hi there squirrel, well where do i start?????
we sent her away for a week, so that we can have a break and she can get away from her mother. its been bliss, so far.
attended a meeting on tues pm with new support service, social work, family and dsd. the meeting was a farse. it decended into chaos as no one took control of the meeting the points we were there to discuss went out the window. i did however managed to get my points across, very diplomatically i may add,
-dsd must be listened to, her feelings must not be dismissed
-parents need support and education when dealing with dsd, eg, a plan dawn up that they and dsd agree on for when dsd is out of control.
-dsd cannot stay at our home when intoxicated, due to the effect this is having on younger silings. provision must be made for this situation.
dp will arrange a meeting between the new service and us to discuss our views then we will suggest the same happens with bm, then dsd, ameeting should then be arranged with us all, and new service will act as chair, provide an agenda, with an opportunity to discuss aob at the end.
i have also suggested that dp and bm use some sort of mediation to work thier issues out, because as long as they are at each others throats then their daughter will suffer the consequences.
so thats the story so far, i have missed a lot out, if i had included it all i could have written a novel. lol.
at certain points through out the meeting i had to really bite my tounge, i kept wanting to offer to pick bms jaw off the floor and pop her eyes back into her head, esp when dsd stated that she wanted to live at bms and only come to us once or twice a week. i felt so sorry for dsd at that point, as i know myself at that age your mum is a very important figure. and to be pushed away like that must tear dsd apart.:(