I have a son aged 20. I have posted about him before, possibly under another username.
He stopped attending school in about Y 9 due to extremely high levels of anxiety and he has engaged with little since then. It is more than likely that he has ASD (PDA), but he does not wish to pursue diagnosis.
His EHCP has not been reviewed since he was 16 and officially left school (or the PRU that he attended very briefly). However, this month, a social worker contacted me to ask if he would participate in a needs assessment. I spoke to my son, arranged a time, but he became so anxious that he cancelled the appointment.
Another appointment was arranged and the social worker arrived. My son hid and only spoke from behind a door to confirm his name.
The social worker left the needs assessment form, so I could familiarise my son with the questions. She will return in about two weeks.
My son has some serious mental health problems resembling OCD, chronic anxiety and an eating disorder. He is also socially isolated and not participating in any employment, training, education or voluntary work. He becomes aggressive or otherwise avoidant if any of these topics are mentioned.
I have asked the social worker (by e-mail) how social care may help him, just so I can put forward one or two positives and so the questions have a purpose. However, I have had no reply.
Should I just let the social worker visit again in two weeks time, and face the same response as last time? Would you say that the whole needs assessment thing, after all these years, is simply a way of ticking a box and, quickly, getting my son off their books when he (perhaps inevitably) refuses to engage in the assessment?
I am worn down by it all, and fear that my son will remain mentally unwell and completely isolated until something awful happens.