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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on SN.

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AS Teen Support

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AspieTeenSuspect · 05/04/2010 12:58

With a 17 year old that I believe has AS I would be really grateful if you very knowlegeable MNers could give me some on-going support.

Amber, you've helped me already - please carry on if you can and please anyone else chip in.

And...if anyone else is in a similar position I'd love to hear your challenges/thoughts.

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AspieTeenSuspect · 05/04/2010 13:30

So...to kick off then..

I think my son has AS
I don't think there is any way at all I could talk with him about it at the moment as he's very hard to talk to
He spends a lot of time on his own on the internet
His father left home a few months ago after an awful year (has OW)- during that year my son became more and more troubled and is in a mixed place right now
Finding it hard at college
Some drug issues

Today's question? Why does he put the heating on all of the time? I go to bed - he gets up in the night and puts it on because it's cold - it isn't! We have a battle in the summer.

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sarah876 · 13/04/2010 22:03

My son does that....when he is at home he walks around in he's pants all he time ( maybe this is because he doesn't like the contact of clothing on he's skin), and the consequence of this is that he is cold.Will also walk round with a quilt wrapped around him.

amberlight · 22/04/2010 15:44

How heavy and thick are his duvets? I sleep under two - it's the only way I can settle down and feel warm enough. Could well be an ASC thing - we're either too hot or too cold.

maryz · 22/04/2010 21:47

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AspieTeenSuspect · 25/04/2010 21:02

Hi Amber and Maryz and Sarah, thanks for your posts. Sorry haven't been able to get on here for a while.

Interesting to hear what you say about the heat thing. He does seem to like to be pretty warm in bed and I totally get the jumper thing. Doesn't have the issue with clothing on his skin though.

Things have progressed in some ways since I last posted. Although there is just no way I could talk with DS about this at the moment, I have sought some more advice from someone in the AS field and had it confirmed in their opinion (had to provide certain info on behaviour etc) that DS has AS. The mst significant thing he felt was the highly controlling behaviour - difficult to address the issues given the immense control being exterted. So, good to have met someone who can possibly help and to at least meet someone who understands the issues but scary also as the person I met discussed the risks with me also, which I course I knew mostly already, but never so easy to hear them confirmed.

Awful situation tbh. Trying to pick my way through it whilst giving DS all of the love I feel for him but equally tough when I feel like I am watching a car crash and need to do something to regain some control I think.

Maryz, I have seen your posts before and think that, sadly, there are some quite similar issues here .

I just hope and pray that I can support and help DS to get through this somehow (not religious but perhaps I need to be!).

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amberlight · 26/04/2010 16:01

What risks did they outline, can I ask?

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AspieTeenSuspect · 26/04/2010 21:39

Well, I'm not sure I can really explain too much here but suffice to say that he is anxious, depressed and there is substance abuse.

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amberlight · 27/04/2010 07:24

Would they be prepared to say that to (for example) a GP or other person who you feel could access the right help for your son?

Magicmayhem · 26/07/2010 17:40

Hi, Can I join you here... my DD is 14 and has social and communication problems,
I recently got some help for her behaviour via a caf and she was reassessed for aspergers.... we both filled in this questionaire and to get a diagnosis of aspergers you have to apparently score over 142..... DD got 141 even though there were a lot of questions that I didn't answer... the lady came back to chat to DD and tell her about the social and communication problems that she had... but didn't tell her.. so we all know that DD has a problem EXCEPT her... she thinks that everyone else has the problem!

they did advice me to join the NAS which is what I will do after the holidays.

my DD has some simular habits to your teens, she still sleeps under a heavy duvet if full pyjamas in this hot weather...
always wears a thick soft dressing gown round the house... tends not to get dressed in the holidays if she's not going out (which is acctually most days)

its her birthday on Wednesday.. I've asked her if she wants some friends round for a bbq, she does have friends, but only sees them at school, she still hasn't contacted them... so I doubt if they will get invited...

I've recently put a lock on my bedroom door as she come in and takes my stuff... ie make up, nail varnish.. its like living with the flat mate from hell. She hates to share her stuff and would go balistic if I just took it.

sorry if I've gone on a bit... its hard to see what is teen behaviour and what is AS.

curiouselle · 26/07/2010 19:33

I used to work with teenagers and young adults with Aspergers and have recently trained in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
For my dissertation I researched and discussed the benefits of CBT with young people with Aspergers.

I passionately believe it is the most beneficial therapy because it is logical and goal focused, which they can often engage with and can incorporate social skills and communication skills if needed.

If you can find someone with CBT training and a knowledge of Aspergers then I would use utilise their skills!

Hope this helps a little

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