So annoyed with Stepson, I have to tell him off - how?

[W0rmy]

Now I have become accustomed to just how much he eats and have accounted for this when he stays by buying in bulk, and I know that he will raid the fridge and the larder and hunt down the reserve jar of chocolate spread so when I say "would you like some bread with that spread" - he can't smart arse me back with his knowledge of ample supplies.

BUT

When I prepare DHs packed lunch the night before I DO NOT expect it to be stolen from the fridge by DSS when he rolls in at two in the morning and is too lazy to get something for himself.

I was particularly irritated at 6am when I thought all I had to do is make a cuppa and a flask of coffee, only to find I have to make a packed lunch AGAIN!

AND the blighter is still in bed as we speak, I have already dragged the hoover down the stairs with the plug trailing and bouncing off every wooden step, and hoovered the entire downstairs.

Once I have managed to 'accidentally' wake him, how do I effectively tell off an eighteen year old with a sassy mouth?

allnew are you trying to get me shot? Do you actually think I, a stepmother, am going to call my lovely stepson a pig? yes he is a bit isn't he?

LtEve

They actually have eating challenges & forfeits you know. Like "if you get into X university i'll eat 6 BigMacs", the friend did get into the university and DSS was rubbing his hands with glee at the prospect of the feast. Apparently he 'could have probably done 8' but his friend did have enough money on him

I think Prufrock has a bit of a point though.

If he sees his fathers food magically appear in the fridge by you the sandwich fairy, maybe he just assumes its fair game?

Now im not calling you a stepford wife I know all family dynamics are different, but I dont think you can claim surprise if you prepare everything for another adult to the point of getting up at 6am to fill a flask and then be shocked at an 18 yr old who's seeing all of that being somewhat entitled

I dont think your step son needs telling off as such, he needs his father to show him that men are in fact capable of making their own food and filling their own flasks.

I don't agree at all. If, for example, DH makes me a snack while I am in the shower - is he a Stepford Husband, and should the snack therefore be fair game for anyone show sees it in the interim?

Bollocks

What's the difference between this and lunch? I start work at 7am and my lunch needs to be prepared the day before. Do I need to stick a label to say on it whether I or DH has prepared it? If I've prepared it, should DSS keep his hands off, whilst feeling it fair game if DH has prepared it? Very spurious IMO.

If I've washed some of DH's clothes, should DSS feel entiteld to wear them because I, a Stepford Wife, have washed them?

Again, very spurious.

It's all about respect. If you know something is for somebody else, then HANDS OFF. End Of.

If I see something in the work fridge but know that my work colleague has had his DW make it for him - should I eat it because I think she was wrong to do so??

amberleaf no he didn't assume it was fair game, - he knew it was his Dad's and he took it and ate it because he was too lazy and hungry to make his own - he admitted as much the next day.

I don't prepare everything for DH, he quite often cooks at the weekend, DSS has been know to throw together a pasta meal too, and through our teaching is learning to use a washing machine and iron his own shirts.

I get up with DH to help him get out the door on a cold work morning because he's my husband and we do helpful things for each other. Like he will put the bins out in the morning, - not because it's a man's job or I don't want to get my gingham pinny dirty, but because he's dressed to go to work and has shoes on.

He puts the bins out Wormy? . Are you both stuck in the 50's

He mows the lawn too.

And washes the car.

And dominates the BBQ.

And puts shelves and pictures up.

And fills my car with petrol and tops up the washer fluid.

Actually, no, those last few were a complete lie, I do all of those

oh..

I bloody hope you're ironing his shirts while he's doing all that!

Make a special sandwich - With 'blow the roof of your gob off' filling - leave it in the fridge. [evil]

oh, or - keep the sandwich in the freezer. If you take it out in the morning it will have thawed by lunchtime.

do the hot hot sandwich instead

I agree - put in some 'fuck me I'm blind' chillies and let nature do the rest :)

BTW, my DH makes me a cup of tea and my every morning, does that make him a stepford husband?

Really must tell him!

I don't know, but I know that DH would probably die laughing at the idea of me being a Stepford wife

I just don't see a problem with husbands and wives doing nice things for each other!

I always make DH sandwiches. It feels like a nice thing to do.

It's not a competition to see who does the most (although if it was I would obviously win) - we just do things for each other.

Actually the sandwich in the freezer idea is genius. It will be defrosted and ready to eat by lunchtime and will be safe from midnight DSS raids.
I often make my DP a jam sandwich in the evening for a snack, he could do it himself, but I do it because I love him. It's a lovely gesture to make your DH's lunch OP - you don't sound too oppressed and downtrodden, so I'm guessing you just do it because you want to.

My dad used to [now retired] make up a batch of sandwiches each weekend and put them in the freezer.

He also used to do his own flask at 5am

Freezing is a V good idea.

W0rmy your DH sounds perfect to me, very manly
I make all the food in my house too, but DP washes up every night. He does things for me and I do things for him, isn't that the whole point of being together??
But that is beside the point - greedy little sod. You should make him a 'special' sandwich for his next fridge raid - laxatives come to mind!!!!