Help with my dd15 please

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hi i recently made the above post and was directed here, does anyone have any advice on how to help her? Right now she is struggling mentally a bit, saying things like i wish i was normal

Hi I saw your other thread but haven’t read all the replies, sorry there were a lot.

I’d read up or look online about women and girls on the spectrum. It can have a different presentation in girls and so can be missed or a later diagnosis.
Read M is for Autism written by the students of Limpsfield Grange, a school for girls with Autism. It might give you more of an insight into your daughter’s world. Your daughter may like it too.

Re the eating look up Interoception. There’s a good video on You Tube. Your daughter may not know when she is full. It is a sensory difficulty.

School could be helping more with social skills as support should be based on need not diagnosis.

Re friendships someone mentioned finding new friends. There may be social groups for ND teens in your area and she might benefit from some of the activities or find new friends.

Post on here if you have more specific questions. Good luck with the diagnostic pathway.

I only read your posts on the thread you linked, so I may be repeating others, but request a meeting with the SENCO. Support in school is based on needs, not diagnosis and assuming the school is a state school, they have a duty under section 66 of the Children and Families Act 2014 to make their best endeavours to meet DD’s SEN. If the school refuses to support DD, follow the complaints process.

The school can support emotional literacy and emotional regulation and with things like social interaction and friendship difficulties.

The speaking loudly can be related to sensory difficulties. Not all ICBs commissions sensory OT on the NHS, but if your area does, request a referral.

The food issue could also be a sensory issue. Has DD been referred about her weight at all?

Don’t worry about rewatching childhood programmes. It is very common. It can provide comfort and stability,

Pacing is also very common and can aid regulation.