We have the DSCs every week from Thursday (at 6pm, not straight from school) till Sunday pm. They usually come over in their own clothes and bring their school uniforms with them, which we send back with the kids on the Sunday washed and ironed.
Today is a non school uniform day for 3 out of 4 of the DSCs and mum has packed up the dirty uniforms in a bag and sent them over for us to wash. So basically we have a whole extra couple of loads to do i.e uniforms as usual plus what the DSCs are wearing today. We only just keep on top of our washes as it is, as we have to dry the clothes on limited radiator space (they smell mouldy if we use an airer). BTW mum doesn't wash the uniforms at all during the week, they just get done once a week with us.
It often works out that between the four of them, one or other of the DSCs will have a non-uniform day every other week or so and up till now we've washed the extra clothes without fuss, but I think sending over three lots is taking the mick.
Am I petty for feeling annoyed or is she petty for packing up dirty clothes specially so we can wash them?
I think I know the answer but needed a rant 
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Snoozybird · 07/03/2014 08:47
Yes Ellie, I thought mots kids did have more than one set. I'm just going on my own experience though. But as a mum myself, I wouldn't not hand over a uniform to spite the ex. That would not be fair on my own dc. The pitfalls in SP'ing are endless 
Ellie like I said to duplicate four lots of "proper" uniform would be too costly for us.
DSC1 has been doing a course on Fridays for the last few weeks requiring he goes to school in own clothes, we've washed his uniform without complaint. So not being petty for the sake of it, just that three lots is taking the biscuit I think.
Having said all that I know IABU since I obviously should have forseen such situations when deciding to marry a man with kids
Snoozy, did someone say that? I love how that line gets rolled out. And for what it's worth yaNbu
Yes, - taking the piss indeed. I would have to say something along the lines of, of course you don't mind turning around a uniform wash when they come wearing it/are leaving wearing it - but if you send more than one change of clothes to wash it simply won't get done.
Obviously I understand this is easier said than actually said 
And I love the notion that your should buy a tumble dryer or 4 more sets of uniform because their mother can't be arsed to do a bit of washing over the weekend
QueenTea "boils my piss" 
Oh I love that! So many things DSC's mum does really boil my piss!
Why not put clothes on an airer and stick it in front of a radiator turning it occasionally? 
GreenGoblin the DSCs usually want to wear a different (nicer) set of clothes to go back to Mum's on the Sunday.
Meepers as said in my OP the clothes smell mouldy if we put them on airers, even in front of the radiators.
Cabrina DSCs mum doesn't want the DCs on the weekends as that's when she sees her DP (we've asked, she's said no).
I am also gobsmacked at the numbers of posters not allowed to do their DSc's washing 
^Meepers* smelling is believing
Agreed it's not right for the DSCs to send back the dirty clothes which is why I said previously we're doing them anyway. Was just interested to know whether I was reasonable to feel peeved by it, that's all.
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Another DSM here, with solidarity re school uniform. DP and I realised long ago its "the last frontier" for DSSs mum to give us grief. Pathetic, frustrating and petty isnt it?
We ended up having to write a letter pointing out she was only compromising her son's education by buggering about with uniform, witholding her set of uniform which left DSS short during our period of care, not sharing the burden of buying new school shoes, school bags every trick in the book (subtext, she earned about 3 times what DP earned at the time, bought new cars every two years but still wouldnt stick her hand in her pocket for her DS!). We "cc'd" her solicitor ( i.e. the letter didnt get sent there but it was an interesting result because all the shenanigans instantly stopped! What a surprise)
YADNBU snoozy, and its a bit of a rock and a hard place for you - send the clothes back dirty is likely to be inflammatory and may impact the DCs if she gets them involved - do the washing and it sets a precedent.
So did you end up doing it?
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