For some colour into DS, has was diagnosed when he was about 9. High Functioning Asperger's and dyspraxia. hH attended main stream schools, suffered quite a lot of bullying and left with 2 GCSEs.
He has a job (they love him) and he drives.
The other day, I asked him to do some washing up. He did just his plate and his cutlery etc. He said he didn't hear me ask him to do everyone else's washing up (fyi, I usually do it and DD or DS put it away but I was going out so I asked DS to wash up and DD to do the putting away)
Yesterday I did some ironing. Before going out, I explained that I'd kindly ironed his bits (mainly T shirts. He did thank me) and asked him to make sure they were all hung up and away. I left them lying over the back of the sofa, neatly, one on top of the other.
When I looked later, he had hung his T shirts up but there were two (DH's T shirts) that had been just chucked back over the sofa, carelessly, and were now creased.
DS couldn't explain why he'd done it. I'm trying my hardest with him, to understand how his brain works.
Could it be the Asperger's? Or are these just signs of laziness and selfishness.
TIA