This is not about me. I'm writing on behalf of someone. No I'm not able to help them financially/with a place to stay and they don't have other relatives.
16yo autistic and home-schooled, I'll call them A, is having various problems at home, but presumably due to stretched services and shit police, I'm not sure they will stretch to helping A when there are physical abuse cases/worse sounding cases. A would also not be suited to a life in care and is better off at home. I know that the mum truly cares about A. A has tried calling police and social services before who were useless and returned her home. Being vague about what goes on leaves a lot to the imagination so to name a few, their mum will explode at them over small things, not just shouting or yelling. She is truly unhinged from depression, I'm sure you can imagine what that is like, that she will not seek help for in case a social service referral is made. She has had problems battling them off before but won. She spends most of the day sofa surfing and relies on A to help around the house, not just a few responsibilities here and there. Although the mum can and still does things herself, so not complete depression where she doesn't do anything at all. Their mum is not abusive around them when around other people and waits until they are back home to lash out. They prevent A from collecting evidence by ensuring they're not holding any sort of device that could record her, she also checks and destroys personal diaries as necessary because she believes that social services could check them. Her pretence for this is something like 'This is my home, I'm entitled to privacy and recording is against my human rights. I have every right to check on A's mental health by reading her diary.' She additionally refuses A's allegations. The mums statement is somewhat true. A's mental health does take dips, The mum will blame it on a lack of sleep, staying up on devices etc. I can appreciate that teenagers do this but I believe it's partially because of her mums behaviour and the effects that has on her. Any problem A mentions is justified, A has no friends and is not allowed a social life because the mum is worried about potential trouble. Any friend A has had previously has bullied her. A obviously doesn't want to be bullied but would still like to socialise. A is also refused from being able to see her GP/attend appointments and the mum will write back to them to cancel, it looks as though A is cancelling because she is refusing to go. This is somewhat true, visits to them cause severe distress although A says they would still have chosen to go. I suggested a homeless shelter to. I have no experience of them and have heard bad things, but this was with the view that A get's an appointment to get them set up with somewhere to stay whilst they help A to get housing/benefits. she spoke to her mum to say that she would be leaving, who said that if she left she would call the police because she is a vulnerable adult and would not be safe, having had no experience. The mum has the right to do this and I'm assuming would likely get her way. There has been talk of moving over a year ago with an aim to get the house sold months and months ago so that A can socialise in a new area which the mum will allow. But due to the mums depression nothing is getting done in a reasonable time scale. A is getting impatient understandably, but the mum has now said that A is being abusive putting pressure on her to sell her assets so that she can have friends, that A is being impatient. I don't know what to suggest anymore.