Hi ladies, I'm not looking for advice on how to resolve the following situation as me and husband have already spoken about it but I'm just looking for others opinions. I created another post recently and got some feedback that I didn't like (from swingofthings) but I stopped and stepped back and spoke with the other half and do you know what he'd been feeling the way she suggested and it really helped our situation.
So the new situation. My husband often takes the eldest to the cinema on her own. Last week he invited me to join them as it was our kid free weekend. I wasn't interested in the movie but in the interest of looking willing I accepted the kind invitation. Fast forward a few hours and he was telling me he'd not realised how much of a daddy/ daughter thing it was and so he'd take her alone another time. Basically, she wasn't going with him if I was going to be there. I told him to just take her anyway - some things aren't worth getting your knickers in a knot about, so they went.
From her perspective I totally get the importance of this one on one time and questioned this with my husband when he invited me but he said all is fine and I want you to come. My only concern about this is what message this sends to her as she seemingly has the power to get her own way.
I guess I would have been happier if he told her that he understands how she feels and the next trip he would take just her but we would all be going on this one. If she chose not to go fair enough then she'd be missing out. Although she did say well ill just get mummy to take me.
Do you consider this to be manipulation or just normal behaviour in families?