Not a huge shock to any of us really but I can't help but feel a bit traumatised by the appointment that led to the diagnosis.
Neither DD or myself warmed to the doctor. She was very abrupt (almost aggressive) and could be very hard to understand (heavy foreign accent) leading to DD getting confused and flustered as we often had to ask several times for questions to be repeated, leading to the doctor getting irritated with both of us. While I don't doubt the diagnosis, I feel at times she was putting words into my mouth. Most of the questions related to when DD was very young. We never had any concerns about DD until she was about 14 (when we thought she had post lockdown social anxiety resulting in CAHMS involvement) so my recollection of how she played with toys for example is very hazy. She kept repeatedly asking how she played with dolls and whether she would put them to bed, change their nappies etc and I said I wasn't sure/couldn't remember, which she took as a No. I mentioned she loved Sylvanian Families and had a huge collection which she noted as obsessive collecting but not playing with - I didn't say that! At times I felt like I was on trial and like a failure for not remembering such details("did she or did she not put her dolls to bed?!"). DD was clearly intimidated by the woman and became more quiet and withdrawn as the appointment went on, making less eye contact than usual. The doctor commented how timid she was, which she actually isn't usually!
As I said, I don't dispute the diagnosis but it wasn't a pleasant experience. DD says she's glad she knows but that's it really as she won't get any help seemingly especially as she's almost 18. Oh well....