Who wants to say....

[prettyfly1]

.......that bitter ex wives who behave totally irrationally and hurt their children with jealousy as a result dont exist....

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2088534/Why-Ill-NEVER-let-exs-new-girlfriend-meet-son.html

I think the point here is that mum's don't 'own' their children. Whatever I might think, or not think, about my ex, his girlfriend and the way they might do things, he is just as much of our son's parent as I am. We have joint parental responsibility and joint care of our son. Even though he sees him less than I do that doesn't make him any less of our son's parent.

My ex trusts my judgement and I trust his. Regardless of whether or not my ex's girlfriend chooses to speak to me is neither here nor there. Our son likes her and talks about her all of the time and is very fond of her. For that alone I give her my thanks.

I would rather my ex was in a stable relationship with someone who clearly cares about our son rather than him having a series of women in and out of his life.

Dailyfail at it's best. What a load of utter sh!te. Why don't they put a contradicting opinion on there!?

Maybe I should re-think "allowing" my DD to hang out with her stepmum. It must be very damaging for her to see her Dad happy and to have a funny, caring, kind woman around to look out for her when her mum isn't there. Poor love, it's abuse really.

And what did she tell the little boy the photo shoot was for?? Mummy's writing an article about how you're never, ever going to be allowed to have a relationship with Daddy's girlfriend.

Nice. That will make his life pleasant and comfortable when he visits his dad's won't it.

I felt a bit sick, reading that article. The woman is clearly psychologically unhinged and her son will not thank her as an adult for being a "Norman Bates" style mother.

What if her ex remarries? Will the new wife have to hide in a wardrobe when his son visits dad, and pretend she doesn't exist? Absolutely deranged. What if SHE the bio mum remarries? I expect that would be different.

We can gain so much from a diverse number of caring adults in our lives (as kids). My son has a good relationship with his stepmum. I'm grateful for that. Life's hard enough....having one more parental figure who cares greatly for him, is a bonus as far as I'm concerned. It doesn't undermine me, our mother/son bond or my feelings of adequacy. I'm his mum. That's it. But my ex-partner's lady is welcome to love my son, and he her.

I've just read this article and am gobsmacked. I first came on mumsnet as a non-parent myself whose DP has 4 young children, and am learning how to be a step-parent to them, albeit part time. If my DP's ex was like this, it would have made things so hard. Who is this woman to say that he exes new partner might not have a POSITIVE influence on her son? Just because a relationship has ended, both parties have the right to be happy again.
I actually feel that as a step parent type, I am a positive influence in the children's lives, aas their own mother can't really be bothered with them much, and the children would be missing out on a lot of positive experiences, if their mother would not let me be involved with them.
I may have moaned about my DP's ex in the past, but this article actually makes me think she's not that bad!!!