money should go direct to the child rather than the ex especially if the child is no longer living at home.

OP, probably if you look online you can find the answer specific to your state or country.

That will tell you when his legal obligation ends, only your partner can tell you about his intentions to contribute to his daughter's support as she continues her additional education.

Not all parents define their feelings of obligations around legal requirements.

This is a conversation better had with your partner. Is he currently using your resources to meet his obligation? If not, why bother to care about his expenditure of his resources as long as he is not expecting you to contribute?

I would assume that if he earns it, he should be capable of managing it.

It's usually until the end of August after their last year of alevels / college if it's through CMS. Private arrangements can be different.

Surely your partner will support her through university too?

@custardbear supporting his DD through university doesn’t include paying her mother, it’s at this point he can simply make a financial arrangement with his DD or offer to help with the costs of what she needs.

True - makes sense reading OP

Thanks for the replies. It doesn't "bother" me , I just asked a question here.

We've supported the last 4 of our kids through uni and will do so for the last one too, for those who are interested.

He's tried finding out online and directly with the CMO but couldn't find a definitive answer hence why I'm asking on his behalf here.

Thanks for the helpful responses.

@Bul21ia

Why does this bother you OP?

Maybe they want to switch to giving money directly to the daughter?

It’s a completely OK thing to ask. It’s a shame that the OP felt like she had to explain herself. Not that she has anything to explain!

How awful that a stepmum might be looking ahead to what future finances will be like and planning ahead.

Yes I agree it is important for a family to know what is what so they can budget and plan for the future accordingly.

Only on Mumsnet 🙄 @thebluehen just asked a perfectly reasonable question. No need for the snippy replies.

The previous poster is correct, it’s paid until August of the year they leave full time education same as child benefit.

Not sure everyone feels the need to jump on the OP! It’s a reasonable question.

Not every family can afford to support an adult through university whether it be step children, biological etc hence the option for student loans and part time jobs.

Here in ireland its up to 18. Or 23 if the children are in full time education.

I no there grants here ...you can apply for... helped put my own kid through college

It depends where they will be living post-18. Mine doesnt want to live with his dad and partner, so I will be picking up their living costs - ie food, utilities, broadband as a minimum. So why should the teenager-young adult get the money? I have told mine I will charge rent /bills when they are working. But they are not working. "Luckily" i have part-protection through a fairly shoddy court order that covers tertiary education. I dont receive maintenance now due to the usual fake 50:50 but will be able to claim if that ratio changes. But who wants to go back to court to enforce?

Where will your partner's daughter live during the very long uni holidays? Will he be happy if she has to take a job to pay her living expenses (at possible cost to her studying)? What is the best outcome for your partner's daughter - rather than can we stop paying at 18? (As that is actually your real Q).

@spongedog

It depends where they will be living post-18. Mine doesnt want to live with his dad and partner, so I will be picking up their living costs - ie food, utilities, broadband as a minimum. So why should the teenager-young adult get the money? I have told mine I will charge rent /bills when they are working. But they are not working. "Luckily" i have part-protection through a fairly shoddy court order that covers tertiary education. I dont receive maintenance now due to the usual fake 50:50 but will be able to claim if that ratio changes. But who wants to go back to court to enforce?

Where will your partner's daughter live during the very long uni holidays? Will he be happy if she has to take a job to pay her living expenses (at possible cost to her studying)? What is the best outcome for your partner's daughter - rather than can we stop paying at 18? (As that is actually your real Q).

So judgy. You think it's her 'real q' but it's clearly not if you read her other comment.

@ Getyourarseofffthequattro I did read the whole thread. Thank you. My questions are still totally relevant.

@spongedog

@ Getyourarseofffthequattro I did read the whole thread. Thank you. My questions are still totally relevant.

They're really not. You're projecting.

Depends on the agreement, my ex and his exw have it documented that maintenance is paid until the kids hit 21 although I think the intention was dthatbonce they go to uni ex's contributions went direct to the kids

It depends where you are. You’ve used CMO a couple of time - do you mean CMS or are you not in the UK?

@spongedog there is absolutely nothing wrong with OP trying to find out when maintenance payments to the ex stop. It is a simple factual question. The OP has even explained they couldn't find the answer clearly on the CMO website.

All our kids have lived either with us or in one case, moved out of mums and moved in with boyfriend in the holidays once at uni.

Mum doesn't provide a room for them once they are out of higher education.

She's planning on moving to another county with her new boyfriend this time.

We have paid for all their uni accommodation in the past.

We are in the UK, apologies if it's not called the CMO, but I thought posting "CSA" would show my age 😂

Then in that case. I would continue to support the child.
No money to the mother in them circumstances.