I haven't posted in this forum so please be gentle with me...
I have a 21 year old son who has always been quirky and different. Through school he was mostly OK. Struggled with coordination and handwriting, found it difficult to make friends and was allowed to do his exams on a computer rather than written. Got a dyspraxia diagnosis when he was 17 and that was no surprise to any of us.
Uni has been a massive struggle from the get go, he started in 2021 in Scotland when we were STILL under massive covid restrictions and he was online for all the year apart from about 5 or 6 occasions when he was in (socially distanced) for lab time. Despite this, passed 1st and 2nd year exams. Began to think there was more to the disorganisation and procrastination than dyspraxia and he started to investigate a ADD/ADHD diagnosis about this time last year, a consultant pyschiatrist agreed that yes, he had inattentive adhd. Again, no real surprise and looking back at his school reports from Primary they are full of "struggles to focus" or "requires prompting to stay on task".
Anyway. He has failed a module in his 3rd year of his degree and has been put in academic suspension for next year. This means he won't attend class and will have another go at the resit. We are very worried about him and what this means for him, something clearly needs to change as what he's been doing so far isn't working for him. He is looking at going back to the people who diagnosed him last year (privately) and discussing medication. Also things like tutoring, support, coaching. We're both (me and his dad) at a bit of a loss how to support him through this and what to do for the best - is it best to try to get him through this, bearing in mind that if he gets through this year there is a final year with harder exams and a dissertation/project to do, or encourage him to explore other avenues. I am most concerned that if he takes this suspension he'll just sit for a year in his bedroom and we'll be back here this time next year.