Top tips please

[Sunnyjac]

Hi everyone

We’re back to school and the end of day/homework meltdowns have started again. Last night started as soon as she got in the car from the bus and finally ended at 11pm.

I got triggered and ended up so angry and shouting at her. Obviously not helpful and contributed to how long it went on for.

What I’m hoping for from you lovely people are your top tips for keeping yourself calm in order to help your melting down teen.

DD is nearly 14 and just started year 9. She’s been accepted as needing an ADHD assessment but the local provider is only currently seeing children who are looked after/referred by CAHMS/those under the youth offending team. She’s also been referred for autism and I’m trying to find out which black hole that disappeared into.

Thanks

Google Right to Choose. My DD needed ADHD assessment and we are going through Right to Choose. There is a list of private clinics who do assessments which the NHS then pay for. We are using one in Harrogate called Evolve Psychology and we emailed them to ask how it worked. They sent me a letter to give to my GP asking to use my Right to Choose. The GP then referred my DD to the clinic and they sent us a million forms and checklists to fill in. From the time they got them back it was 6 months wait for the appointment and the NHS paid for it.

Thank you, will get into a zone with that asap!

My top tip is feed, supply drink and then leave alone until they come and talk to you. Never ever ask how their day has been the minute they get in the car.

Good advice, thanks x

DD needs quiet in the car. I can take if she's talking to me. Otherwise I keep quiet.

My DD struggled massively with not being allowed to go to the toilet. Breaks were too short for her to get a drink and diverging to eat and the toilets were busy which was overwhelming for her.

School gave her a pass so that she could leave classes 5 minutes early, this missing the crush in the corridors and she was able to go to the toilet when she liked and use the quiet, disable toilet.

She was also able to go to room for SN DC at break & Lunch if she wanted to.

Thanks @SiouxsieSiouxStiletto these are useful to support her at school. I sent a long email to the Senco yesterday and she seems on board with things I’m suggesting