Wish she’d shut up…

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Currently on holiday with hubby and DD who suffers with ADHD and ASD. The minute we are sitting down chilling she’s asking ‘What are we doing later…’ ‘I’m bored…’…it’s driving me crazy!
Im sat upstairs why hubbies chats with her.
HELP! I’m knackered especially in this heat. Her body slows down very very quickly, wanting to sit but as for her mouth……on and on!!!
Advice anyone p,ease??

Fellow SEN parent here. Our child has both diagnoses (amongst many many other things!). I would begin with some reading on both conditions, they manifest very differently often and are something your daughter has, not "suffers with".
Mapping out what the day might hold really helps here. So each morning of holiday:
_We will have breakfast at **
-Then we will go for a look at the town
-Next we will go back to the hotel for a little rest
-LUNCH
-Next we will have a swim at * beach

Then as the day unfolds, you repeat activities/tasks using "Now" and "Next". No surprises then and your DD knows what her day may look like.

Respond to any questions in succinct, clear ways and encourage input from her perhaps limiting choices to two things.

It takes a while to adapt, but soon becomes daily family routine and really helps regualte the calm... and feels much more copeable for your DD. There are many books widely available on the subject of autism and ADHD in girls specifIcally, also worth following a few young adults on social media with a similar profile to aid your understanding of quite how your DD might be feeling.
Having no idea of what is ahead or expected can be extremely stressful for those with autism etc so open channels and clear communications are vital in aiding comfort levels.
Have yourself a lovely holiday and seriously don't sweat the small stuff. x

I agree: map out the day (roughly) so your DD knows what she's doing. Also make clear which times she needs to chill out and entertain herself, and suggest what she can at those times. (If she can't do that, find something that she can do which will exhaust her, or plan to do something together.) She may be uncertain about what's going on and not really be able to relax because of it.

You don't say how old she is - there's a difference between what you can tell an 12 year old to do and an 18 year old...

Feel your pain. Currently trying to pack and prepare for our holiday tomorrow. Trapped in 12 year old DD’s room who has a meltdown if I try to leave and just keeps asking what she can do whilst rejecting every single suggestion or idea.